i feel pity for her

@hushi22 (4928)
October 22, 2010 12:05am CST
i have this friend who is an ESL teacher and for the past days she's been sharing to us her giggling moments for having a vietnamese admirer. she learned it from the teacher of the vietnamese. now she's been floating for this thought, but last night when we went out for a gimmick, we played truth or dare with the guy. there was a question regarding this matter and guy said he only like her as a friend and nothing more. her face was totally disappointed. how pitiful. =(
10 responses
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
Oh well at least the only consolation is she found it earlier rather than keep on hoping that she will be noticed . But it doesn't mean that it is the end of the story because we all know how love can be mysterious and magical sometimes. She can start befriending him more but not getting so cozy.Maybe one of the days he will notice how kind hearted she is and how pretty she is really. (^_^)
@hushi22 (4928)
28 Oct 10
yes, you were right. the story continued few more days, but still ended up and she realized that she didnt like him.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
she shouldn't let this thing gets into her nerves.Unless, the guy tells him straight of the real score, she must not over react. She has over reacted already hearing he admire her and now she is also over reacting that his admiration is nothing more than friendship.... By the way, admiration could mean a lot of different things. It shouldn't be interpreted as romantically triggered thought alone because sometimes admiration can also happen even in a platonic relationship....
@hushi22 (4928)
28 Oct 10
yeah....i agree with you. the problem was she thought ahead of time that he was so into her, so he was hurt.
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
i think the guy is pretending and playing it safe...bcuz he dont wanna be embarrassed infront of many ppl and to avoid issues
@foofermen (500)
22 Oct 10
He may have lied to protect his pride. I have done that before. Was the admirer a student? If so, then it is a VERY real possibility he was lying ;) or if there were a lot of people there he might have been embarrassed. He may have felt as though he had no chance to be with her and therefore had to let it go.
@hushi22 (4928)
28 Oct 10
woah...you have a point there. but is that a common perception of guys?
22 Oct 10
Maybe the guy just lied because he still doesn't want the girl to know his feelings towards her. Maybe he's too shy to admit it in front of many people.
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
Ouch! She better just go on with her life and forget about what happened.
@chaselee (240)
• Philippines
22 Oct 10
Just like what they mentioned earlier that the guy might have been lying when he said that. First is because he might be the shy type kind of guy. Another reason would be that maybe he just doesn't have the courage to say it plus the fact that he might also be considering what the girl might feel because some girls might be embarrassed by it. And if the guy is really saying the truth that he only like her as a friend it doesn't mean that there won't be a chance that he will like her as more than friends in the future. There's always hope. *wink*
@Harold_ks (1673)
22 Oct 10
maybe, he just didn't tell the truth because he is shy to tell his true feelings for the girl in front of people. but the real answer will depend on his actions, when they are alone together. of course the girl would feel if the guy has a feelings for her. well, maybe time will come that the guy would be confident enough to tell the girl what he really feels. on the other hand, if it is really true that all he want for the girl is purely friendship then at least the girl knew it early before she may fall for the guy. at least it's clear now and she don't need to expect anything more than friendship from that guy.
• Philippines
22 Oct 10
Your friend was given a wrong information. Sometimes we fall in love with the idea of love, and not really for the person. And perhaps it was a case of just feeling nice knowing that you have an admirer. And when your friend found out otherwise, it could be just the pride that was hit. Something like..."Ooopppsss! Wrong number!" She'll get over the disappointment soon enough. Pity may not be the word.
@zoekling (70)
• Philippines
22 Oct 10
ohhh..how sad..maybe its just his way to hide his feelings for her,but the consequence is it hurts the girl..:(