How Do You Date Someone You Are Not Attracted To?

I don't think I can date anyone I'm not attracted to. I would just say no thanks, because I wouldn't want to be dishonest.

Once you get lonely enough, the decision will just come to you. You will probably lower your standards and have some fun for a while but like the old rule goes, whenever you are single, all the good ones are taken and whenever you are with someone, all the best singles find you. Go into every relationship meaning to make the most of it. From my experience, you can never win the pot. You always have to settle or if you are lucky, maybe some one will settle for you. Hang in there =)

Well, its pretty easy. You should not date them if they are attractive to you. What was the point dating people who you do not like, Can't you find an attractive girl for yourself? Need you wait to be approached by a girl?

im sorry for you yes sure we need to find a guy that has a good heart but attraction is very important in a relationship too bcs all relations need chemistry, love and attraction^^ and someone looks gives us the chemistry and the attraction too at least a part of the attraction^^ about me i never liked guys so attractive but didnt make me any difference bcs i dont care much for looks^^ i like funny guys actually and that are sweet and caring too^^ so i dont really care if are good looking or not but yes chemistry is important^^ and if you feel no chemistry is bcs the guy isnt the right for you^^ choose a lover that can give you love but chemistry too^^ wish you the best^^

In my opinion everyone has different taste and thoughts about what attracts them but I ask you, if you are not attracted to them, why date them in the first place, why not simply go out with them as a friend instead. At least then they know where they stand with you to start with. Just a thought.

It happened to me a few times. I have to accept to myself, the girl I date must not be too "ugly", I should like her at least a bit, else what I should be seeking in her? Not all persons like us the most, some have some nice things, some have others, but often a single person don't has everything we like to see. I just go with the intention to know her a little more, to see if it's worth to sacrifice a little phisical attraction for a good relationship. Many times the most beautiful girl will not like you, and that girl of our dreams will no apper of the sky :D so we must do our best to be with those that like us and we are attracted to, at least partialy.

Some years ago I met a guy on an online dating site. We exchanged several letters and we discovered that we have many of the same interests, ideas and beliefs. We seemed to have a lot in common and after a while we decided to meet. He lived in another city and I went there by train. He picked me up at the station and right from the first moment I knew that I wasn't psysically attracted to him. We spent some time together, went for a walk, talked etc, we and got along just fine, but I still wasn't attracted to him. I guess I thought that my feelings might change if we spend some more time together, but they never did, and we never became more than friends. I don't need a handsome partner, but I need to feel attracted to the person I am dating, otherwise it just doesn't feel right.

I understand where you are coming from because i feel the same way! Most of the guys that approach me are either just not my cup of tea, but they are really nice to me. I guess you can say that i feel that we have no chemistry because i just don't feel my heart leaning toward him, like there's no pull factor, this guy is just nice. Like you, i'd like to be both physically and mentally attracted to my future partner. He doesn't have to look like Brad Pitt or something. Usually, i would tell the guy that i really find him nice and all, but honestly, i feel nothing for them. I would be honest about it because no one likes to be given false hopes that there's something there. Just let him down as 'nicely' as you can and just add on that they will find someone who will be mutually attracted to them. :)

It is difficult to date someone you are not attracted to. if the physical attraction is not there, the date already can seem hopeless. A date will seem longer if it is one you really don't want to be on. Dates where you have no attraction are usually ones you didn;t set up for yourself.

i have this problem. back in high school and now. although i do have a boyfriend which i am physically attracted to. guys who i'm not physically attracted to still talks to me. i know this happens to almost everybody. but back in high school especially. i was still nice, in letting them know we could be friends. but i just couldn't date somebody i'm not attracted to. plus, i have an image to uphold :) lol

Yes, I did that before, I date her not because I like her or she's pretty, but I date her because I like her to be a friend. Take note she's not pretty and of course I'm not attracted to her. But I treat her as special.

I know exactly how you feel because I'm pretty similar. I'm not looking for the prettiest girl in the world but I do want someone I enjoy looking at so to speak. I know it sounds so shallow but for me there has to be some outside beauty. For your problem well all I can suggest is just becareful not to get yourself into a relationship with them. If you do you will be miserable and eventually hurt the other person. Better to be up front and honest in the beginning then let something drag out and risk hurting each other.

hmmmm, what can i say? well, i think you could be cruelly honest and don't hurt the person deeply. it would be best if you could be directly honest, tell the person that you don't actually like to date him/her, he or she would better appreciate it than give the person false hope. stay attractive though to have that someone you're attracted to ask you out for a date. :)

Well... You are right. Beauty IS a factor in dating. We women spend so much time on our trivial little vanities to make us look good; so it would be quite insulting if someone who um, doesn't quite seem to match the standard of handsomeness we set for in a man, approaches us. We tend to think, don't I look that good enough to be with someone handsome? In my case, I am very tactful and polite, but also assertive... And I don't act in any way that would make the person think I'm rude; or that I have intentions to carry on a relationship with him. I just define my boundaries clearly; I say that I appreciate the companionship and friendship, but it ends there. Be tactful, polite, and not rude. That's it. And when he presses you for more than what you can give, call the police! Hehehe. You're beautiful, girl. Stick it out for the right man! :)

Ya! the same thing has happened to me also a lot.. But after experiencing now I try to ignore myself from them. Its quite hard to handle this type of situation haha.

its not healthy for me dating the guy that i dont like, much better for me to tell the guy frankly in a nice way. its better that way.

I think you should think about yourself first. In the world, we should love others, and know who is your right person. But if you date one by one, and you do not put into your love at all, you can not find one until you do not want to date any more then, marry one. The intereting thing is also popular anywhere. one point for you. if the one is good, marry now. life is short and enjoy your marriage life now.

Actually we really are more predisposed to liking people that we think are attractive. That's the way it works. Sparks first before really knowing each other's personality. For that, its really normal to feel like that and there's nothing wrong with that. But I do agree that if at the get go you don't find them attractive, why do you have to have a date with them? Or make the impression that there will be something romantic in the future for you. IF you're looking at these other women without romance in mind, why not be friends with them instead. Just don't go out on a romantic date. At least there will be no pretensions right? As for dating someone attractive enough for your tastes, why not ask somebody you like out (not the other way around). A little confidence goes a long way. IF you believe you are worthy of someone attractive then act like it. The first person that should believe that is you.

It happened to me once or twice just to give it chance but in the end we both got disappointed because i made him believe we have a future relationship. He is a good person but the spark is not there. I guess it is better to say no.