Selecting Children's Husband/Wife... Who? Parents or Children?
By visavis
@visavis (5934)
Philippines
October 23, 2010 8:19am CST
We can say parents knows what are the best for their children. Right? They are guiding their children from childhood upto their completeness. From selecting courses, guiding their decision, protecting from bad attitudes and many more. How about selecting their own family or husband/wife to be? Is it also from their power? I know some culture and tradition according to their country but tell us your views about this.
For me I am the one who decide to whom I want based on my feelings. They said that feelings is not important than obeying parents decision.
See you around...
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10 responses
@gahoi1785 (121)
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
hi visavis,
i thinks its the children's right to decide for themselves if there are on the right age and really knows what's about it. what its all about.
after all, its them who's taking the marriage and not their parents.
happy mylotting.
:-)
@kskumudha (50)
• India
24 Oct 10
In my point of view, parents decision is very important because they know their children's needs. In our Tamil Nadu, love marriages are always forbidden by the parents. So they went out and get married. So they didn't get any support from their parents when they met any problems in the married life. Nowadays, most of the divorce cases are occurred from love marriages.
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
Thank you to your views about your culture and tradition, appreciate that. Arrange marriage for the children is a little bit baseless, meaning in that part of the children life parents should know, the feelings and wants are regardless and useless. Love is not the main reason of marriage might be security and tradition.. Anyway I respect your views.. see you around.
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
23 Oct 10
parents should never involve in children's decision in what concernes their life partner. they should have the right to decide who to marry and and who not...they are teh ones who'll live and have a family with the other person and not their parents. so from my point of view it's the children who should decide :)
@faithloveire (69)
• Oman
23 Oct 10
I strongly believe that parents should let their kids decide on who to marry in the future. It's true that your parents only want the best and they want you to be happy, but sometimes, they need to step back and let you do the rest. They can give advice and tell you what they think of someone, but they can't do anymore than that. And besides, you should marry someone who you're going to be happy with and someone you love. Marriage is a commitment, and if its founded only in the decision of your parents, it might not last very long and could end up in a mess.
@Galena (9110)
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23 Oct 10
I don't think it's right for ANYONE else to make the choice of who you live the rest of your life with, but you and your partner.
parents may mean well, but they are not you. they won't understand all of the tiny subtle parts of what you need in life to be happy. because they are not you.
and it's not like misjudging what you'd like for your birthday. this is the rest of your life.
you should be with the person that you LOVE.
if you don't love them, you shouldn't marry them. and if you do love them, what kind of a parent would expect you to marry someone else.
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
parents' role is to guide their children and not to command or make demands. In choosing one's own family, the decision falls comes from the couple and not from the people around them. I am a parent now and I am not the kind who will impose something on my children they do not desire much more affairs of the heart.
@starlight_starbright (810)
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
I would obey my parents in everything except for choosing the one I would be spending my whole life with. I could not imagine being with someone just simply because my parents one that person for me. It would be alright if I somehow love that person. ^_^
@Karunvig (714)
• India
26 Oct 10
Well if u obey ur parents and havnt hide anythng frm ur parents thn let ur parents decide who will b ur partner and if u take ur own decision and ur parents dont knw who all are associated with u and kind of guy u r outside the house thn u take the initiative and choose ur partner...
