Have you Ever Noticed???
By oschantz623
@oschantz623 (46)
United States
October 18, 2010 11:15am CST
Have you ever noticed how the kids in the world today are more demanding, lazy, and selfish? I have!! Only because I live with one of the most biggest brats there possibly could be! Don't get me wrong, I love her to death and will stand by her side when she needs me but she had got the worst attitude in the world. If she doesnt get what she wants, she begs and whines about it. Do any of you remember what it was like growing up? What would your parents have done if you begged and pleaded for something in public? Did you ever get grounded or punished?
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13 responses
@smile_ayu (47)
• China
19 Oct 10
I don't remember that my parents published me because of my vaxation.They always expained to my brother and me to make us understand which is not right.
@joey_matthews (8354)
•
19 Oct 10
It's easily noticeable.
I think the worry thing is the fact that the standard of parenting as also dropped, I'm tired of seeing a three year old yelled at and dragged around just because their asking questions or due to walking a little slower. I personally think the issues how people treat the children of today :)
When you sit them down to watch tv or a game system because you want to avoid quality time then they will only pick up your habits.
Down the line the more things become worse the more changes we'll see in terms of kids being idle and doing nothing. It's harsh to say it starts and ends with parents but it's the truth and sometimes that does hurt the most.
As a kid I got punished very easily, my parents was strict and I can't thank them enough for being the way they have been with me. The way they was fair, if I did something then I knew about it but I was behaving myself I was rewarded most times and I think more parents should look at being better.
@iwrite (5034)
• Singapore
19 Oct 10
I think it is a crime on our side as parents, if you do not take control of the situation then the kid would take control of it. As a parent you have to differentiate between love and discipline. There are times you need to show them you are the boss and ensure she knows you mean business.
Never Beg or pleaded him/her to do what is right. Stand firm and be stern when you talk your child. Make him/her understand there is going to be consequences and punishment if he/she keep up with this.
I think it would take time but once he/she understand you are the boss, then he/she behave.
@Noclindley (26)
• Philippines
19 Oct 10
Tell me about it, I have 4 year old son also my husband keep telling that dont spoil him.I least now his tantrum is gone but you know when his 2 years old if he dont gets what he want,he just rolling in the ground.And mostly i dont bring him in the store.Kids this generation they very demanding is like their mind is fully develops.
@BeingSavannah91 (20)
• China
19 Oct 10
Well, though no matter how much I wanna refuse admitting, things stand up as some provements. Kids are spoiled by parents and grandparents. It seems the older forget how to raise kids, especially when it comes to the punishment. I am not badly spoiled by my parents, at least I think I am not. I don't do scream-at-the-public-for-a-toy thing. I don't wanna humiliate them in the public. I don't want their conpromise.
My cousin is relatively different in some ways. But he is sort of better than other kids.
But of course, we have some other shortcomings.
@allyoftherain (7208)
• United States
18 Oct 10
I was a little bit spoiled growing up... but I don't think I turned out bad because of it. I never begged or pleaded for something from them especially not in public. I've always had a great relationship with my parents, and I've even nagged on them for spoiling me.
I don't think the whole of today's generation is spoiled. At college I know loads of people who have utterly NO family support and have to work their tails off in order to stay afloat. They're not lazy, and they're not whiney! But I do know people, though they are few, that I think were spoiled and turned bad because of it. They feel like the world owes them something just because they exist.
@nijolechu (1842)
• Canada
19 Oct 10
IT really is sad when you see someone else's child begging and pleading for something in the store. I remember I was a little spoiled as a child when I wanted to buy a certain food when I got to go out shopping with an adult. But they wouldn't spoil me all the time. Other times they would say that I am lucky that I am not living in a 3rd world country because they don't get all the nice things that we do. SO then I would stop whining and complaining about not getting a certain thing and really cherish the life and things that I do have.
@TheAdvocate (2392)
• Philippines
19 Oct 10
My mother says that we were all behaved growing up. We did not cry or whine for toys growing up. Come to think of it, I cannot remember a time when we had that kind of trouble. I guess because my parents would tell us before leaving if we can pick a toy or something. If we had no extra money, my mother would tell us and we just accepted it. My parents were actually generous because if we liked something, they would buy it if we had the money, or save up for it and give it as a surprise.
My nephew, thank God, is not showing signs of brattiness. He understands the concept of "we have no money for that" and does not insist when he is told that he cannot buy a toy. What he cannot understand is that why he cannot buy a toy when he has money but the store is still close. I also like that is easily satisfied with cheap toys and will not insist if the toy that he likes is too expensive. I guess its a matter of discipline.
@stanly012992 (241)
• Philippines
18 Oct 10
Hi oschantz623,
Nowadays, mostly of the children are not in a good situation because the main reason of it their parents or a person forget to monitor them permanently. Even the parents really love their children and have a good concerned about their kids as long he didn't monitor well it can really cause a big problem. It is important to monitor the kids always even to his/her friend because it can aslo the reason why your kids act not good. You must give the right discipline so that she/he learned a lesson on it.
Have a nice day.
@NoWayRo (1061)
• Romania
18 Oct 10
I don't remember having such problems with my parents when I grew up, but truth is, I lived in a society where there was very little you could possibly want and beg for. As a child, I used to ask for juice and doughnuts, but now my parents tell me I behaved myself well when they told me I couldn't have any.
In a way though I admire kids today. They feel they're worth more, and they're not afraid of demanding it. I'm not sure if they're right or not, but it doesn't matter that much, it's the first step in obtaining more from life.
@Krizz420canada (531)
• Canada
19 Oct 10
Me and my girlfriend talk about this all the time. I can remember when we where kids if we mouthed off or misbehaved in anyway would get punished and smacked. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying its ok to slap kids around but when we where younger I think it was the fear of being spanked or slapped that kept many of us inline and respecting our elders. I don't what happen to kids but I do know things don't seem to be getting any better.
@jklein09 (74)
• United States
18 Oct 10
Apparently as a child I would throw the BEST tantrums (and by best I mean.. probably worse than your daughter). My parents were not poor, but they did not spoil me. I think that it all has to do with how you responded when your child was an infant. For example, if you watch Modern Family... one of the characters adopts a baby and tries a strategy which is when the baby is sleeping, after she has been fed, changed and rocked to sleep... if she wakes up in the middle of the night, he completely ignores the cries. Though i do not approve of this technique per-say... I believe that by not frequently caving into her cries, they are creating her personality. By completely ignoring her cries, that is just unheard of and is a bit extreme. However, back to the question at hand. I was punished for my actions, but it was a "time out" or "stay in your room until ______ is done or until _____ o'clock"