Cheating Truck Driver

He admitted to you once, and once should be enough. If he's willing to do it once, I always think they're willing to do it again. He's just a fiance at this point, so he's not yet your family. It may seem harsh but it could save you some problems in the future. You can't ask him to change his job, especially in this poor economy, he's lucky to even have a job. But he needs to understand that HE needs to prove to you that you should be together. I would make him beg and plead if he really wanted to be with me. If he didn't fess up until it happened, then it means he's willing to hide things from you and that's not good for a marriage. He'll just hurt you in the end so cut him lose now or he needs to start changing. People come and go in a persons life and you shouldn't hold onto him just because you have no one else. Unless he's willing to work out this relationship, you should probably end it.

Hello gadgette82, first I want to say I feel your pain; however, I was the one delivering the blow. I was married for six years before, but I was gone alot from home. I was in the service and maybe was home four months out of the year. I cheated on my wife and greatly regretted it. This has been a few years ago but are now divorced. The problem was not loving each other. The problem was I didn't want to leave the service. I never cheated on her again, but because of my refusal to leave the service to be with her, it ate her up. You see, she eventually forgave me, but in the back of her mind, I was still messing around. She tried going through my emails to find information about who I was talking with. Now, I can't blame her for doing so, but the damage was already done. We still talk often because we have a child together. I am still in the service but my contract ends next year. Maybe we can rekindle after a long layoff. My advice to you is to let him make his own mind up. He already knows that it will be in the back of your head. He could find a job that brings him home at night, but the question is, will he consider quitting his job of running the roads. Someday he will look back and regret what he has done. Believe me....I have.

For me personally...it wouldnt be the cheating that would set me off..it would be the deception/lying to me that would have bent out of shape..I could care less if my man sleeps with another woman UNDER TWO KEY CONDITIONS...#1 TELL ME FIRST that you are goin to and #2 WEAR PROTECTION AT ALL TIMES!..as long as those two things are met and of course his out of home fun time doesnt cut into our finaces, personal time etc AND #3 its NEVER brought into OUR home then yea I wouldnt care.... now all that said, the fact that your man DIDNT tell you about it and probably wouldnt have if you'd not busted him, that would make me think twice about takin him back into my bed/home....I think some long talks would be in order first and he'd have some major proving to do to me on several levels...THEN I'd make my decision...

I am sorry that you had to find that he was cheating. Not all of the truck drivers are like this. I have family that are sooo married it is nice to see. Problem is I was also engaged with a truck driver and he also admitted to cheating. Thing is after he was caught our relationship changed, I felt I couldn't trust him out there on the road. So he agreed he would get out of the truck. Well, a month went by, a year went by and another, still in the truck. He says he doesn't feel he could do any other work. To me that was his excuse not to commit to what I thought we had. No we are no longer together. I forgave him but he didn't come back to middle ground of our agreement. We didn't make it to the alter.

My motto is once a cheat always a cheat and every guy that cheated on me, I always left them and never returned. No matter how they begged and pleaded for me to take them back and no matter how much they claimed that they would change. I just would not take them back. This is a decision that you will have to make on your own. Are you willing to give him another chance and see if he will remain faithful or do you want to go through the rest of your life wondering if he is cheating on you. Yes he can change jobs or whatever, but if a guy has an opportunity to cheat, whether he's a truck driver or not, he's gonna cheat. My advice is, don't take him back. He was supposed to be your fiance right, and I'm guessing he loved you right? Well then, if you love someone then you aren't going to go and find some other person and cheat on the person you love. Good luck and whatever decision you make I hope it works out. Trisha

Love is a complicated matter, and anyone who has ever experienced it knows that. But as people say, men will always be men. They all have weak points and temptations that strike them when they aren't careful. You say your fiance said he did it only once, but what's to stop him from doing it again? And you have always had this feeling that he's been cheating longer than he confessed, so what's going to stop him from breaking the pattern? It all just comes down to love. And trust and commitment to each other. If your fiance loves you as much as he says, he'll make changes for you, like transfer to a job where he stays in one place just to please you. As for your other alternative (quitting his job and being home everynight), it's not really a man's option. Guys are fulfilled and secured when they have a job, so they won't settle with not having one. I guess the best solution is to talk things over, know each other's priorities and just talk about your future, if you both are keen to continue this sort of relationship.

Check this out! My husband has never cheated on me in 27 years. I would leave him. But he told me before we were married that if I cheated on him he would just be very disappointed! What??????

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