Am I right to feel like this?

If i was you i would simply tell him that next time he is going to call me to meet me if he has time and desire to see me and my daughter.Thats it no phone call again.Let him take steps towards you instead you trying to get his appointment.

I am not sure exactly what to tell you. My father and I kind of met again after years of not seeing or talking to each other. Before I called him the first time, the last time I saw him was when my husband and I went to get something out of my mom's building and my dad happened to come by. Then my husband was just my bf, and my mom said "well aren't you going to say something to your dad?" and I said "Hi" and he said "She doesn't have to say anything." My situation was that I was told bad things about my dad, not that my dad didn't do bad things, but I was told in a way where it seemed worse and even now I am not sure how bad it really was. I was scared to call my dad and tell him I was getting married but luckily my husband and his mom convinced me, my mother didn't really want me to call him. I did, and now while we don't talk to each other every day, he did call me on my birthday, and I can call him whenever I want. I think maybe your father is sorry about what happened in the past and that maybe he's scared to get to close thinking you don't want to see him, and that maybe he's afraid to get to close because he's afraid to hurt you. Other then on my birthday, my dad doesn't call me. Partially because he doesn't know when to call but partially because of the years we lost because of the things that happened.

I can only tell you that if you have big expectations of other people, you will be hurt. Accept whatever he can give you in the way of a relationship. Be sure to always let him know he is welcome in your life, but then MAKE a life for yourself, your husband and your daughter. As long as she is stable in her relationship to you and her dad, your daughter can deal with her grandpa only being occasionally in her life. He is not good or bad for how he is handling this, he is just being himself. My first husband had a friend that we saw maybe once or twice a year, and then he also had several brothers that we saw about that often. To my kids that was normal, and they just thought that the friend was another Uncle. Your daughter will take her cues from you. If you are sad about all the times you DON'T see your dad, she will come to view him as a person who makes you sad. If you are happy about the times he is around and just let it be at that, she will be happy about those times as well. In your shoes, I would probably set up a regular time and call him, every week or two weeks, on that day, at that time. You would build a tradition with him and he would not feel like he had to make excuses the moment you called. My grandchildren live about twelve hours from us. We usually can only make one trip to see them a year. They come here about once a year. This year it has been more, and I feel very fortunate. You are lonely right now, anyway. I know it would make you feel better to have more contact initiated by your dad, but do not be disappointed, or you will not enjoy the times he is available.

In 2005 I moved from one area to a different place. It is a six hour drive depending on traffic which could make it much longer. I miss my old friends and particular places in that area. I lived in my house for almost five years. Then this year I moved to my bungalow. It is in the same area therefore I can keep my friends this time around. I think that you are still adjusting to your new location. I believe it would be valuable for you to make more new friends and visit local places of interest. Your dad seems busy so I suggest you try to see him six times a year. You could offer to meet him half way between your homes. If he is married than maybe his wife is staying the excuses for him why he can't see you. Good luck to you. Maybe an enjoyable day out will make your dad keener to keep meeting up.

You could maybe try taking it easy for a bit and actually see if he wants to be there for you if he still carrys on then do what Is said above but I would make it clear that once he has made his decision to see you or not then that is final! I hope this helps

This is a very tough situation because your fathers history has shown that he has not been there for you in the past. Because he is your father and your daughters grandfather, I can understand your desire to not rush to a decision of cutting him off after not having him in your life for so long initially. I would say it's time to be totally honest with your father and tell him how you feel exactly the way you have told us here on this forum. Sometimes the best way to get through to someone and make them realize the severity of their behavior is to be brutally honest. Playing devils advocate here, I want to hope and assume your dad doesn't even feel that it makes much difference to you whether he comes around or not so maybe thats why his effort is so half-hearted. In any case, he needs to know the deal from where you stand because you have indeed been subjected to enough abandonment at the hands of your father and it's time that he change his pattern of behavior and begin to actually show you that he wants to be in your life. Caring about someone means more then just saying you do periodically,,, it must be SHOWN WITH ACTIONS so I would say you need to expect your father to show you he truly does care and that he wants to rebuild a relationship with you and your daughter. I sincerely hope it all works out for the best for you :-)

I would end the relationship with him before your daughter decides she wants him in her life. If he isn't making it a top priority then he doesn't deserve to be part of her life. It will be easier to end it now than later.

I can say that don’t stop calling him. After some time the gap between you will be filled. Patience will always help. He is not coming because he might be feeling that you will get troubled. I think you should speak to him clearly that why he is doing so. If he is not willing to talk then give him his space. I feel life is short and less time to cherish and enjoy. If we have a bad feeling or memories keep them aside as life wont stop for us.

Family is important in our lives. Family is the strength and comfort we seek when we need it. It is only right that you should feel hurt or discouraged when a family member makes excuses not to communicate with you. I would still keeo trying to build the relationship. hopefully a change for the better is coming soon.

well if the feeling is not already there then why stick on such relationship, anyway you have your daughter with you, so you dont have to worry. Just let him out in your life.

Maybe you can visit him and tell him what you really feels, that you really miss him and wants to be more closer with him and to your daughter.