How do I get rid of depending on people............?

diamania! Don't upset. After a long passage of your journey to life you will face so many incidents. We have to stand independently on our own foot. The girl just exploit you and after a time she has shown her face. Your life is yours. No other has the capacity or strength to weaken. Yes, temporarily we feel uneasy, mental disturbance but our inner strength must help us to overcome. Be steady my friend. I belief that you have the strength. As you wrote," daimania is going to grow up...". I hope and belief you do it. My wishes with you.

diamania this is a tough one for a person with such a caring nature. No matter how much growing up we do we still have the hope of having our caring nature reciprocated. Sometimes we just have to plainly and simply let go of the person we care for as this, from what I remember the previous discussion has been a person that matter how much you have tried you simply continue to get hurt. You have to trust your instincts sometimes. It is very painful friend I know as I face the same dilemnas and I still continue to persist on helping others above my own feelings. I too could use some help in this area, but can advise you that although difficult we must learn to just let go but at the same time still continue to care for people. It is quite simple to be like some people and say Awh shucks send her to you know where, but it is not simple for people like us, we sometimes just do so much for others do to our own insecurities. A freind loaned me a book and audio tapes from Dr. Wayne W. Dwyer, titled exucuses be gone. I am looking forward into strengthening my mind whereas maybe just maybe I will learn to let go and not take too much so personal. Good luck hon, I know this has been bugging you for a while.

You have to control your feelings.

I tend to be very dependent too and not assertive enough. The way I'm tackling this is to find something that is really important to me that is not a human. I am focusing on studying and painting right now and putting this as my priority. This helps me tell people I'm busy and lets me get focused in myself and my work rather than of people. It will add to my confidence too because the things I learn and make will never 'leave' me like people. And you can find people who are similar to you this way in the same fields and these relationships will be healthier than the one you had with your friend. Good luck!!

You said you helped her a lot, and then you said you were dependent, I am confused man. Okay lemme get this straight, this b1tch has been clinging on you the whole time then one day she started staying away from you, and you being a good friend, tried to track her down and only ended up knowing that she does not want you around anymore. What should you do about being dependent then god don't depend on her, only depend on your self, why do you need her anyway? are you disabled? cant you find another girl, I'm sure there are like a hell a lot of girls out there in your place, wherever you are. Lesson to for the day stay away from potential b1tches that clings on you.

I am a very dependent person too. Will anybody tell me what to do to be independent?

diamania has to read books or listen to music, dont let her topic peep in mind and do whatever that pleases you...either keep busy yourself on net or listen to music..

this only shows that you need to move on. i am sure there are a lot of people who are better friends than that. my wife is a very friendly person too. she loves all her friends but whenever she feels that a friend needed to be alone, needed her space she gives it. i guess your friend needed her space. then give it to her. move on now diamania and still be the sweet and caring person that you are. dont change just because other people are like that. there are others out there who will appreciate you.