As a wife do you obey husband's command??

Not going deeper to your discussion I just want to say that husbands are not commander and family is not a military platoon. Family life a relation of co-operation. No one has the commending authority there. It is a relation of mind. Decision should be taken in family life with consultation.

Hi Mods, No, you don't need to obey his command. It is not ok for either the husband or the wife to order the other around. As his wife, I would listen to his reasons as to why he feels I should quit working. I would, out of respect and love, consider his feelings.I would certainly think about it but if in my heart I did not see it necessary and if I wanted to continue working then I would. I would expect that he would respect my wishes as well. Does he work? Would he quit his job if you demanded him too?

I suspect there are plenty of wives out there ready to give you the quick answer to your question. But I think this issue is big and many-faceted, so the quick answer may not be the best answer. As some of your other commenters suggest, you and your husband need to find a way to communicate heart to heart about this issue to find the best answer. I can only imagine that your normal pace is quite hectic, so I think it will probably take some extra effort to make such a discussion happen. Might I suggest that you and your husband plan a night/day away together - hotel and no kids? The Bible does call for a family order where the wife obeys her husband. Many take that out of context and get irritated. The Bible also calls for a husband who loves his wife as Christ loved the church. How well each live out their role will depend on their love for one another and how much they help each other. You will need to discuss, communicate, listen, listen, listen and then see what might be a reasonable solution. The ideal, I believe, is that you would be more accessible to your children, but I do not know your situation. Find a good solution, and make your marriage stronger in the process.

First off NO ONE should tell you what to do! If you and your husband respect and love each other, then I could see doing what he may ask of you. I dont see you catering to his every waking need. I do what my man asks but only when I feel good about it. I love being able to oblige his requests. He also does what I ask as well. There's no obeying about it. Its all about respect. If he is commanding you to do things in a mean and nasty way, then you need to rethink this situation. It goes under the label of abuse if someone is making you do what he/she says. Its unfair. If you like your job then try to talk to him and explain the way you feel. If he insists you quit. Maybe you should try to make other arrangements for the children and ignore him. Show him you can do it without his help. dl

I don't like being told that I should obey. That makes me feel like a child and not a life partner to someone. A husband can let a wife knows what he would like her to do. he should not demand it of her.

Biblically,it says that as a wife, submit to your husband. So if that's the only thing you have to consider, follow him. But of course, you also have to consider what will be the next thing to happen if you resign. Things to consider.Is your husband working? If yes and you think financially, you will be okay if you resign, then resign. But if financially, you will not be okay, i guess you and your husband should talk about it so that he may understand the situation why you can't stop working. have an open communication with your husband. All you need to do is pray before you talk about it and always end your conversation with a prayer also. may the Lord gives you wisdom on deciding ...because always remember that family is always our first priority.

if my husband ORDERED me to do anything I'd laugh in his face. a marriage is an equal partnership. not one person in charge of the other on the basis of who got what body parts. you no more need to obey his order than he needs to obey yours. if you find it is enjoyable for you to work, why would he want you to stop working? and why would he think he has any right to tell you to stop? he needs to respect your choices.

Today here women become much more independent and we don't always obey to husbands. We can have our own minds. As to your situation, it is hard to say because it seems that you don't have enough time for your family because of work. I know a carer is also important for a woman, but sometimes the family plays a main role, too. And in my opinion family always goes first. Is it possible for you to work that is not so far away from your home? Having the family time after work is enjoyable. And you can balance your work and life. Perhaps this is a better choice. I love China

mods196621, I can understand your sentiments and reasoning here, however, I'd just like to ask if it would be better to spend more time with your children and family than working. I know you don't need to stop but can you really stop without causing the family financial burden? I can see your struggling issues here but I'd just lay this out simply and hope that you will be able to find your own answer(s) here. I think you will need to consider if you are willing to compromise in the framework of a relationship or you prefer to pursue your individualistic goals. It does not necessarily be an either or, but in your own private scaling, how much are you willing to relent towards the other side of the scale that isn't part of your grand plan? Many times, there are middle grounds that we could tread, not just caught between a rock and a hard place. Learn to remove 'rightness' and 'wrongness' in any decision. Decisions are neutral. There are only wise and unwise choices. Willing or unwilling choices. If you cannot determine what is wise and unwise, then you decide what you are willing or unwilling to undertake. Lastly, do have a talk or better still lots of talking sessions between the both of you to see if there are middle grounds that the both of you could accept and tread. A lot of times, couples fail when they do not communicate enough and I hope that the both of you are not undermining this rather important aspect of your relationship. Take care and have a great day.

It depends on many things, I think. Even the culture and social set up you are living in can play a role in this. It depends on how much your husband earns, will the marriage last for ever, is it safer for you to be financially independent, whether your children need your care more urgently, will your hubby respect you like he respects now when you quit the job, will you feel like losing your identity by quitting the job and so many such things are to be considered, this is my opinion though.

i am a husband and since my wife gave birth she decided to be a stay at home, hands on mom. since she wants for the better of our child. does your husband has a work? if you both work then you can sit down and talk about this. if he can support the family alone with his earnings then why not. if he cant then you have to consider a lot of things, one is maybe you can find work where you can go home everyday to be with your family. wife does not need to just follow without explaining her side, you too have the right so you both need to sit down and talk about it. good luck.

Well I'm not married yet, but if I ever get married I dont think my husband would be commanding me to do anything, its not the kind of relationship or husband I would want. with all do respect to you and your husband, I just have a certain out look on marriage With that said. I believe a marriage is a partnership and a loving friendship that should be filled with a mutual respect for each others feelings and needs, by respect I mean try to understand each other and never make commands or force one another to do something they may not want to do. But if my husband wants me to do somthing I would expect him to ask me politely and depending on his request I will most likely be happy to do or consider his request but as I said it depends on what type of request it is, for example if its somthing regarding my job or the children we would have to talk things out and weigh the pros, and cons, and if there is a valid or importaunt enough reason I'm not saying ignor your husbands feelings I'm just saying your feelings are importaunt too, and you should talk it through and decide together whats in the best interest of your family and never make commands of each other rather make respectful request, and discuss things together, I'm not sure what country your from but in the USA thats the way most married people work things out.

If your husband, able to provide a living for you, and your children, no harm, to obey your husband's request.

I wouldn't tolerate it if my husband ORDERS me to do anything especially something I don't want to do. But if he ASKS me, that's a different thing. I might not necessarily agree with him immediately but i will definitely consider. As husband and wife we should mutually respect each other. Any issue or matter that we need to settle we should do it in a manner that will be agreeable to us both. I think it will be better to talk about things with each other and be willing to make a compromise if we need to.

Like others here, I think you and your husband need some time to discuss the matter. I don't know what your finances are like, why you feel the need to work, or how old your kids are. When you said you don't need to stop, did you mean you can't afford to? It isn't about simply obeying your husband because he's the head of the household. However, if there's a concern that your work is taking you away from your family much, then he's got a point. Coming home only TWICE weekly doesn't sound good to me personally. As a wife and mother, your priorities have to be them first. You'll have to decide with him what to do about your finances, though.