the STRONGEST mother i've ever known
By eelennah
@eelennah (82)
Philippines
October 22, 2010 9:56pm CST
i have three siblings, one brother and two sisters, and i'm the eldest. since i was a child i always witness a terrifying argument from my mother and father. the usual thing that they argue upon is third party, my father's being alcoholic, and his influence on drugs. my mother has endured this for more than 20 years already. not much has changed about my father now and i wonder how my mother endured all the pain and sufferings from my father. one fight i couldn't forget was when my father was so angry that he threw a saucer to my mother and it hit my baby sister on the forehead and blood was dripping. i was so nervous that time and i was crying. it was a terrible happening. an innocent child was involved in their fight and my father blamed my mother for that.
not just my father but also my younger brother is a problem. he's not serious with his studies and even repeated his third year in high school. he always skip classes just to play computer games and what's worse, he steals money but not to the extent that he steals money from other people. he only steals from relatives. we are not rich but we just have enough money to eat 3 times a day. my mother is strong enough to face these problems and enough to stand 20 long years for our family. she said that had it not been for us, her children, she would leave my father for good. and yet, she suffered for us. that's why i'm very proud of my mother and i love her so much. how about you? do you have a mother who is like mine?
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7 responses
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
24 Oct 10
Hi,
When I read your post, I feel so sad of your mother and
I believe she is very strong person since your father has been
treated her so bad ,but for the sake of her children,she still
can bear with all the pain and hurt for more than 20 years.
Not easy,but she really can make it.
the main problem is your brother seem not going to the right path.maybe
the influences from your father's attitude.
As his siblings and being the eldest in family,you have the right to educate
your brother and give him some advices.Explain to her how hard has your mother
been working and bear with all the pain for so long.
Tell your brother that he still has long way to go and please choose the
right path or else his future will gone.
I saluted your mother and do bear in mind, always love your mother and
try to spend more time with her.
@eelennah (82)
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
thank you and i will always love my mother. seems like my brother just needed some attention i believe. he needed to feel being loved. and what i'm doing is just im being nice to him and ask him what he wants. but my brother changed a bit now. but he doesn't stay much in the house. he stays in our grandparents' house because our grandmother is very kind and so caring. i guess he felt that he is more welcome there compared to our house because my parents always scold him, that's why. but then, at least he has changed no matter how little it could be. i always pray for the goodness of our family and for the enlightenment of both my father and my brother.
@girlaloosh01 (154)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
Your mother loves you so much and also your siblings. I believe that almost all mothers in the whole wide world are like that. Mothers are more family-oriented that fathers do. Our family is also suffering in that situation when I was just in highschool, but fortunately things have changed already, and everything are settled now. All I can say during that time was that my mother is very strong despite the occurrences that had happened during that time.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
23 Oct 10
Hi eelennah,
Your mother is so great, take nice care of her always. She deserved your love and care at least in her life. She sacrificed her life for her kids.
Fortunately my father is a good person and he never harmed any of s in any manner. He has given good education to all of us and worked for his family. My mother is no more, yes she was also great. 
Fortunately my father is a good person and he never harmed any of s in any manner. He has given good education to all of us and worked for his family. My mother is no more, yes she was also great.
@eelennah (82)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
oh, sorry bout your mother. but yo are very fortunate enough to have a good father and a good mother. not all has both. and yes, my mother deserves everything good in this world i believe. that's why i am very much eager to finish my studies so that i can work and treat my mother to everything she does not have or anything she has not experienced yet. of course not just my mother but also my father and my siblings.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
23 Oct 10
I would say that my mother is one of the strongest people that I have ever met in my life. However, I think she is strong in ways that are much different from the ways that your mother is strong. My mother was widowed when I was fourteen, my brother was twelve and my sister was eight. It was up to her then for the first time in her life to do everything for us and though it took a little bit of time for her to put everything together, it was something that she was able to do eventually.
@eelennah (82)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
she surely is! mothers can be strong in many ways. but generally speaking, a strong mother survives any hardships or challenges that life may give. i am happy that there are many mothers in this world who are strong enough to battle with the worst events that would come into their lives most especially with our world now. take care always!
@tjen_anni (317)
• Indonesia
23 Oct 10
You have a great mother....a mother's love is the greatest love of all. There is a word said, 'a mother is our angel on the earth'. I believe it's true.
my mother is also a great mom too. She was betrayed by my father long time ago. When my father gained his success, had a lot of money, he left us for another woman. Very often, he hit my mother with something when my mother asked why he didn't come home that night. They got divorce after few years. Then my father came home, he was sick. His business fell down. I didn't any respect at all to him. Otherwise,my mother accepted him and forgave his terrible mistakes. His illness was burdening us, but my mother took care of him with love till he passed away.....
That's the story of my wonderful mother..
@eelennah (82)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
your mother is very kind. she managed to forgive your mother despite all the bad things he has done to your mother. i don't think i can even do that! you have a great my mother. but you know what? i guess you should have respected your father. he is still your father and everybody commits mistakes. i still love my father even though he has done many bad things to us. i even said to my grandmother that no matter how you make the world upside down, he still is my father. people like him should be prayed for. but anyway, everything happened and everything can't be changed now. but i hope that you would learn to forgive. :)
@rdm001 (69)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
We have almost the same situation. My mom is awesome, super super super awesome. You see, I grew up knowing that we are the second family of my as$hole dad even so I did not put much thought into it since I already knew about it ever since I was a kid. This kind of thing was fun back then because I get to see my half sisters during weekends, then the day dad have to go to Brunei to work, at first yes he is sending us money for financial support, then a couple of months later he just stopped sending money, I grew up knowing that we have lots of money but not that much, then when he stopped sending money, we suffered greatly, we were penniless. my mom had to vend exotic foods in the street so that I can have something for allowance, then at night she's gonna go and do this illegal thing called jai alai, she became our father, but right now, everything is kinda of okay since we got used to this crap and she got a better job now, and me too. i love my mom
@eelennah (82)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
yes every mom is awesome! that's why we should thank them all the time and don't stop showing that you love and care for them too. i know that every parent longs to be loved and cared by their children. in our life, we experience great challenges in life, thank God because he made you experience it because i'm sure you can deal with other problems more easily because you already have a greater experience. hope that you would cherish every moment you have with your parents.. God bless!
@Bingster_6 (309)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
I believe that your Mother loves you that much and as well as your whole family, she stays strong for the reason, the children she have is the family she ever treasures. And on your part is the hardest way to accept having a father like him, but still he is your father and you love him as your father, God has put it this way to make relationships stronger and it depends on the person how they adapt to their attitude if the atmosphere of their home is somewhat the same as yours. And I'm happy to hear that you still have the strength and maintain your love to your family especially to your mother. Your mother is an extraordinary one, we barely see person like her, and my mother too, she is the best mother I ever had in my whole life, I thank her for being with us always even though we belong to a big family, she stays cool and calm, sometimes we resist arguments, but we have solutions to it and continue living a good life. Stay strong eelennah.
@eelennah (82)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
thank you very much. well, my earliest memory of them fighting was when i was on my first grade. my mother almost shot my father with a shotgun! that was horrible! but then, sooner i got used to it but sometimes i cry because i get hurt whenever i see my mother crying and being hit by my father. i still love my father despite the things he has done. i accepted him but hoping that he would change.
good for you that you also have a good mother. i believe i'm strong because if i'm not, i would have not lasted this far. thanks again! :)
