Is showing how broken hearted you are in the worldwideweb a weakness?
@peterpancomplex (438)
Philippines
October 23, 2010 9:02pm CST
I had my heart broken once and it took me four years to fall inlove again, ive never tried blogging my feelings when it comes to love, writing on my own yes, but i never publish it to the web, i envy those people who are brave enough to do so. I often think it helps them, move on faster, i get tempted couple of times, to blog about the hurt but I end up not doing it because I don't want the person who have hurt me to know how much power he held over me before.
Have you tried doing this? how's the feeling? is it freeing?
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12 responses
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
As you did say, its somehow showing how you have gotten over the situation by being able to write about it and more so, post it for a lot of people to see and read. A sign of weakness? Perhaps to some people but, being able to admit defeat is somehow a bravery on its own. Others who can sympathize might even respond and give you encouragement to move on. Probably, those people that would do that are the ones who can read it and supportive.
I have done that before but, not as straight forward as it could be. I would compose it in such a way that anonymity would help conceal the details. Just a good dose of imagery to help illustrate the emotions of pain and disappointment. By doing so, its as if I have finalized such distraught and initiate to move on.
Releasing emotions is good for you than to keep them all to yourself. It might be hard to control when its too much, as they say.
@peterpancomplex (438)
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
I see, another question popped in my head though...is there such a thing as different level of hearts being broken? or theres just one?
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@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
Different levels for hearts being broken...?
Seems like a possibility since everyone is different and with such difference, we all have different ways when we face different situations in our lives but, to categorize them might be close to impossible since one should at least have a constant basis when making levels and since people are different, perhaps they'd have their own different levels of hearts being broken.
Reason for that is, say one got heart broken before and after a few years, another heart ache happened. We can't just say that the first experience would be similar to the recent one as experience would somehow influence the person's coping mechanism to the situation. Then you would consider age, gender, the duration of the relationship that caused the heart ache and so on with the other aspects that would affect how a person would associate their feelings of heart aches.
@tummalapalli (251)
• India
11 Nov 10
I never blog any of my feelings.... But it helps to discuss it in here or any other such discussions where people discuss all their problems and several of their experiences... Which would surely help us move on.... But I couldn't actually move on.... Its been a couple of years... But I just couldn't think of another girl....
@peterpancomplex (438)
• Philippines
24 Nov 10
I think i would like that too, putting it on a page where everyone is talking about it, its show how open they are unlike in blogging that people would give unsolicited comments just because they can and hurt your feelings further. I think you will beable to move on someday, it takes time and when you do, you can love well again.
@substance (585)
• India
30 Nov 10
I left my ex and he was so hurt and even after many years he called me up once or twice to tell me that he still have feelings for me where as i have moved on long back and he occupies a very small part of my mind/heart. But it does makes me feel good to hear it, me being just a human being. huh...
I think its interesting to blog about your love rather than your hurt because it doesn't make anyone the better or the wiser.
And since its already 4 years, better move on and it doesn't make sense to bring up old stuffs/hurts whatever since you have already fallen in love again like you said..
I think its interesting to blog about your love rather than your hurt because it doesn't make anyone the better or the wiser.
And since its already 4 years, better move on and it doesn't make sense to bring up old stuffs/hurts whatever since you have already fallen in love again like you said.. 
@creyos (275)
• Indonesia
24 Oct 10
I always do blogging everytime I have something in my feelings, happy or sad as well as broken hearted. Because I think it's the best way for the introvert people to relieve the feelings. And I did think about what you think too, it will be very shameful if the person or someone who knows about me read my blogging.
So I usually wrote my story using an alias name. Or I did write it onto poem, or created a disguise story which expressed the situation and our feelings.
The weird thing is it will be more smooth for me to write when I'm broken hearted, everything will just flow out easily from my mind. And after I passed it, I read all over again then there will come a fun and feel how stupid I am, or sometimes I can use the writings for getting money.
@peterpancomplex (438)
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
I see, you are brave then, I am always scared to write what i really feel on my blog, unless, i know no one's reading it. but thats a great idea, poetry and disguise story. and i think its a good relief to get something out of what you wrote, you are able to move on better and earn from it too, after all those pain, at least theres a compensation.
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
30 Nov 10
Well i needed two years for my once broken heart to heal .
When i will fall again i dont know .
I did not try then i did not bloged anyway , but sharing with people even though u dont know can show you the goods and the bad things , and make you move on faster (i think ) :)
Topic is from month but who cares :P
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
22 Feb 12
I just sometimes some quotations in Facebook if i am broken hearted. I don't make a blog on internet because i really don't know how to make a blog.
I think those people who write a blog about their love life can also help them release all the pain that they have inside there heart and they are also looking for some advice of other for them can to easily move on.
I think those people who write a blog about their love life can also help them release all the pain that they have inside there heart and they are also looking for some advice of other for them can to easily move on. @sender621 (14890)
• United States
24 Oct 10
Showing people that you can get broken hearted should not be seen as a weakness. it shows how much feeling and compassion you have. It shows your ability to give and receive love. it should not be frowned on. It should be shown the way to heal.
@achilles2010 (3051)
• India
25 Oct 10
Sharing your sorrows with others does help in a way that it lightens your heart and helps you to get over it. However, one must not brood over it too long. The people here on the net are just strangers to you. All they would want to see is that you quickly get over it. They would sympathize with you once or at the most twice but not always and not forever.
@sweetmary86 (822)
• Philippines
30 Nov 10
im not expressive when it comes to these issues on facebook. but sometimes i might post in indirectly using quotes. i dont want to give the world the idea that im such a pathetic loser but then the guy's not really worth it. so i prefer to be discreet and secretive. but sometimes it does help too when you need people to sympathize with your heartaches and they give advise too which is a good thing.
@wealthymouli (710)
• India
30 Oct 10
I do not think it is a weakness. truly speaking, there is a chance u getting one more chance with a similar broken heart and who knows this time it last long. so be frank, do not control ur emotions.
@hakuyo (200)
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24 Oct 10
I think that expressing your feelings in the world wide web is useful because for example, i am really shy and i am not talkative so i usually express my opinions online and get information and support. Once you do this, it feels like you got something out of your mind and body, and you will feel really free and happy
@glenapetite (37)
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
definitely not. I have a friend, her boyfriend for 6 years broke her heart. the whole world seen her cry and recover. And now the whole world saw her happy with her new guy
