When you had enough of him but can't leave him..

I say you should leave him if you realy want to.If he doesnt want to let you go that is just too bad for him.It is about how you feel not him.If it is a really bad situation you should definately get out of it.Its not my business but that is my opinion.Sorry if im not much help to you.

Quite frankly you are not the only one confused. In another post you were talking about an on-line boyfriend who you could not meet with because of the cost. Now you say you are married and want out. With one exception this is how I lost my first wife. She too found an on-line boyfriend but he was local. I am not a controlling person so event hough it hurt me very bad she moved out and I divorced her. My feeling was that if she does not love me then why in the world would I ever want to stay with her. Your husband is not your keeper. You are a separate person that only allows her husband to control her. He is doing this because he doesn't trust you but for some reason still wants you around. My current wife spent many years with her first husband in a situation much like you describe. She just could not see how she could leave. But it got to a point she knew she had to do something. One day she packed up, took her daughter, and went to live with her mother, several states away. That worked only for a little while because he found her of course. It came to a point where she had to disappear. She had a friend in another state many states away so went out to be with her. That worked. Do not let your husband control what you do. He will continue to do that until you walk away. You can, and you must. The only real thing that can prevent that is financial. If that is not a factor then why are you still with him?

Is there any abuse, violence or adultery in the relationship which makes you think you need to go or is there just arguing and not feeling the same way you used to. I would suggest that unless there is some mental or physical abuse to try to work it out. This is just my opinion since I think marriage should be treasured. If he's not abusive to you or your family, then I think you can try to work things out. If not to stay together, to bring him to an understanding that it would be the best for you. I would suggest counseling with a doctor or a priest/pastor. But you'll need to be tough if you want it to work. If you look back and try to find what you love about him and it's still there, there could be a chance. But if you really want to leave I would suggestion taking the step. Open a bank account solely in your name and look for place. Get the lawyer and the paperwork together to file legal separation. Stay with family if you need to and tell as much people as you can that you want to do this and have some support close to you.

Sounds like you are in a tough spot. But it also sounds like two things: 1- you don't really want to leave and 2- you haven't really had enough! Because when we have really got to our end and really have had enough there's nothing strong enough to make us stay!

Is it legal in your country to leave your husband? Is annulment or divorce legal? If it is then you should leave him. I have read other post and you said he had committed sins towards you. I really think that you should be assertive of your right to have freedom. I suggest that you should go see a lawyer and talk over matters. So that the lawyer will have charges pressed against him. Living with him will just make both your lives miserable. Not to mention your children's lives miserable. And will lead to more and more problems. This maybe a tough choice. I think that it is pity for him that you are still sticking up for him. Do you have any children? I really think that this would be a tough situation for your children. So go talk to them about the situation of you and your husband. In this way they will be able to understand the situation. It is all in your hands to decide after all.