My old friend is asking money for me

Lending money to family and friends is always a very tricky matter to navigate. There are always emotional strings attached to the amount in question. The best advice I was given regarding this is to never lend money to this group. If you want to help them out, then give the money instead. Treat it as a gift. Which also means that you should only give money that you will not miss. This way, you are getting rid of the emotional strings attached to the money and at the same time you are able to help out a loved one in need without the risk of feeling betrayed because they fail to cough up a payment on the promised date. If you can't give it away as a gift, then be firm in saying "No." If your friend is a true friend, she would be able to understand you and your reasons for doing so.

I would just say no. There has to be better people she can borrow from. I would hate involving money with a friend, because it can easily ruin the friendship.

First of all check whether she's lying to you or not. Because as you said she's your old friend (from that i could understand that you were not in contact with her for a lot of time) just make sure that she's lying to you or not. So go for her house and check all the things are keeping up or not, then come back and think of what you have to do for her. Either to lend her money or not. Then decide and do it as your heart says. Thats all I could say to you.

I had encounter such situation as same as your. Roughly one year ago, one of my friend come to my house to request on lending him $100 because his son is sick and admitted to hospital. He told me the hospital need him to pay first before nurse at counter can issue medicine for fever. At that time, he said he had no cash and need cash in hurry. Thus, without any thinking longer, I just lent him $100. After that, I remembered that I come to meet him 2 days later the incident, but the first thing he told me that he would pay on next week. After one week, I come to see him and he said next week again. I remembered that I tried to request my money back for more that 4 months continuously. And after 4 months I gave up chasing him because I knew that he would not pay me anymore. At that time, I found out that I am not only lost $100 but also my phone bills to call him is cost around $50.

I know it seems like your friend is asking alot now, but it really isn't. When everything is done and over with, I am sure the money will come back to you, along with the happiness of knowing that you did what you could. Also, if the time comes when you need help, that person may be the first person that comes to your aid. I am sure it is probably hard for him/her to ask for money as it is. I would recommend being sensetive and understanding for the time being, and then after all is said and done......tell him that the money has to be paid back.

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Hi Careguarden, You did the right thing. Once you lend someone money and they don't pay it back then you know not to lend that person money again. I wouldn't worry if she is upset with you or not. A real friend would not be upset. If she is then she was just using you for what you could do for her and who needs that? If she is that poor then surely there is help for her out there.

it is not in my vocabulary to owe money from others and i hate to be owed. i hate debts. i dont like the idea of asking money from other people its like begging.

i agRee with you because your friend would never do such things that could help in their living especially at this crucial life she encounter because she is just depending on you.

in her points she feels hurt but she have realize that she to need to work just for her mother..and their daily needs.

shes not working at all?i had a kind of friend like what you have.going to ask help on me evreytime that she needs help.but i didnt give her a cash everytime she ask me.if you want to help your friend or you dont have much money to help her/him.you cn buy some food or medicine for her mom instead giving a cash money.but honestky its not your responsibility to help her everytime.you need to help her to find a work instead of giving her some money as a help.or tell her that she/he needs to find a job coz you cant help her/him everytime.you have your own needs,family and responsibility to manage.

my friend asking for me is 5 time again because she want to pay a tuition to her school. and one time she barrow me a money and i know buy a load that's why i will not let him barrow.

If my friend ask money to me i will give her but i f she will be abuse of asking money or always asking money to me then i will not give her even if she's/hi's my friend.

I agree with you, she/he should not depend on you all the time. She/he should also work for his needs. You have helped him once and that is a big deal already.

I think you did the right thing. You need to tell her what you really feel about that issue, you are friends and surely she can understand you in the end that you don't mean to hurt her feelings. we all must work hard to get the things we want and needed. Maybe you should help her to "catch the fish" and not just "give her the fish" :)

Doesn't she have a job? If not then you should help her find a job. If you can't do that then you should atleast give her some money for the medicine but not for anything else. This is a though situation for you. Your old friend trust you very much but I wouldn't completely reject them when they ask for money.