Could you date someone who does not speak your language?
By maezee
@maezee (41988)
United States
October 19, 2010 7:17am CST
And by this, I am not asking if you are for or against interracial dating, I am asking you this: if someone LITERALLY did not know your language - and you did not know theirs - is it possible to start a relationship? I watched Love, Actually a couple of days ago and this question has been bugging me since. Colin Firth and his European maid in this movie end up falling in love, and the whole time up until then, they are (hilariously) communicating through actions, facial expressions, and totally misinterpreting each other. In the end, he attempts to learn her language and learns how to ask her to marry him (which is terribly romantic).
Do we really need WORDS to fall in love with someone?
Have you ever felt a connection with someone that strong - even though there's such a communication barrier between you two?
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16 responses
@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
19 Oct 10
I dont think we need words..lol when me and my man met.. he couldnt really speak english..he just know thank u,and I love u.. I cant even speak his language.. when we met we just stared each other....lol coz we cannot really talk to each other...its a good thing he has some friend who can speak ennglish..but when there were times that we cant find someone...I dont know we just understaand each other..its so cute sometimes he even draw what he want to say..
the funny thing is when he will get angry he speak in his language same as me i sepak my own language..and we can never understand each other..we just know that its not a good thing..
but as time goes by he really try to study english and we can really understand each other now..better than before
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@chiumee (850)
• Philippines
19 Oct 10
it's a challenge. somehow i have met a girl who does not speak english much. so i try to speak her language hardly. i didn't have to fall for her. it's just a friendly meeting. although, possibilities can happen anytime. well, i thought about it actually. but on some parts of our conversation, i had to ask examples when i couldn't understand her or i give her examples if she can't get what i'm saying.
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@torchablazed (3218)
• Philippines
19 Oct 10
That's a disaster, although I can consider it at some point FUN, you doesn't have option but to do some sign language along the way.Eventually, you can teach each other few languages you speak your own. Haven't seen that movie perhaps I will watch it sometime. Do we really need WORDS to fall in love with someone? NO not really sometime it doesnt need a single sound. although this doesnt happened to me at all.
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@sweetmary86 (822)
• Philippines
19 Oct 10
ive tried and it went just fine. but i find it funny cuz this guy is chinese and he knows a little english. but i could easily catch up with what hes trying to say or feeling. he doesnt even know how to type english in his fone i couldnt help but laugh..lol he knows a little tagalog though. just a bit but sounds like telegram and the accent is funny
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@shiellamaenies (169)
• United States
19 Oct 10
this is interesting,lol.we dont need a words but its too hard though to understand what is he/she saying and its hard for him/her too.i know someone that has a case like this..she dont know much how to speak/understand english and a man dont know how to speak and understand to the girl's language.but they still go for dating and then they get married.until now its hard for them to understand each other but they dont care because they love each other so much.thats what LOVE is!!!
@kamontgomery (25)
• United States
20 Oct 10
I don't think that you need to speak the same language to fall in love with someone or even have a connection but i do think it would be kind of difficult to start a relationship with someone that speaks another language because it would be hard o communicate and that is important to have a good relationship.
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@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
19 Oct 10
For me, I think I prefer to have a relationship with someone that has no language barrier. Unless, if he can speak and understands English language, then I guess that is one way to break the gap. For me, communication is important in a relationship. When two people who have the same languages can sometimes have a misunderstanding, how much more to people who have different languages? Another way is, when one or both have to learn the other's language, then I think that is one way to break the barrier. Love can do everything. When you are in love, you do everything to communicate with the person you love.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
19 Oct 10
Love needs no words.
Love is the best language in this world.
Love knows no boundaries,no religion,no race,no culture nor tradition.
When love comes you cannot avoid it or drive it simply or shrug it off.
Love is the best and sweetest thing that could ever happen to us.
Yes,i can date and love someone who doesn't know or cannot speak my language,coz i can learn his language later or he can learn my language too.
When love is there,every impossible can be possible.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
19 Oct 10
Dating someone who could not speak my language may be a bit difficult. it would stop me from dating them. There are ways to get past the age barrier and have a lasting relationship with someone.1 person likes this
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
22 Oct 10
I've seen a few parts of that movie, but not the whole thing.
For me, I think it's very sexy! If the other person speaks a different language. And if talking is limited to sign language, then I think it just makes the communication much simpler. If it's really the one, then I don't think we really words to express ourselves.
@nancy0618 (477)
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
i don't think that will work out for the two of us since we do not know each others language, therefore i don't think i would be able to date someone who do not even speak my own language
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
21 Oct 10
ahah i believe that can happen yes^^ and i know the movie you are talking about^^ i watched it too and his european maid is portuguese like me ahah he says venho pedir as maos de su filha (venho pedir a mão da sua filha in correct portuguese) ahah bcs is a bit hard for him that means i come ask you permission to marry your daughter^^ and yes is too romantic really that he tried to learn her language to be with her^^ too cute^^ and yes i guess that sometimes only a smile or a cute gesture can make us fall^^ and words doesnt matter^^ love is beyond words and beyond everything ahah^^ 
@arrebaldeB (32)
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
Well..they say nothing is impossible so that can really be...but at first it would really be hard.. but nothing can hinder when it comes to love...
@c_grovino_d (74)
• Philippines
19 Oct 10
I think no because how can i communicate to her i my self didn't also understand her. But i think i their's a translator hope we can understand each other. But i want a date that can understand me. :)
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@shaggin (72018)
• United States
19 Oct 10
My brother in law met a girl who spoke very little english. He taught her english and they got married and have two children. Really the whole thing is so romantic but me I dont have patience to teach someone english if they dont already speak it so I couldnt have a relationship with someone who didnt speak english. I wouldnt even try.
@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
20 Oct 10
I think I never go with a person on date whose language I don’t know. Because if I goes with her then how can I communicate with her because I don’t know her speaking language. So it is better to avoid to goes with that person on a date. What do you say about this?
