do u consult ur parents before making a big decision?

Yeah, I think I do. Things like going to marry someone, planing to buy a house in a city, I would ask my parents' opinions. And what's more, I need their supports. Months ago, I wanted to buy a second-hand house. Aftering telling my parents about the house condition, they suggested not to buy it. And now I feel good that I followed their advice because now I don't think it's worth to buy that house and begin to think it's too old.

Yes, I consult with the family about big decisions. They have the right to know, and also the right to share their opinions about it.

They way I see it, my parents will always have more experience with life than I do. Therefore, I'll probably keep consulting them before I make a very big decision. They probably have something interesting to say, and maybe they see your decision in a way that you have not yet thought about. Parents are great for consulting and at least my parents are always more than glad to help. They're just happy that I share my life with them - that's what they say. I love my family :)

Hi Harry A a grown woman I see no need to consult with my parents about anything I do in my life unless its something that directly involves them but I do however believe in discussing things with my family be it my husband and children or my siblings if I want advice about something theres a difference between consulting and asking permission to do something ,so I agree with the consulting but not asking permission

i don't consult from them often. if i do, i do it in a discreet way, like turning the advise searching sentence into a question that somehow needs their own experience. like making them go back to their past then after a few lines of conversations i ask them the real questions. sometimes though, i ask my friends or just survey it from people who've 'been there, done that' or just think about it myself and weigh the facts.

well, wether you like it or not, the people surround you, especially the nearest and closest one include ur parents will get the effect and consequences of ur decision, so i really think they deserve atleast to know or it's more better if u ask their opinion. i usually talk to my father

I really appreciate your views about the family and the role it plays in our life dear Harry! Its true that our parents has taken much pains in making us big,physically, mentally and socially. It is just because of them only we are here. They have lot of experience and since they are senior to us their experience will be any day more than us and they are capable of giving better advises. But as you said after a certain stage one should take one's own decisions to keep pace with life. This helps one to built confidence in oneself which is a must for leading a successful life. More over after the marriage he leads the family and he should have his own personality of leader in the family on whom the wife and children of the family can rely upon! This is a natural phenomenon and this is part and parcel of one's life! But this doesn't mean that after we becoming parents we should neglect our parents. We should respect our parents and involve them in important events and decision making things in front of our kids so that they also should learn about these things and they behave in a similar way. This chain should be kept continued. today I am 50 and unfortunately I lost my father 4 years back and till the time he was alive I always used to treat him with utmost respect and used to take his advise in any serious matters! Today I miss him terribly and realise what an elderly advise can mean to one! Thanks friend ! This discussion yours was thought provoking one and enjoyed responding to your discussion! Thanks !

If I need advice I trust my parents more so than I do anyone elses judgment, as I know from my own experience that they haven't guided me wrong. My wife plays a big part in this too, so family are very important when it comes to advice and needing someone to speak with. It's what being a family is all about.

This all depends on how big the decision is and what it means to my life. The bigger the obstacle or greater the joy, the more i would consult a parent. Some decisions don't seem worthy to get another opinion, Other decisions are just meant for it.

Yes, I always talk with my parents when I have to make an important decision. It is very important to me to find out what they think about that certain matter, issue I am having and I always consider what they say. It is not a rule of my own to do like they say, but it is good to listen to my parents opinion, because they have much more life experience than me.

I do not consult with them for small matters. Nor do I for important ones too. I do ask them for advice only when I am confused and am not able to reach to a conclusion about something. Then I ask them and then too, decide accordingly but dont follow their advice blindly. Because even though they are way experienced in some matters and I do respect them for their age and wisdom, sometimes even their decisions are not the right ones and they dont work for me. It has happened many times and now I have learnt to trust my judgements. And if they fail, take the responsibility of those failures too.

I actually do consult my parents if i will make big and very big decisions of my life. What I mean by that is that our parents knows a lot of stuff and they can actually suggest things that can really affect our decisions. Yeah, you're right, their experience is what we need to hear from then as their children! :D