Open Letter To MyLot Admin - It was my Birthday And No One Wished Me :(

Well I'm not totally heartless

Thank you...a sense of humor is essential for this job, lol. As for the friend request, I receive literally dozens of these per day. I'm afraid I can only respond to them in the case of an issue that has arisen and then only on a temporary basis, long enough to deal with an issue a user may be having. If you sent one because of an issue since I started using the account, and I missed it, I sincerely apologize. Send it again and I'll see what I can do to help you.

Hi Alice, First, I am honored to get a response from you. Really I am excited. True that you cannot attach the cake to the email and send it across but your warm wises do reach me now. And that feeling (at least for me) is wonderful. I know I might sound ridiculous but yes, I am an emotional guy who gets attached with many people. MyLot has given me and many a place where we share many of our personal feelings, problems and things that normally real friends do. So emotional attachment is somewhere got to happen. If it was a real world, I could have send invites to friends and let them know about the birthday. But on this world, I think many would agree that it is not good manners. So I cannot do that either. Being a webmaster myself and a web programmer(php) I do realize that it is something that is difficult at the point when you have over 2,000,000 accounts to manage and handle. I also agree that the computer generated sent emails are at times cold. But this is what I think I should mention - On every members preferences page you have options that control a lot of things especially emails. Similarly on the edit profile you have a control whether the profile wants to share the DOB or age. I have a suggestion here (technical maybe) - but on the notifications section you can put up whether the profile wants to get emails/reminders of b'days of friends. Thanks again for responding and I hope that the tech team would solve out the issue is given a small gentle push - they too would love this personal touch. Regards, theSids.

I guess many don't celebrate birthdays the way we do.I have a friend who's family forgot it was his birthday and he didn't remind them! i thought that was sad! My Lot may never acknowledge birthdays but I Do! So try to calm down about this and have a great day!

Hi Sarah, Thanks for wishing me. And what is more touching is the mention that you have noted down this date and promise me a wish next year. I hope by then something good will happen here and they would start sending emails/reminders to all friends. I had hoped that many would participate in this open letter but the results are saddening to me... Maybe it is only my emotional side that was on a high. Never mind, I got to adapt here and I would. Thanks again for posting and supporting the matter. Have a Great Time, theSids.

That was sad sarah. Family forgetting the birthday.... I wonder how would that have affected me. It is really sad to know. I am happy that the guy didnt remind them, maybe they (the family) would realize their folly and make the coming Birthday something more special. Have a Great Day, Cheers, theSids.

Hi eshaan, Thanks for your birthday wishes and dont feel guilty about it as it is NOT your fault. Yes, my name is Sid (a shortened version but now it has become my identity on the Internet and I am happy to be known by the name - theSids or Sid.) You can call me Sid and I would be happy. I know that it should not be hurting when friends forget but there is a difference in forgetting and not knowing. No one here on MyLot knows when is the birthday of your friend (unless they take pains to go to the profile and keep a note of it) or you know the person from other sources - a real world friend or a virtual friend from other website or chat. Maybe many dont believe in emotions and sending wishes but I do and so I believe that there would be a few more like me here at MyLot. I would love to wish so many of my friends here at MyLot just because we have been sharing so much personal things between us so why cant we share birthdays? Thanks for your wishes once again and Cheering me up. Take Care and Have a great time, theSids.

i too am like you who likes to wish and also to get wishes...but i feel only for few real ones...not all from the social sites....becoz most of them are for formalities...but yes...you get hurt when someone special doesn't wish you...so i have made a habit to think that who i am that people will wish me...and when you discover on your b'day that for how many u r soooo important...then you feel happy...never keep expectaions Sid...again an advice from someone elder than you ...don't be over emotional or sensitive

Thanks eshaan, to let me know that I am now in that special list of yours. I would be careful about my being over emotional and over sensitive... I know somewhere within that Expectations are not good for me or anyone... But at times, the heart just rules me.

Hi spalladino Thanks for wishing me a belated birthday. I knew that this might be against the rules here and also am aware of the fact that the site is more about discussions. But my point is that if they can send us emails related to all the discussions, why not have a feature plugged in so that the users can select to be notified of their friends birthdays? That way we can also extend out friendship in deeper sense of the term. I just want to point this thing out that if there are so many people out here, why not try to bring them more closer - given - if they want to? Thanks for responding to a thread that you believe is a violation and in that case might get removed. Cheers, theSids.

In my opinion, which is sometimes wrong but I give it anyway, (lol) this discussion is not a violation because you did not post it to announce your birthday, which has passed, but to raise a legitimate complaint and to make a legitimate suggestion. I just don't believe that mylot will add the notification you're requesting.

Hi spalladino, Thanks for the update. I know that things on websites are hard to change and also aware that such requests would generally go un-noted. But still, I wanted to try my luck. I believe a better option would have been to email or contact the admin directly because the number of responses recieved till now, indicate that there are many many mylooters who dont want this feature. Thanks again, Cheers, theSids

Hi dear, Felt so sorry that your whole effort messed up with the unhappy surroundings. However, it is good to know that you find your good time alongwith the orphanage people, which I appreciate your effort on it. As you said, Chaitanya & Alisa are not seen now. Chaitanya may come back, but I am not sure of Alisa. She is like so childish and a student having lots of studies and interests in many things. Once the pleasure and exaggerations end up, she may slowly move away to new things and I hope, she will come back after a break. Hope all are in a good share now. Regards, Thank-s

Hi thanks, Yes, Chaitanya is expecting a baby and so I understand that she would be back but after a long time. And for Alisa, she responded to my PM that she would be back sometime in November and she is occupied with her studies. I expect all my friends to be back soon and rock the MyLot. Cheers, theSids.

HI Cherry, Welcome to MyLot dear. Thanks for your wishes and support to my point of view. You would find mylot quite interesting and informative. As you might have already realized, it is more about discussions and participation. I hope that you would make many great friends here and it would be real good to see a person with your attitude around. Have A Great Time and Happy MyLotting, Cheers, theSids.

Hi Tomitomi, You know what, I am quite happy now and the feeling is great. I think that this discussion has helped me reach out to my friends and they have all supported my idea. What more can I expect from them as a gift for my B'Day. Thank you for your sweet support and wishes. I hope that Alice(Admin) would look into this and consider the matter... after all it is to make MyLot more interesting and bringing friends on the virtual world more close. Cheers, theSids.

I couldn't agree more. Great work!

Hi Yspml, That exactly is what my point is... There are a lot of social sites and the competition is tough. I know that MyLot has in these years earned its brand name and value, but still these small features can help the site keep update with the modern times and be more fun and humane. After all it is about members and their relations. Thanks for responding to this post. Cheers, theSids.

Thanks Paul, I know its none of your faults - in fact none of my friends fault. It just happened that I want to put this thing up to the admin so that they can think of this side too. I know my friends and the people here at MyLot, if they are aware of someone's birthday who is their friend, they would always stand up and wish even before others think/do. Thank you for your wishes. Cheers, theSids.