Hello girls... what is your first preference?

None of those, actually. I guess academic career and mental support comes close, but not really. I have a rather long list of standards but first and foremost is intelligence. I don't really care what his career is or how much formal schooling he has, just so long as he's highly intellectual. That often comes with an extensive academic record, but it's not necessary. My husband is currently working towards becoming a professor, but he's not there yet and it'll probably be a while until he achieves it. To go down the list: 1) My husband has several health problems, the most prominent being Addison's Disease which is a chronic disorder that is potentially fatal. 2) Complexion means absolutely nothing to me, I really don't care at all. When I first met my husband he had severe acne as a side effect from the medication he was taking for Addison's. 3) Mental support kind of falls under intelligence since he has to be able to keep up with me, but I also don't really care about mental stability. My husband has a few psychological problems like anxiety disorder, Asperger's Syndrome and Post-Traumatic Stress. 4) Like I said, it's not important. 5) I don't really care how much money he makes. He's not miserable and he can pay the bills, that's all that really matters. 6) Same as number 5. 7) Appearances don't really matter to me at all. I'm not attracted to standard definition of "sexy". 8) I guess the same as 5 and 6. But if you mean emotional security, there is no such thing. 9) Absolutely not, I really don't care about social status at all. It's probably at the top of the list of things I don't care about. 10) Also at the top of the list. I'm with a person, not a family. For that matter, I despise my in-laws. I haven't seen or spoken to them in over 4 years and I fully intend to keep it that way. I also have no interest in having a family. I am firmly childfree and I have no interest in being with a man who would want children.

1. Financial Support, 2. Good JOb, 3. sexy outlook, 4. Family, 5. Social Status, 6. Security, 7. coplexion, 8. health., 9. mental support 10. academic career

Hello Shiby. No offense, but i think you are missing the point here. I want a normal, humorous, trustworthy and nice man. Oh, i forgot i have one that is exactly like that. TATA.

None of the above. He would have to be talented, hard working, responsible, loving, able to cook well, do housework, enjoy life, able to survive the good times and the bad. He would have to be able to do just about anything. Yup, that's my hubby! Thanks for bringing up the subject!

I personally feel that mental and moral support would probably have to be my preference. Trusting your partner and having his moral and mental support to me are the most important, without that in my opinion a relationship will never last.

I think that my first preference would be financial support because it is important to me that he is independent and doesn't always need something from me.

Hi there..Once a teacher told me that I should always choose a healthy husband, for life would never be fruitful if one of you is unhealthy. It is however just a part of the total package. I have always believed that I don't have a high standard in men, but I think its because though I don't want a single aspect of it to be really excellent, I wish to have complete good package. But still if asked to choose, I'd go for social status and family backgroud.

well i choose the personality. you haven't added in your list :P

How about first and foremost, mental support, health, security (is this the same as confidence? Or do you mean like financial security?), and probably sexy outlook. Not going to lie. There has to be some chemistry there..Otherwise there's no point in being anything more than friends. LOL. I think health is important - both mental and physical (although I'm not saying they have to be BUFF, but I appreciate that they have respect for themselves and treat their bodies well), and security is a good thing - whether it be financial or confidence-wise. Confidence is sexy, and financial security is good - because who wants someone who doesn't have a steady income? I mean, if it were serious, that would be an issue. Not because I'd milk the guy dry of his money, or make him my sugar daddy, but just because it shows that they're a little more responsible than people who don't have that kind of 'security'.

hello dear bhai, Family background first,then social status (not to marry a criminal scary) academical carrier (i want a good conversationalists) sexy outlook ? (not sexy at all,i want masculine,someone who has abs) healthy (of course) financial support (must be financially stable) good job (it is given when he is financially stable) security (not a security guard ,a Col. is acceptable ) and...you missed one dear bhai must be a look a like of NICOLAS CAGE

Hello shibs, Mental attitude first, the least of my worries would be the money side. Okay maybe I am too romantic. But no the mental attitude what makes a person tick is the most important of all. What kind of heart do they have are they good, kind and so on. Of course good looks can count for some too. In my case it was the mental attitude as you say. As for money we did not have any money for ages in fact Years and we had to live in some pretty bad conditions too. So the money was the least important issue in that sense.

Man on board. Can I add in your preferences 11.Religious ...I believe a God-fearing/nurtured person is a plus factor...^_^ But, out of the ten. My first three picks would be 3.Family background, 2.health, 3.Good job....If you have these along with my suggested feat,,,everything else may follow.

Well, in my case it's impossible to choose only one as the first preference, as if that person doesn't have a few of those features I wouldn't feel interested. If I have to reduce maybe I can pick two top one features, that would be complexion and mental support. My health isn't perfect, so I don' mind much if my partner has health problems as long as it's not life threatening, an academical carrier is the least important thing to care about in a person, at least for me, and about the rest... well, good job and financial support come together, but I want to date a person, not a bank

For me, it is good health. How can he sustain our living if he's sick? How can we enjoy our lives if we have to prioritize his medication?

My first isn't on your list and that is my faith. I found out the hard way that when married to someone with different beliefs can cause a lot of friction in the relationship..

hi shibham! i think those were all good things to consider in choosing a lifetime partner, but you know, when you are in love sometimes we tend to forget about all those things, coz what matters the most to us is the love that we feel. if the person has all those things but you don't feel the love for him/her or feel that you want to spend the rest of your life with them then i guess you can't still be really happy. as for me, i would go for the man who will love me for who i am and will accept me and my family. someone who would respect me and my parents and someone who will stand by me and support me for better or worst. and of course he should be someone that i love too. and i am glad that i have found him already in the person of my husband! actually having those that you have mentioned will be a great bonus if it comes with love as well.

The thing I usually look for in a guy wasn't on your list. I like a guy that has a good sense of humor and can make me laugh. After that I guess mental and financial support are important. Health would be important too, because I am disabled and I wouldn't be able to care for someone else. There is always the chance that his health status would change though, so I guess that's not as important.

WOW!! this question strikes hard...sooo much! Well, i think every woman looks onto the security.If not, I speak for myself..=) I seek for security because almost all of the options could be gained. Academic career, financial stablity, social status and etc... It's attainable after both of you will settle. I go for security..

My first priority would be compatibility in your views of life. Similiar goals. A kind hearted person. Sweet, funny, caring, selfless. Looks and economical background aren't really important to me. So long as we laugh together and he doesn't treat me bad I think I would love him if he loved me too.

Where does religious affiliation fall sis? Because its my first choice. I want my future husband to have the same beliefs that I have.