Will You Hate the One Who Broke Your Heart Indefinitely
By Toni
@toniganzon (72285)
Philippines
October 20, 2010 9:01am CST
I had my heart broken two years before I got married. At that time I was thinking that the only way to forget him is to hate him and blame him for everything. I knew at that time that I had feelings for him but he was the one who called it quits so I had to forget him as fast as possible, and the best way I could think of to divert the love I felt for him was to turn it into hatred.
AFter getting married, I haven't seen him for quite some time until I went to get my passport. He was working in that agency and meeting him for the first time after several years was quite overwhelming. I didn't have the hatred that I developed to forget him. What I had was joy in finally seeing him after some time. Of course I didn't have any feelings for him anymore, but I was happy that I could look at him straight in the eyes without any bitterness and regret, and I was happy to have a short conversation with him. In fact if we get a chance to go out together with our common friends, I wouldn't mind at all.
How about you, will you hate the person who broke your heart forever?
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9 responses
@kevin1877uk (36988)
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7 May 16
No, but maybe you have a point. Hating someone will make you move on faster.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
9 May 16
@kevin1877uk thank goodness there's time to do that.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
8 May 16
Yeah it did but that hate wouldn't last long anyway. Time heals all wounds as they say.
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@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
I'm pretty sure I got the title right! It's more on hatred rather than love, the moment someone breaks my heart, it just so happen that I was able to overcome the hatred and just want him to be my friend. In fact I was able to develop hatred because of wanting to forget him.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
20 Oct 10
It can be difficult when someone breaks your heart. time is the best healer. There will probably always be a piece of your heart that holds on to your heartbreak. Once we move on with our lives, the heartbreak dissapates, but there is always that chance for an exception to the rule.@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
I guess I'm one of those exceptions to the rule. Thanks for the comment.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
14 Dec 10
It depends on who it the person is. If we deserves a forgivenss then there is no need for hatredness.
@sweetmary86 (822)
• Philippines
30 Nov 10
i hated them for sure but now all the hatred's gone cuz no ones to blame but me. i think theyre just not meant for me.
@fabsprecious (1565)
• United States
20 Oct 10
I know exactly what you mean, I had a similar situation happen to me, but it turned out completely opposite, I ended up marrying him. In high school I had a friend that was desperately in love with this guy, at first I thought he was a bit full of himself and he kind off thought the same of me. After a while of knowing each other my feeling sord of changed I thought it would be easier to hate him then get attached because I didn't want to hurt her. Just to be clear, he never had feelings for her, and she knew that, but she always had hope that one day he would.
During that same summer she went away, and we ended up having the same class during the summer, of course we got attached to each other. By the end of the summer we were practically a couple. Upon her return she was a bit upset to find out about us. She even ended up leaving the school after one month later, now I don't know if it was because of us or for personal reasons.
Know we just celebrated on 10th year wedding anniversary, we have to beautiful kids and happier then ever.
I thought that if I turned what I felt to hatred it would be easier than confronting my feelings for him. I guess my biggest fear, was first loosing a friendship and second being rejected by him, but it worked out for the best. Sometimes tend to hide our real emotions behind hatred, when we should be honest with ourselves.
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
Great story you've got. You were brave enough to sacrifice friendship over love and I'm happy that all ended well.
@tummalapalli (251)
• India
11 Nov 10
I might actually like it if I can.... But how much ever I try I just could not do that... How could I ever blame and hate some one whom I love so much... So much from the bottom of the heart.....
@hushi22 (4928)
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20 Oct 10
i must admit i hated him for a short span of time. that was when the wound was still fresh but not for long. later on i learned to move on. it's impossible for me to hate him. he also helped me to be ME right now.
@bharbee1126 (85)
• Philippines
30 Oct 10
Hatred is really the best tool to forget the person who broke your heart and to easily move on. But i don't see it to last forever for me also. Because happiness lies with what's inside your heart. And if i get the chance to see the person who broke my heart, it will just be an ordinary meeting for me.
