So frustrated with my mom's boyfriend!
By maezee
@maezee (41988)
United States
October 19, 2010 7:42am CST
So, he has been unemployed since 2008. He moved in with her in early 2009. At that point, he was getting unemployment - which is not IDEAL but at least it brings a little bit of money to the table. He was cut off from unemployment about 6 months ago. He knew how long he was going to get unemployment for. He has applied for some jobs here and there, but because he was a "machinist" at a metal company, he feels overqualified for pretty much everything. Not only is that irritating, but he is pretty much living off of my mom - who only has a part time job, has a kid, and a $950 rent + utilities and other bills to pay every month, which he has not been contributing to whatsoever (with the exception of the $200 a month he gets in food stamps). The most irritating part is that he recently got a job as a cook for this newly opened bar room - which was perfect, it was about 6 blocks away from where they live! Yeah, it was $8.50 an hour or something ridiculous like that, but it was a JOB and it would mean he would be BRINGING something to the TABLE - but he quit. The SAME DAY! Because he said it was too "disorganized" and he didn't "like" it.
And now he's unemployed again. I am so irritated by this. I mean..seriously?
Since when can unemployed people who NEED money to SURVIVE be so picky?! I look at it like this: he could have got some 'stupid' job and did it for at least SOME kind of an income until he found a job that he was 'qualified' for and that he thought was a little more 'organized'.
Rah. Do you know anyone like this?
What do you do?
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10 responses
@bounce58 (17385)
• Canada
22 Oct 10
I've always thought that beggars can't be chosers. So that cook-ing job that he got should have been enough. He should have not quit. If it was too disorganized, he should have taken that as an initiative to get things organized.
Luckily, I don't know anybody like this.
It's not my place to say, but I hope that your mother realizes this.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
For me be pray to Jehovah God that you are not to upset your mom's boyfriend because you limit her happiness.
@chenxiaoyue_713 (2165)
• China
20 Oct 10
he's typically the kind of person who thinks he's too knowledgeable and skilled to do something stupid and humble. of course, he'll feel insulted to work as a cook with a low salary. there are many people like this today. what they have in common is that they eagerly want money, but don't want to work in a low position.
as you mentioned, how can a person be so picky when he has to be financially dependent on others? besides, he's a man who should know better than to rely on your mom for a living.
i think you need to talk to your mom and figure out what's in her mind respecting this issue. he may think it impertinent if you tell him what you think of him, so you'd better ask your mom to talk to him.
hope you'll soon get this done.
@Youreyes4Today (2356)
• United States
19 Oct 10
This is your mothers decision to make. You can let her know you understand she has feelings for this man, thing is he isn't helping with the household finances. You can't kick him out, you can't tell mom to kick him out. This would make you out to be the bad person.
Best thing to do is explain how you feel to mom, also letting her know that you can't make the decision in the solution, just that you are the outside looking in and feel a need to express your opinion. Letting her know that you will respect what she decides, also that it is ok to have feelings for this man. Just ask her to open her eyes and see the whole of the person, not just what she wants to see.
@elmare0699 (163)
• South Africa
20 Oct 10
I agree with Youreyes... It's up to your mother to take action. The best that you can do is to discuss the situation with her and let her know that you are there for her in anyway that she may need your help or understanding. There is nothing to stop you discussing the situation with the boyfriend, perhaps you can shame him into getting a job, but don't let it escalate into abuse. Remember it's your mothers life and you can't live it for her.
@max1950 (2306)
• United States
19 Oct 10
i'M A HEAVY EQUIPMENT OPERATOR, CRANES, BULLDOZERS ETC. BUT WHEN THE HOUSING MARKET CRASHED I COLLECTED BEFORE THEY SHUT ME OFF AND NOW IM FLIPPIN BURGERS AT A BURGER STAND, AND " THAT " IS A WHOLE LOT BETTER THAN SITTING ON MY ASH LOOKIN AT THE BOOB TUBE ALL DAY. IT DOESNT PAY VERY WELL BUT AT LEAST IT PAYS. YA GOTTA DO WHAT YA GOTTA DO AND BE THANKFUL YOU HAVE ANY JOB NO MATTER WHAT IT IS.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
19 Oct 10
I can't really say I know many people like that, because I can't stand to be around them. I get that times are tough and the economy sucks and all that but people who just plain don't WANT to work really bother me. It's just laziness, pure & simple. Especially in this case - he doesn't need to make a mint, just enough to contribute and feel like he's accomplishing something. I will never understand people that can go through life like that, just mooching and sponging off other people without contributing anything to anyone. I feel sorry for your mom and I really can't imagine being - or staying - with someone like that.
@shibham (16977)
• India
19 Oct 10
where money is all everything to survive a satisfactory life, i would never compromised with it. i am not so stupid who easily resign a job due to comfortableness. i need money and i need it by any means and sure through the right way.
by the way, i am in a govt. job now.
take care. just try to make him understood.
