please help me to erase my trauma T_T

You know my friend, that case is very easy. What you need to do is to erase first your anger with your father, if it has. Then accept the things which happen to your father, is a kind of human weakness. Consider thing that we are all human and not avoid to commit mistake sometimes. Always pray to ease your anxiety. Be broaden your mind and not think that all people or man is like your father. We have different instinct in life. If the case was done by peter it's be apply to john..remember that? Consider also that life is filled with many miseries in life and that the case of your father is included to that misery... Believe in yourself first before believe to others. Respect yourself first before respecting others... We have all the right to choose what we want in life. But the most important thing you consider is the help of God...

You know what this is very common. When you have this kind of situation with the family of your partner you only have two choices: 1st, you leave your partner and move on; 2nd, you fight whatever happens and accept anything that is in your way. You might be saying to me now, it's not an easy choice or not an easy situation. But guess what do you think right now you're still in a good situation? You're in a "do or die" or a "take it or leave" situation. Let me explain shortly the 2 choices. The 1st one, you will leave your partner not because you don't love her. Simpy because you're just thinking the right decision, avoiding much more conflicts, avoiding much more fighting, who knows you're father might get angry when he find this out and might get involve also. By leaving your partner you forget the problems and look forward for a new beginning. The 2nd choice, it's a more complicated choice. You will fight for you relationship, to whoever disagree, to whoever comes the way and this will lead to a much more heart breaking situations. There can be a lot of things that can happen in here. You might end up separated with your partner as well. They say "sometimes love is like a street fight, once the fight started there will only be 2 persons on the center, both will do anything just to win and the winner gets to have the glory and honor" so if you think you're brave and prepared enough for battle then go fight for it but if you think you're not then stop and leave or you might get knocked out. Good luck.

Hi there. There are ways to cure that. And by expressing your thoughts here is a great start. There are things to do that may require a bigger space and I am planning to write something about this if I have time. I think you can start by as simple as relaxation techniques or better do enroll in a yoga class to help you relax. You can do breathing by the stomach and closing you eyes and not thinking of anything for 5 minutes. Do deep breaths and do not think of anything just do counting. If your mind starts to wonder just bring it back to breathing. You can do this everyday to help you feel calm. It is also advisable to do some walks in the park with a friend. Physical activity can help. If you want you may also visit a professional doctor so that he can device a better treatment for you. Taking baby steps is the best. Think of the god things that you have rather than the bad things that happened.

i believe what is important in your relationship is the fact that he is with you until this time, and i am guessing from this post that he has not cheated on you in any way, or in any time that you both are in the relationship. the people around you and him are just audiences. what is important is about how both of you should make the relationship stronger. make it a point to let him know your fears. talk to him about it. there has to be an assurance from him, too, that no matter what, he will stay in your relationship.

Hi Anna and welcome to my lot. In the first place it says in the bible to honor thy father and mother, even if the honor is just for creating you. Your fathers sins are not your sins. You don't need to try and pay for his sins. Maybe you have this fear of your new boyfriend of cheating on you because all you can see is what your father did. Not all men cheat some men are really faithful and you can trust them. Ask God to remove this fear from you and give you decrement so that you can see the light of the love this new boyfriend is offering you. Ask God to guide you daily in your life and to remove all the fears you have. The worst fear you can have is the thought of fear itself. Now that all being said you can order all evil and it is evil to fear the unknown. It says Luke 10:19 That God gives us power over all evil in Jesus name. So do yourself a favor and order this evil from your life in Jesus name and soon you will see if you let God be your guide that this will all just be a bad dream like. Pray that is the best thing I can tell you!

sweetie im sorry that your ex bf left you bcs his stupid mother all those reasons you told were not a reason for her to hate you. and if your bf really loved you he wouldnt accept his mother's threat and would fight for you. just he didnt love you as much as you loved him. about your new bf dont think he will cheat on you^^ he loves you and he promised he would be faithful^^ listen your ex left you bcs didnt love you enough but this boy loves you^^ you need to trust him^^ he didnt give you reasons to think he is cheating so believe him^^ also dont blame yourself. is normal that you are afraid bcs what happened before but you have to see that not all guys are the same^^ and this boy really loves you^^ so trust him^^ and if you need to talk im here to listen and advise you ok?^^

Hi Anna, After reading your post,I am now remebering the famous saying by Romeo "I will remeber her not the one who broke my heart, but the who taught me live with a broken heart". Any way I remember you that these kind of situations can occur in life.The one who is able to overcome these can only move on....So keep moving....After all these all are happening as a part of life,In future these will give a good memory for you if you are able to cope with the situations....

Well just trust your boyfriend. Throw that negative vibes in the trash bin they will not help you. Take a deep breath and let the air bring all your trauma away. Most important thing to do submit yourself to God, tell Him your worries and pray for the best. For sure you are going to breath widely. Always remember live a happily life and always be positive. Look at future, those things are called memories because they're part of yesterday. Close that page of your life, open a new one. It is not your fault that your father has other family. Don't mind other people just be yourself if they can't cope it is not your fault anymore. ^_^

It is normal to be afraid and to feel insecure sometimes in a relationship. But you must conquer your fear or you'll end up loosing the one you love. Be confident on who you are and what you have. It can also be helpful if you talk with someone you trust the most about your problem. In a relationship it is important to have trust and communication with the other person. Try to communicate more openly with your boyfriend. Slowly tell him about your fears. If he really respects and loves you, he would listen to you and assure you.

Only you can decide on what's best for you. Leave some love for yourself too. Because a healthy kind of loving is not obsessing over the one you love. What you are undergoing is really a hard trauma to a young heart so much in love. It is all in the past now as you say so leave it at that and moved on or lose your head. When you are older and wiser you will just remember this experience as something that you have learn upon as part of loving. Pray to God because only He, can calm you soul and heal you wherever it hurts.

hi annawen. Erasing trauma is a bit hard, especially when it has been kept locked inside you for a long time. 1. To remove that, you just have to concentrate in your thing, such as house work, hobbies, etc. Anything that diverts you from your trauma. 2. Never ever, ever think about your trauma. just think about something funny or something exciting 3. Just believe your current boyfriend that he won't do something your ex-boyfriend has done to you. 4. Pray everyday

I believe you are blaming yourself for the situation.First,you have to forgive yourself.Then maybe you can forgive him and her.Maybe if you forgive them,things will be better for you.