Solve This Curiosity Of Mine

She made her mind up prior to the call, my thinking is that it is quite alright to get two sided opinions but one must be open minded to listen to both sides and then maybe later say my original decision is best. She on the other hands asked the question, would not listen to opposing and intermittently and at end of the show said I will call you when I get back, hmm makes me think, like here whereas members ask for advice but then you give them your opinion right, and they come back all rude and upset for your opinion. Life is funny that way sometimes we just learn to well voice our opinion and hope the best for the individual and move. Thanks for responding.

Yeah many people are like this and truly not open to discussing but looking for confirmation. Sometimes when we think we are going to make a one way decision, it sure helps to at least listen to all the pros and cons and later make your own decision as this way if things do not work out at least there will be no regrets.

Not that many people have open minds, usually people are quite stubborn and well set in their minds. Sometimes, even if they know they are making a mistake, they refuse to change due to pride or some other silly notions.

Many callers into the show were right there with you, exactly the same but I suppose that she is so head over heels for this guy she can't let him go alone. Hopefully it will work out for her in the end. But yes her degree would be for ever and a boyfriend who knows.

Oh yeah I sing it from time to time and I was just thinking after another reply seem to me that there was something else the probability of losing the guy and if it is real love then there would be no worries I think. So perhaps insecurity and infatuation is kicking in, hmm hopefully no regrets for her later.

You are right. Love is blind, never be trapped. We must face the realities in our living. If he is really loving you, no matter how, no matter when, no matter where, no matter what, no matter why, he will still be right the way waiting for you. Have you heard about this song? ha! ha! ha!

I listen to the whole 45 minute segment and for the life of me could not understand why she felt the need to ask as she was completely convinced that this is what she wanted to do. But you are right for love we are capable of doing just about anything.

For some people it is a matter of acceptance, the feel they need the approval of others. It is beyond me as well, both will still be there when you finish the other, follow your heart, the rest will work out.

That is how I always see things as I am one who really thinks out the pros and cons and once I make up my mind I feel I am following my heart so therefore later if things did not actually work out I feel I made my own mistake and will learn from it, as the heart does dictate stronger than the mind.

That would be true, however she would not listen and contradicted all the suggestions she got. I on the other hand feel that her degree would be best to finish now, as she would not be leaving with her husband as he is only her boyfriend so for her to take that risk and perhaps be trapped by life's obligation as later she may not get the chance to return back to school. I suppose she will only know this is she gave it a try, I sure wish her luck as I wonder why she needs to get opinions if she is so in love, you see where I ge this feeling and curiosity??

Exactly! Heart reigns over the mind in certain matters like these.

I have done a few things in my life based on my heart and look back now and hoped I did not.

Yeah I kept saying to myself she knows she wants to go, but then she knows that perhaps getting that 3rd degree could be something special too. But her heart is dictating stronger than her brain so I suppose she basically wanted to hear someone say oh go.

Even when logic keeps knocking and you continue to ask?

I think it depends on the person. Some think out loud, some need to have someone else as a sounding board. I read somewhere that when a girlfriend or wife complains they get irritated if the boyfriend or husband give them solutions. In some cases, they want to let out some frustration or one somebody to listen to them. This may be such a case. What do you think?

Well that makes sense, but she contradicted every tiny piece of opinion anyone had offered. It was clear that she had already made up her mind and was not listening and or saying she was going to think a bit more. In fact she said I will call you all back when I get back from Spain, after she got a bit frustrated with any form of opinion. I wish her well and hope she has fun in Spain, as hopefully she does return and complete her degree as she is not leaving with a husband as she said it was her boyfriend, so my thinking is, if she was so in love why would it be a question. hmmm

Yes she started very meek and wanting avid advice but each time one of the female jockey said it was not a good idea the woman kept trying to put in another great reason why she should go. It got so ridiculous that I almost wanted to call in as no one address, could she afford to do this right now in her life as if they would have asked maybe it would have made sense. But you are right some people already have their mind set and well they just need like a "mommy" to say it is okay. HA!

I suppose once we have experience some things in life we can think logically, although she is 29 and madly in love. My thinking if it is true love would it still not be there later when she is done with school.

It just dawned on me while replying to kristeena above that why would she be calling strangers, hmmm you think that maybe there is more there than she was actually conveying. Seriously if you had a boyfriend who you loved and loved you and this was your predicament, the answer would obviously be yes I am going or no I have to finish and if we are so in love we will be there for each other later. hmm made me think maybe there is something else like she is probably trying to hold on to him and is willing to risk her education. Silly girl...

Oh many callers where saying the same as you that if they were truly in love perhaps 1 1/2 year is not a long wait. But naturally she must truly be in love as well she sounded like she had her mind up the more the show progressed. I am with you as education is something no one can take and after all this is not her husband, so I suppose she should have considered that, but oh you should have heard her saying that school will be here when she got back. My thinking is oh yes it would be but would it be for her after independently venturing the world and perhaps obligations kicking in after that.

Seriously she was like all over the show saying but, but, but.. so clearly she had already made up her mind. I suppose she is like some people that will go all out talking about something looking for someone to say you go girl and get to Spain. I guess when you are in love you really do not think out the whole picture, hopefully she won't have regrets later. If this were her husband that would be a bit different. A boyfriend if true love would encourage her to finish.

Imagine how awesome to complete that degree. I am thinking that perhaps there is something really there, like maybe, just maybe the boyfriend, although she is love, maybe something is not quite right and she feels that not going with him she would lose him. Sometimes when my friends ask questions like this I often wonder if they are telling me the whole truth as common sense tells her she needs to finish what she started as an education is forever.

Interesting analogy and I like it all too, it sure clears some other thoughts that ran through my mind. Perhaps she had her mind set but yet wanted to see other people reactions as maybe she knows what she is doing is not quite what most would opt to do, but yet she wants to see how others think despite her decision. Pretty interesting.

I do not think she is canceling as she ended by saying I will call you back when I return from Spain. Either way she has two wonderful opportunities so I wish her all the happiness which ever route she goes.

Yeah it seems she had her mind set on that as she was giving 100 excuses, Still somewhere she herself wasn't sure whether she should take this opportunity or not and hence wanted 100 satisfying replies to her 100 excuses which might have changed her decision :D. Onother thing is, may be she wanted to let the whole world know that she has got this wonderful opportunity by the means of radio station :D. she might have told her boyfriend to put on the radio before calling there, not leaving any chance to show him how much she was excited to go with him and in reality after that she might have canceled the trip hehehehe :P.

Yeah sometimes I see it this way too, as I have several acquaintances who do the same too. But you should have heard her as she sounded like the one running the show as everything the woman said made no bearing on her decision.

Hi Tina! Yes I often pray really hard and leave it up to Gods hands. Something like this should have been more thought of as love if strong will certainly be there when she finishes her school. From what I understand to date she did quit the school and went on to Spain, I have not heard how life has been since and hope she is doing well.

Interesting way to put and yes I do know some people like this we call them professional students. They type as you mentioned avoiding to get employment. hehehe, I too thought the same as well why 3, but Spain may be a one time opportunity. I sure wish her luck and hope life does not get caught up with her as imagine what will she do for work later. Thanks for responding.

I absolutely agree with you as if you would have heard her there really was no reasoning by her calling as she had already had her mind set, so I suppose at this point luck and prayers for her with her decision.

That is the most rational thing anyone should do but from I understood after listening to the show that people like her do not think rationally, instead live by the moment and then expect the world to agree with her. But I am with you on this one as an education will certainly allow any relationship to further grow.

Yup! My friend. Because I do believe that education first before that relationship being concentrated. Relationship will be wait even if at the end of the stage. If love really comes that real. But if the love is not being faithful then want to see each other for lust I think that is a different thing

Great response my friend and I am most thankful for you continual thread. You are right there is more there than she actually said.

mmmmm... Okay

Silly...

Very well said and I truly never looked at this way. I am glad you posted this it is going to make a world of difference next time one of my acquaintances comes to me in this fashion, as I have many who do. It puts a whole other perspective to how I saw things. Thank you for the response and you also be blessed.

Yes one of the ladies suggested she do just that and she stated that she would not have the time in Spain to study as she wanted to make use of the time in venturing. She my thought is why would anyone attempt to get a 3rd degree, however once doing so why not finish. As later may be too late, even a year and half can be too late. What happens if things do not work out with the boyfriend, what if she just doesn't adapt to Spain, and ultimately what happens if she ends up deeper in love. Where does it leave the schooling. Ideally she can pick up later but how many of us have that luxury later. On any note though she basically was asking what do you think, should I finish my school or go to Spain with the boyfriend, but immediately upon one of the ladies reasoning about finishing she would not hear it so I was curious as to why people ask if they simply just won't even listen to reasoning. She could have said I appreciate all the avid advice and ultimately I will have to make my decision. Instead she said but, but, but.. I will call you when I get back and let you know what happen. See she was not open unless someone agreed with her. Thanks for responding, am grateful.