marriage and relationships
By kendrathil
@kendrathil (308)
India
October 19, 2010 7:33am CST
Does any one has a relationship with his or her BF or GF after marriage? Well, if that is so, i think that could have already created problems in the family. Though we may think that there is no harm in meeting our overs after marriage, i think it could have adverse impact. The more one sees his or her lover, there is a possibility that he feels of her or him even in the presence of wife or husband.
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4 responses
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
22 Oct 10
you mean that for example you marry a girl but you left your gf to marry is it? so you mean that meeting your gf after being married with other girl can be bad right? yes i agree with you^^ your gf would be sad bcs you left her to marry other girl. and your actual wife would be sad too bcs maybe would see you still like your gf so. anyway i think no one should marry someone that they dont love. so you shouldnt had leave your gf to marry other girl^^
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@kendrathil (308)
• India
25 Oct 10
I agree with you completely that lovers should have to get married. But if some love comes up for another man or woman after marriage, then what you say?
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
19 Oct 10
I had an on again off again bf both before and after I got married. BUT. there was no secrets with my husband whatsoever. My husband and my on/off bf were well aware of each other and so on. In fact my husband would stay with my kids when I would go out of town to see the bf.
Yes generally speaking, having a 3rd party in a relationship (meaning the hubby has a gf or the wife has a bf) ISNT a great idea but that all depends whether or not there is honesty. If the 3rd party is HIDDEN then you are just asking for trouble if on the other hand its all out in the open then it can work.
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@kendrathil (308)
• India
20 Oct 10
Well, I see that you have no problems. But I do not think that every one is so frank as you and your husband
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@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
19 Oct 10
If you were close to the boyfriend/girlfriend it would probably create problems within a marriage to maintain the friendship. I don't have friendships with anyone that I had ever dated seriously prior to my marriage. However I was very young when I met my husband.
@kendrathil (308)
• India
20 Oct 10
Friendship is fine but it can create problems when the relationship just changes the course.
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@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
24 Oct 10
Yes, that is true. It depends on all of the people involved. It would depend if the significant other could handle the other person still being in your life. I think I am too jealous and wouldn't like it at all. So I wouldn't expect my husband to deal with it either from me.
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
19 Oct 10
It would depend entirely on why you even have another bf/gf. It seems to me that a lot of Southeast Asian people have this concern because the person they are in love with is not the person they ultimately marry. I honestly do not agree with that The person you are in a serious relationship with is the person you should marry.
In Western cultures it's a matter of a polyamorous relationship and that just depends on honesty and communication. It can work for those who are dedicated to make it work. It's not for everyone, though.
