I hate this feeling
By OneLove2010
@OneLove2010 (20)
United States
October 19, 2010 3:52pm CST
We recently moved 5 hours away from my family and friends. I moved with my husband because of a better job offer. I like where we now live but my husband is having to work 24/7 pretty much so it's always just me and my toddler daughter at home. The move made us broke pretty much so we do nothing but sit at home and I try to find things to keep my daughter busy, and myself as well. I haven't been depressed in 4 or 5 years now. But I feel like I'm slipping back into it. Not bad. I just do what I have to do, play with my daughter which always makes me happy, and watch movies in bed. That's my day. I think it's because I really miss my friends. I feel like I'm missing out on so much being so far away. But we moved also because we needed to get out of that town. I love my new home, I just don't know how to make friends. I'm a stay at home mom and I plan on keeping it that way. I think if I could find a way to make friends, I would feel so much better again. Now I'm not super depressed. and I'm not sure it's depression at all. More, just sad and lonely. Always being alone with a toddler gets to you after a while. I love every minute of it and love being with her but I would like to be able to have an adult conversation face to face sometimes too. Any idea's on how to meet other young mothers?
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7 responses
@ergfortes (516)
• Philippines
19 Oct 10
it's the same feeling i have every time i move from one place to another. It's normal to feel uneasy at first because you'd need again to make new friends and get along with others in the area. try going out, just around the neighborhood. cook something that you could give to neighbors, you can also bring with you your kid. simple greetings to neighbors could start a conversation which could eventually lead to friendship.
@OneLove2010 (20)
• United States
20 Oct 10
lol, thank you. Most of my neighbors unfortunately only speak spanish I've noticed. But It doesn't hurt to try, right?
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
19 Oct 10
My best advice would be to meet other moms in your age group and slightly older. Search your community park district for free toddler programs and your local libraries.
This would be an ideal place as the other moms and you can chat and the child can have together interactions. Once you build friendships you can have set play dates and all would enjoy each other company.
Good luck with this.
@OneLove2010 (20)
• United States
20 Oct 10
Funny, my mom told me to try the library too. I'm going to look that up I think. Thank you. :)
@switpickle (83)
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
Maybe you could attend some classes where you can meet other people who share your interests. Or search online for groups in your area. It really is hard to move. I've been in the same area since I was born - I'm 23. Whenever my mom would bring up the subject of moving, I would immediately feel sad. I feel like I've made my life where I am now and moving would mean starting over again. But maybe you could look at it in a more positive way. This could be a fresh start where you could wipe the slate clean and start anew.
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
If you have computer the it will find friends for you maybe near to your area and it makes you feel a little comfortable talking some friends there. But i you are in that area which you said there has no adt yet to talk to well try to go out and find friends outside. Making friends when you are in the mall or supermarket. All I can say is just go out and try to relax find friends around you.
@sweetmary86 (822)
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
i always experienced moving homes since i was young. i guess we moved 4 times and we finally settled at our own house. at first we lived in different areas in siargao island then we moved here in surigao city 10years back. i always experienced leaving my close friends, playmates, pets, homes and i guess it has a psychological effect on me though im not aware of it. thats maybe why i could give up on people easily esp. on relationships and choose to move on.
@alyser10 (113)
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
I know what you feel.. in life you have to get acquainted with other people and socialize other than your loved ones. Interaction with other people will help you to lift your spirit and sense of person.It's better for you to go out and meet friends. Try your neighbors, you can take along with your daughter so she can interact with other children too... I'd seen one website http://www.smartparenting.com.ph/ which you can join and meet up with mommys online... share your thoughts and experience with them. It would be fun. Or try to invite your friends in your new home so you will not feel bored in your daily routine..
@viennaEscatronD (69)
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
i hate this feeling cause i don't know what to do every time i saw him with other girl and and every time i saw them so sweet. i felt so guilt when i just leave him and nothing to do.
