Loving your children or spoiling them?

yes, yes. i notice that, too. a lot of people interchange these words esp when giving the wants of the child, not just the needs. they say they do that because they love the child but it seemed like they are spoiling the child. =)

Yeah, it's not good to spoil your children. I know that you really love your children and would like to fulfill each and every wish of your kids. But you also need to teach them how to make use of your needs on correct time rather than buying them everything they ask for. Now, they won't realize that once they grow up it's going to be hard for them to cope up. And always point out wrong things to them, the moment they do it, so that they start to know that this is wrong and we shouldn't repeat it from the next time onwards.

Dear friend, Some are spoils in the situations they are in. Some get spoiled when there is no one to guide through the right path and right path is mostly got from parents. I feel no parents want to see their child spoil.

Hi, I do believe every parent will love their own children and so do I. I do pamper my son sometimes,but I know the limit. and I also know when to be strict to him and when to play with him. Be it, I love my son, but I want him to know what is discipline. He has to follow my rules in order to be better person in future. I have the responsibility to educate him well. Don't over spoil our own children,or else, you may end up regret in future. Try to spend more times with your children. Bring them out once a week or have a family gathering more frequently.

I agree with you but just the same, sometimes people assume that if they love their children too much they are spoiling them. I think there's nothing wrong with loving your child so much. I guess it's okay to give your child whatever makes them happy. We just have to be careful not to let your child feel they can always get their way whether it's right or wrong. We also have to teach them the value of things and discipline them when they do something wrong. Loving them doesn't mean tolerating them if they did something wrong. It would be great to have a child with values and at the same time very loving and that they can learn if we love them the right way.

hi there i agree with you totally. some might say that giving your child material things is a way to show them our love. why not try to spend time listening to what they have to share of how their school day turn out is a way of showing that we care. child development is not only measured in academics but also of how our child face life even though we are not watching.

I dont think so any mother want to spoil her kids.Many time parents dont know how to handle situation and sometime there are other people in home who spoil them. Loving is not equal to spoiling.Love can be soft as well as hard.