Is it Easy to Change our current Nature ???

@akp100 (13640)
India
October 17, 2010 8:33am CST
hello friends All people having different nature.. So someone can adjust with others and some may not.. If somebody is having nature who get exited and angry early in normal things then is he can change his nature !!! is it easy.. Personally I am little shy and I always feel uncomfortable in communicating directly with others first time.. But after knowing any person i always interact calmly and without a problem. My family members always told me to change my nature and to remove shyness from my nature.. I know It will be good for me to remove shyness from my nature.. But i am trying and I guess its hard to change our nature that easily and that fast.. What do you think about it.. Is it easy for you to change your nature.. I guess its quite hard for everyone as I rarely see people change their nature..
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@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
17 Oct 10
I'm not one who will ever change my nature, sweetie. I believe you should be accepted as you are. No matter what your nature. Some find it hard to change, i cannot see the point of that. TATA.
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@akp100 (13640)
• India
17 Oct 10
Well if you having same nature with real life too then no need to change it... I guess with me i just need to remove shyness during face to face discussion.. As i do feel uncomfortable in first meeting..
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@saphrina (31551)
• South Africa
17 Oct 10
Okay try this then. Whenever you meet new people, imagine they look like a pineapples or something. Just don't start laughing when you talk to them.
@akp100 (13640)
• India
17 Oct 10
How can i stop my smile after imagine them like that... I will feel hungry after that kind of imagination..
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@vandana7 (100531)
• India
17 Oct 10
Hi akp - it will go with time. Dont worry. At your age, everybody is a bit awkward. Since different people grow differently, some may seem bolder. Hang in there, things will definitely improve.
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@vandana7 (100531)
• India
17 Oct 10
And one more thing - it is possible to change our nature - to an extent. I am trying to "lose" my temper or control it as everybody would call it. :)
@akp100 (13640)
• India
17 Oct 10
Better you will able to control Sapy's temper above.. its going to burst..
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@akp100 (13640)
• India
17 Oct 10
Yes its surely improved then before.. But I guess you are right it will improve as time pass.. Yes some are just opposite from my nature.. My sister is quite bold in this matter. She never feels uncomfortable during interaction with strangers..
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@elmiko (6630)
• United States
18 Oct 10
no, i don't think its easy to change our nature but it can be done. if one sticks to a routine for 20 days its been proven to become a habit.
@akp100 (13640)
• India
18 Oct 10
well.. Habit and nature is totally different thing.. We can change our habit in 20 days but its really hard to change our nature in that short period .. yes its not impossible but i guess its need more time..
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Oct 10
I think you can change your attitude, your behaviors, the way you treat people, etc., but your basic nature, no.
@akp100 (13640)
• India
27 Oct 10
yes... its quite hard to change human nature which they are carrying from starting.. Yes attitude and way to treating people can be change in short time but nature.. i guess its quite tuff work for me..
• India
17 Oct 10
I don't think it's easy to change anyone's nature. It would be very difficult and then it's the nature which we have earned. It would be a herculean task if you ask me. Nature depends not only on us but what all we have inherited from our parents also so that would be quite tough to shed it out wouldn't you agree? So i would say we are not just any creatures or chameleons that can change colors as easily as that. It would take time and thinking also because each person's nature is unique. People think differently about different people. So that also be taken into consideration. I don't know abot others but i won't be able to change things as easily as that. Cheers!
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@akp100 (13640)
• India
18 Oct 10
I am totally agree with you... We gain our nature from our parents as Heredity .. And surely its not an easy task to change our nature.. Its not impossible but surely it can't be change instantly it take lots of time..
@dapy17 (74)
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
We share the same problem. During my college days it took me more than two years before I adapted to my environment. I'm very timid person especially to my new acquaintance. I hate it when they say that I am timid. And I want to change my attitude. That's why I read self-help books and apply advices I get from it for me slowly overcome shyness. Currently I'm still on the process it's not easy to get away from the things that's already part of yourself.
@akp100 (13640)
• India
18 Oct 10
Yes its surely hard thing and we can't change our nature that instantly.. Thats good that you are working on it.. And yeah i am working on it too.. Yes taking advice from others and book is good idea.. Hope i will also able to overcome from my shyness..
@richiem (3644)
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
Yes, I also think it is hard to change.
@akp100 (13640)
• India
18 Oct 10
yes i guess its hard when we forced to change it .. And sometimes it changed as time passed with experience..
• Canada
18 Oct 10
The nature of self usually changes by itself when we go through certain experiences in life or when you are put in a situation where there is a need for change, and you will experience that change of nature without you even realizing it. Then again, if you want to change your nature by your own means and ways, its usually difficult to do it as you have mentioned.
@akp100 (13640)
• India
18 Oct 10
Thats really well said. Sometimes it got changed even we don't realize it but if we force to change our nature that surely it will be hard. I guess too hard.. So we should give more time to it.. And better it change as per our experience ..