Would you have an arranged marriage with someone chosen by parents?

it's not for me to judge other cultures and their beliefs but i find arranged marriages barbaric

Wow good for you that you ended up with someone you love, even if it took time. I'm not against it because as you've said, both of you have to agree first before proceeding with the marriage. It's just that you're lucky that you love each other. I don't think others are fortunate.

probably not, unless i met the guy and then liked him then i might go on a date with him .. and if we hit if off them keep dating which might end up in marraige. i am glad you found a nice partner in this marraige.. and that the two of you hit if off so well that is great im happy for you... your parents must have good taste and you are lucky they picked someone you can love... take care

Here in my country arranged marriage is not the usual thing when it comes to marriage. If you asks me,no,i will not going to marry someone who i do not know. Maybe we can met and if i like the guy,we can have a trial period of knowing each other. Date and know our compatibility. It's not easy to live my whole life time with someone totally stranger. So,i won't go for an instant arranged marriage.

I am glad you posted this as I wondered with the arranged marriage cultures how people actually got along when they are complete strangers. So I thank you for enlightening me as I was under impression it is what it is and people just never spoke about it. Sounds pretty difficult to me but bless all who can and maybe just maybe I being from US and not in this form of arrangement obligation, knowing that it is not an obligation can assess from the outside. I often wondered if because you are raised in this manner you just never had a say and conformed to the custom and well that is why it is not difficult for your culture. See being from a non-cultural of this form I suppose we have been given the freedom and that is why we find it out of the question for us that is. So I completely see how it all works out in the end that you all basically learn from the beginning and do exactly what the marriage is intended compromise and work things through. Congrats to you by the way. As for me I do not think I could do it as again I suppose have been given the freedom to choose it now becomes difficult to opt to do something out of obligation and or cultural ways.

In my opinion, quarrelling and fighting in between the husband and wife is a very common issue. This might be the way they exchange their opinions. ha! ha! ha! But each of them must keep in their minds that their utmost concern is your commitment and your obligation to take care of your whole family inclusive your children. You can fight, you can quarrel, but you never allow the Third party to join in. I have seen an older copule never communicate to each other after their fighting and quarrelling. Each of them were still taking care of the family very well. They were still willing to take care of each other during certain cases. It was just because of the family and their children. As what I knew, they were arranged marriage couple too.

Now I understand why and what is into arrange marriage. Most of the them are going to know each other first then go for marriage right after they like. At firs t it was hard to cope up but later it will be fine. And time will come they fall inlove and later was hard to separate the love or life. At first to think that it was arrange and you can marry the person you d not meet before was really hard to convince our self to go along with him in one roof. But if the outcome was god well it would go over and over as this is their tradition.If that was good at the end i go for that. have a nice day!

I don;t think that i could go along with a marriage chosen for me by my parents. i wouldn;t be happy if i was obligated into a marriage. i would want to choose the one i marry for love.

Nope I don't have, and I don't want one, nor I will do it with my kids. I know parents knows best for their children, but this is one thing that parent should not intervene.

I won't agree with that kind of marriage. I believe that your perfect partner is not the one that your parents have chosen. It's awkward to the both of you having a fixed marriage well in fact you still don't know each other. But there are really others that survives in that kind of marriage and you're one of it. ^^

. ofcourse i wont.. i'll never let my parents choose my partner in life . its a lifetime commitment. its never easy at all . .wat if ur not happy to the person they chose for you. so , u wil just suffer for so many years . hmm. that kind of parents are so selfish . . they dont care bout the happiness o f there child. .

i don't like that, i want to choose my husband tobe, and my parents respect my opinion. maybe i'm a lucky girl. because many parents want their children to do what they ask for.

I think arranged marriages are far more successful than marriages arranged by both the woman and man involve. In India, I presume that there are less divorce cases because of this tradition. Parents know better than their children so I think it's very right that they are the ones who select the partners for their children. There are lovers who are very much inlove at first but then when they get married they fall out of love so what happens they got seperated. For me arranged marriages are far more better. How about you mylotters?

Arrange marriage is fine as long as parties involved have the right to reject. This is quite similar to match making services many resort to when they do not have to time to search.

Nope I don't have, and I don't want one, nor I will do it with my kids. I know parents knows best for their children, but this is one thing that parent should not intervene.

I think arranged marriages violate the human right of free will.I would prefer to make a mistake choosing the wrong person and regret it after instead of my parents decide it for me.

Hi! I guess in theory I wouldn't agree to an arranged marriage but it also depends on who my parents would find acceptable. If I could choose amongst a few families and see who would appreciate me for me, then I wouldn't feel as bad because I'd still have some degree of a choice. I am glad that you and your husband were able to work things out--first few years are hard on young families but if you really work at it and listen to each other, then there is a good chance of it working. As I am somewhat newly married (3/10), what do you suggest?