Role of Parents to Marriage Children. Cause of Broken?

on my own opinion problem occurs when married couple stays in one roof together with the parent of either side. in laws tend to be of control with the couples life even though with the decision they make specially with their children. Basically parents will be there to guide us on married life but most of the time they forgot that we are already grown up & have a family of our own. it is much better that they let their children to run their life on their own & be there if the couples ask for their advise.

hello friend, It is true that children must leave their parents once they get married. But,parents role doesn't stop by the time their children get married. It is a beginning of new stage of parenthood. Parents are their to support and guide their kids for the new stage in their life (married life) Parents should not interfere ,but can give suggestion only. Let the new married couple find and discover what's behind the married life. My parents are always there when i need them,they're always supportive (sometimes sermon is given free too hahaha) But i am happy to say that,my parents never stops being a parent to me the day i get married. Have a good weekdays ahead

You know what, life isn't scripted. We never know what will happen to us or what kind of shenanigans we will get into. We think that the people that we meet, and the loves of our lives will be the same people several years down the road, but then you find out that that isn't the case. After children are 18 or 21, they are on their own. They can make their own decisions, and mom and dad can't do anything about it. Some people maintain great relationships with their parents after they are married, but some people don't. Then again, some people lose a relationship with their parents long before they ever get married. Take my boyfriend and I for example. My boyfriend and I have pretty good relationships with our mothers, but we have zero relationships with our fathers because our fathers wanted it that way. My father could have been in my life, but he chose not to be. My boyfriend's father could have been a better father by not physically, verbally and mentally abusing him, but he chose to be a monster, and so he lost his relationship with his son. If my boyfriend and I get married, our mothers will certainly be involved in our lives, but our fathers won't be in the picture.

No, I don’t think parents should interfere in the lives of their children, at least not in today’s society. Hinduism and Indian culture has a different take on this…boys stay with their parents even after marriage in a joint family… the idea being that the newly weds get valuable guidance about life from the parents, the kids have a wonderful childhood with grandparents and cousins all staying together and the aged parents don’t have to live on their own… However, nowadays both boys and girls are very independent minded and financially stable so most of them don’t want any guidance from their aged parents. Also, there is a huge generation gap and it becomes more difficult to adjust. In such a situation, its best to stay separate.

I can only speak for myself. If my children need my advice or want my help when they are grown up and married, they have only to ask. But I will do my best not to butt in and push myself into the middle of their affairs.

As parents to our children, we should give them the freedom of independence the moment they decide to get married. When they have decided too, it means they have prepared themselves to start their own family. As parents we should stop meddling with our kids marriage affairs as we now become a part of an extended family. We should only give our support and sound advice when they seek one, but we should never force it upon them, since they're old enough to make decisions by themselves. If our kids still live in the same roof with us, we should still respect their decision making when it comes to their NOW immediate family and try not to interfere.

It depends entirely on the family. Different people get along differently. For example, I'm still extremely close to my mother after being married over 2 years. I still spend a lot of time at her home. She is extremely supportive and is like my best friend and she's helped us a lot when we needed her. My husband, on the other hand, has had almost no contact with his family since he moved out of their home over 4 years ago. They're terrible people and treat him like dirt, we don't want them in our lives.

Yes, it is true as what Ephesians 5:31 says " For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh." This is the problem that a couple face when they still live with their parents. They would somehow not experience living as couples who are responsible for their own family. It is really not good to depend on parents. As married couple, try to stand on your own and be of help to your parents and not a heavy burden to them. The parents are there to support their children but please try to live a life which is roof away from your folks.