Moving In-- Good or Otherwise?
By florisatan78
@florisatan78 (23)
Philippines
October 24, 2010 4:50am CST
Now a days, more and more couple are moving in together before finally settling down. Is this beneficial to both parties involved or not? My stand is, it depends.
At 23, I married my husband. We didn't had this kind of arrangement prior to our marriage because I belong to a conservative family. However, if I could turn back the time then perhaps I would have opted moving in before settling down. This way, we can better weigh our options whether we can live harmoniously as a couple, likewise the responsibility of raising a family can be properly assessed.
On the other hand, some would not see it that way. They still believe that moving in is a short cut to marriage but without the legalities and responsibilities of matrimony. However, if we are to consider the rising numbers of divorce and annulments in the society, I think its worth giving a second thought. Wouldn't you?
4 responses
@monsterfishlover (222)
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
I think i'd go with moving on together first before settling down. A couple of months would do just to know each other. People or let me say lovers always believe that they already know their partner specially when they've been in the relationship for a couple of years already. But what they don't know is true color will eventually shows up when you're already living together. And they just learn this things when they were together already where everything is too late and we all know nothing in this life can be undone.
@joey_matthews (8354)
•
24 Oct 10
I would say living together before marriage would be a good idea, but its not essential. I have noticed most people in together before getting married, but not everyone does get married, quite alot of people live together as if they are but don't go through the legal terms of marriage. My wife moved in with me before we were married, but we would still be together either way as we get on well anyways.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
24 Oct 10
I think living together is beneficial to the marriage. I think too many people rush into marriage because the idea of it is exciting.. but living together is basically like being married, so there's no need to rush after that. You can take your time getting to know your partner and getting to know if you'll be able to live with them forever.
My SIL was getting married right about the same time I started dating my husband. She did not live with her husband before marriage. She expected him to change his lifestyle once they were married.. and he didn't. They divorced within 5 years.
Hubby and I didn't date long before we moved in together.. but we lived together for 2 years before we got married. Next May we'll have been together 10 years, married for 8.. and we have 5 kids (4 together, one is mine from a previous relationship). BTW- I was married a week before I turned 23.
