Do you try to help others? / myLot

Canada

October 20, 2010 8:27pm CST

Do you feel it's true that we cannot help someone who will not help himself or herself? We have to remember however that that we must not judge them, because we don't always know what's best for ourselves, let alone another. We must do what we can to help others of course, show love and caring whenever and wherever we can, but they must write their own story. Do you agree?

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vijayanths

@vijayanths (7877)

• India

21 Oct 10

Hi Pose, I think we should help others within our capacities. I try my best to help some one if he/she really deserves help. I mean a genuine need of help should always be encouraged, this is my opinion.

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Pose123

@Pose123 (21635)

• Canada

21 Oct 10

Hi vijayanths, A hand up not a handout is often the way it's described but there are times when the handout is needed too. We cannot life someone's life for them but we can encourage them. I think we all knew a few people who have come to believe that the world owes them a living. Blessings.

anniepa

@anniepa (27955)

• United States

25 Oct 10

Maybe to some extent that's true. We can't help someone who won't accept help and there are some who may accept help but not really "use" it in the right way, depending n the circumstances but I feel we should always be willing to help others if we're capable of doing so. I think it actually feels GOOD to know I've helped someone, even if only in a small way and I also believe it usually comes back - again, if only in a small way. I believe in the "Pay it Forward" philosophy. Annie

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Pose123

@Pose123 (21635)

• Canada

25 Oct 10

Hi anniepa, I too believe that we must help others whenever we can and the "pay it Forward" idea is excellent. Thank you for sharing. Blessings.

vijay12

@vijay12 (1642)

• India

21 Oct 10

Helping one another is part and parcel of living.We cannot expect those in need of help to do so themselves. I am grateful to many who have helped me,in critical junctures of my life and I try to do my bit to some who are in need.

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Pose123

@Pose123 (21635)

• Canada

21 Oct 10

Hi vijay, I agree that we should always pass it on. My concept is to give a hand up whenever possible, however we cannot write their story, only they can do that and often they need encouragement. Blessings.

Mirita

@Mirita (2668)

• United States

23 Oct 10

Is important to help others ,but we are really wasting our time if those people don't wish to help themselves.

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Pose123

@Pose123 (21635)

• Canada

23 Oct 10

Hi Mirita, That's it in a nutshell. Thanks for commenting. Blessings.

llbo1981

@llbo1981 (1237)

• China

22 Oct 10

I really would like to help other persons if they want.I like to give my hand to other people who need help from me.In daily life,i have tried to help others,some people accept my help,some people reject.But it dosen't matter,i feel happy to help others.

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Pose123

@Pose123 (21635)

• Canada

22 Oct 10

Hi llbo, Thank you for sharing. Blessings.

jmayangcoF

@jmayangcoF (279)

• Philippines

21 Oct 10

hmhm for me ,, most of the time if my friends had a problem i always help,, them,.,. that 's that's the way of showing friendship.,,.

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Pose123

@Pose123 (21635)

• Canada

21 Oct 10

Hi jmayangcoF, I agree with you, we must always be there to help but we can only do so much. Each person must be willing to help themselves as well. I don't think we should give up on them either. Thank you for your comments. Blessings.

picjim

@picjim (3002)

• India

21 Oct 10

If the person asks us to help we can do it to the extent possible.But in the long run the person requiring help will have to make effort himself.He has to realise that its only when he makes attempts and works hard he will develop a certain degree of proficiency in his chosen field.The best help for ourselves and others is to realise our inner self and work towards achieving success in our own way.

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Pose123

@Pose123 (21635)

• Canada

21 Oct 10

Hi picjim, Thanks for responding and I agree with your comments. We can only offer help and encourage the person to find their own way. Blessings.

pschenck

@pschenck (98)

• Canada

21 Oct 10

I think that we have to try to help sometimes. Perhaps the person can help themselves with our help. But I also feel that no matter how hard you try, in the end, there are some people that can't be helped by anyone. That it truly is up to them in the end.

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Pose123

@Pose123 (21635)

• Canada

21 Oct 10

Hi pschenck, You are absolutely right, in the end it is truly up to himself/herself. We cannot write another person's story for them, only they can do that. We do however need to offer help and encouragement to get their life going rather than simply calling them lazy, which they eventually accept anyway. Blessings.