would you tell your children about your spouse's infidelity?

Respect for parents,as much as possible, should be restored. Whatever is the reason (infidelity or not), let the children know the reason but in a way that their mind could already process and understand. If they are adults already, they may or may not know. But if these are just kids, i guess, that is still not the proper time to let them know of the infedility because there would only be one reaction from them and that is hatred...which should not be the case. Remember, it takes two to tango. When it's time to know the reason, both sides of the parents should be heard by the children.

First it would depend on the age of the children if they are young then no they should not be told. IF they are adults then I think they should know the reason that they are not going to be together any longer. My inlaws are seperated right now and they know that their father had betrayed their mother but they are both grown and in their 30's. SO it all depends on the family. Respect should always remain first and formost nobody knows what truly goes on in someone else marriage

I know a friend gone in the same situation. They have 2 kids both in grade school. For me, it depends on the age of the children. The mother told the ind fidelity of the father, but the same time, she told about the divorce, but with explanation that it is better for them to know rather than to see him with other woman surprisingly. She even told the kids that it's better for them to separate as friends rather than enemies. And whatever comes, he will remain him as their father. Now the kids are both at legal ages and still have good rapport with both their mother and father. They even go out together in occassions. So probably it's a matter of how you will give reasons for the situation. Perhaps it is better to hear it from you rather than from other people.

I don't believe I would tell my children of my spouse's infidelity. That should be something discussed between two spouses. If my spouse wanted the children to know of their discretion, that it would be allowed.

If they children were of age to understand. If not, it's best not to shake their world with that information, solely because they do not understand that. Not if they are capable of grasping the situation with adultlike perspective and understanding then yes. If they hated the spouse, that's they're decision.

i would say your father dont love me anymore so we will get divorced.if i said that he cheated maybe my kid would hate his father or be very angry and i wouldnt want that. is not bcs hurt me that means dont like the kid so i wouldnt put my kid against his father. i would just say that he didnt love me but that would visit him, my kid, always bcs his father loved him^^ there are things that we can avoid to tell kids^^ mostly if they are young yet.

No. The spouse remains their parent. My view is going to be biased and I don't want them to hate him. Its up to him to tell them the truth and its his responsibility. When my parents broke up, my father had told me about the other woman.