Getting a girlfriend makes one lose 2 close friends??

Hi zhpshql, see that is all depends on you. If you love her say that you have to meet your friends she can understand know. Why you are not talking to her so openly why you hesitate to tell to your girl friend, is she told you that because of me you have to leave your friends? You need not to loose or departed from your best/good/close friends. If you convince them will they not understand you? then what is the meaning of friendship. Be happy, don't worry, be open with your friends or girl friend so no problems. Everything is in our hands. Have a good day.

You wouldnt find it too tiresome if you enjoy spending time with her. Are you sure you're in love?

Hi Zhpshql, Relationships always seem to start off like that because it is so exciting as you get to know each other. Then you reach a point where you start to feel comfortable with each other and you should not need to spend so much time together. You should have time with your friends and she should have time with hers and going after her interests. And then you should have some time for just each other and mutual friends and interests. If you can't balance that then the relationship will just crash. You can't seclude yourself to just one person all the time. I'm glad you are going out with your buddies this week. Your friends are important too. You should be able to have a relationship and still have time for your friends. If you can't then the relationship just won't work out.

I think you have to set up a schedule of meeting with your girl friend. As for me, I set my dating with my girl friend on Sunday only. I make it started on early morning from 10am to midnight. We do shopping, go cinema, go food court and drink at pub. Although it is a hurry, we like to be.

Well don't seem to me like you are serious being in love. I have been with my fiance for 5 years, we do not go everywhere together every second, and we never get bored with each other. His best friends are all my best friends too. I share everything with him including watching football even I will scream at the stadium as loud as he does too. Nothing wrong with spending time together, but I don't see you two are sharing a hobby together, you are just going with obligation and stuff. What you need here is as a guy, you supposed to lead the relationship maturely and teach your girlfriend to understand the relationship between you two if you have the intention of being in a relationship with her longer. You are wrong if what you do is pamper her all the time, that is not an exact right way to enjoy relationship. Don't only blame your girlfriend, you have a responsibility there to lead the relationship right too. Good luck and have a nice day!

Yes i agree on that as far as i know having a close friends are too important but when you make a decision between friends or your new girlfriend some always select their girlfriend but for me i always select my close frineds. :)

I feel as if you are not in love with her because you can easily get tired after hanging around with her for how long? Two weeks? What will happen when you get married because you will have to face her every day. Maybe it's time to ask yourself whether you really like to be in her company.

You seem to be taking this relationship seriously too fast. Dont put your friends on the side. Its as if ur telling them: I needed you to hide away my loneliness till I find a gf. Take care

How are you doing, zhpshql? I haven't seen you on here in a long time! I'm sure you've been working as well as spending time with your gf. I've been away for a while, myself, but I've been back for about two or three weeks now. I had a bf like this one time. I met him when I was in college and anytime we weren't in class, he thought he had to spend every second with me! I got pretty sick of him, too! We had a pretty stormy relationship but we had a lot of good times together, too. I needed time to study and do things without him around. Your gf must be pretty lonely. Have you tried talking to her about this?

Yes, that's what my bf once told me. To him, it's tiring for us to see each other everyday and he's bored of the routine. He needs his space and he needs his friends. I realize how happy he is whenever there's a gathering for them or some kind occasions which he can't reject. It's also due to this change I see, makes me feel how possessive I'm actually is. Much as I always wanted him to be around for me and accompany always, I know I have to change. We are all adults now and we should not kill each other's privacy and space.

I used to have the same situation before. I spent all of my free time with my boyfriend. I never seem to have spare time to spent with my friends but I never felt like you did. I was ok and contented about it. I didn't get tired of being with him those times. My friends understood my situation and it was fine with them. True friends understands and will always be happy if their friends are happy. In your case, if you'll tell that to your friends, they get annoyed with your girlfriend. They wouldn't want to hear you complaining about it since they might have been thinking that you are ok all these times. ^_^

well, it's true. i dont have friend anymore after i build my relationship with my boyfriend. i'm afraid that he will be mad if my friend is more important than him. anyway, my boyfriend is a person that doesnt want to be faraway from me. he's always stick to me no matter where i go. you are the person that want to have free time from your girlfriend, well mine is the opposite. but because me and him love each other, i think we dont have much trouble of losing our friend as long as we are together

There should be time for your friends. If she's a good person, she'll be perfectly fine with you spending more time with them. Sometimes during a new relationship, it's so exciting and causes so many good feelings that all you want to do is spend time with your significant other. That is normal. If your friends and good friends, they will be understanding about this. Just do what you want. If you want to spend time with your GF, spend time with your GF and if you want to spend time with your friends, spend time with your friends! And if you want to be alone, then by all means! Just relax and Have fun!