Choice in a love triangle

Two questions for you. One fairly easy, and the second not so pleasant, but I would ask you to consider. 1. Is your past likely to hurt you again. If the answer is yes, is it worth the risk? 2. If you are considering leaving your present, are you really giving him the devotion/ love that he deserves? If the answer is no, he does not deserve to be used, and you should leave him regardless of whether you take back up with your man of the past or not.

I think it's not good for you to still think the past. He did not love you that is why he leave you. To forget that person which makes your life ruin in the past days of good relationship and suddenly left you. Think all the bad days and think all the bad side of that man... Since you found a good man who really loves and care for you. I suggest you to stick to that person because your sure he never go away from you

well for me, even if it's sound so crazy, I will choose someone who loves me for sure. Because your past have hurt you already so why would you go back to him? I will rather treasure the present whom I also love. The relationship you had with him just started and it's right if you give your self the chance to love the right person.

It is always very hard to choose between 2 persons. But before you make the decision i think you really must think about this very good, because your future depends on that decision of yours. You have to put in libra all the good and bad things that have that 2 persons, and see who is the best choice, but remember that first person left you some times ago, and maybe we could do it again. I hope you will make the good decision, good luck!

Just think of the right thoughts, why did your past leave you? For what reason he is coming back now? For me the important thing is do not let your heart rule over your mind because it will broke everything. Heart will decide whatever it can make it happy without thinking of the consequences. Past was left you, and now he is coming back??? How could he afford to come back?

Our desire creates our realities in life. We actually see what we want to see and we believe what we actually want to believe. But most of the time at the expense of truth and as a consequence we get hurt. The human heart is deceptive and carefulness is needed to avoid falling in to misery again. Just remember, good choice produces sweet and blessed life. CHEERS!

You Have to sit down and figure out whom you love the most! Then go with that guy. If you still have very strong feelings for your ex, being with the present guy is not fair. Mr present deserves to be with All of you. It isn't fair to be with him dreaming of another guy! Pick the guy you love most!

Why fret over the past? Treasure the present before it becomes the past. Personally, I feel that since you have moved on, you should also let the past go. Since the present has showered you with the missing love and comfort, I feel it is fair only if you really weigh if you should drop him. What if the past decide to drop you again after a while? I am sure you are strong enough to move on and I am also sure you are strong enough to decide what is best for you.

haha =D Interesting huh? I have to say being involved in a love triangle is never easy at all. It's not a matter of heart over mind or vice versa, but rather it's really love u are feeling, or u just want a replacement for something u lost. Both of them are different things yet they can be lumped together as one. Dun bother to ask yourself about who u want, because u wont choose. Instead, ask them why they want to be with u. Your heart will tell u the answer u want, yet they wont end up as your final choice. hehe

I thought you said you already moved on. If you are telling the truth then why get bother when the one who left you was trying to come back into your life. You moved on with your past and stay that way.

hi sanitary the man you have now sounds like he is three times' better than the one you say you still love. maybe that love ' is more like a habit than real love. Does not your self esteem tell you you deserve more than a man who is wishy'washy . and has left you before. He will probably leave you again and again, as he sounds just like a player. How c an you love someone who does not evidently love you enough to be true to you?You chose the most decent of the two men of course and let the player go play with someone else.

choose that one who loves you more than you love him... you said that God is on your side and gave you that someone when you needed a person to be your stronghold. I think God has already given you the answer you've been trying to find. He already gave your answer... The one who is good to you and having a smooth relationship.. don't waste what you've already started just by going back to someone that hurt you and probably left you for another.. Talk to God again.. He will surely make you remember that he already answered you and you just have to open your eyes since he is just in front of you...

That's a tough dilemma..a difficult task of choosing between two important persons in your life. Loving and keeping a relationship has no fixed formula and each relationship is unique hence, what might work for others might not be applicable to you. In your case, you alone can determine which of the two will truly make you happy...based on how they treated you, made you feel special and loved, respected you and most of all based on how you feel towards them. I how you will be happy with your choice. Be happy. Good luck. Have a good day and happy mylotting! :D

The biggest choice is in your hands, but pick the one that you would be if you would be happy. Just don't be afraid it's never easy but be strong remember live your live with no regrets.

While acknowledging all the feelings you still have for the first guy, you need to find a way to shove that to the side and use your head to analyze both relationships. The first guy has been gone two years. What is up with that and how hard was it for him? Why was he not back sooner? Whatever the issues that caused the first relationship to breakup, they are still there unless you can say what has been done to remedy the situation. Even though the feelings may be strong, you have to deal with these facts, to some exent. When you consider the new guy, in the same way you have to ask questions. What are your feelings? Do you see yourself having a long term relationship with this guy. What is it about your personalities or your interests that makes you think this is likely? Does this guy have a track record of faithfulness? There is no easy way, but pray that God will lead you through the decision making process and down the right path. Talk to a close friend also. Make sure you challenge yourself with questions. Sometimes in these emotional situations, it is hardest to be honest with ourselves. Wish you the best.

Hello Sanitary. Well, think first the past before you decide San. If I were you I choose the present because he never hurt you unlike your past. If you are happy now, don't left your present and always think positive. I know it is not easy for you to choose but please follow your mind and heart. If you think that the present is good for you then go for it.

hello sanitary! that is indeed a very complicated situation, and a very difficult question to answer. Only you could know what you really want to happen. However, i would advise you to think it over several times before making any decision, to avoid regrets in the future. You must remember that being honest to yourself is the first important factor you'll have to consider in making a decision. Maybe it is true that you still love your past, but is it really love? or is it just because he has left you for unexplained reasons and there was no fight or trouble involve? and that you had still hope that he will return someday, longing for that time actually, that is why you still keep the flame for him? your present is in love with you, as your story indicates. If you will choose him, you had better be honest with him and tell him the truth. if he truly loves you, he will help you get over your past and start again, with him. As you have said, you have moved on. Why pine for someone who had left you once? does it not give you anxiety that he will do again what he has done to you before? you must choose wisely, for that entails your future. in order to do so, you must let your mind rule over your heart. it will never fail you.

hi dear, i know that your situation is very complicated, because you have to choose if which one would you choose. if i were you, i would listen to my heart if who is the most important one,. is it your past or present.?

Love is based on both of mind and heart. You should be calm, and wise to choose your sincere lover. Don't lose him. if i were you, i choose the present peson. i hate the betral.

for me i would say you choose your heart,coz thats the one who will makes you happy. yes he left you,but maybe that situation makes him realize that he loves you more that he'l ever know..maybe it'l help you to think with what i said.