dealing with a jelous boyfriend

no i wouldnt. that is a guy that doesnt respect you and wants to control everything you do. if he doesnt give you freedom is bcs he doesnt love you. he just want to order things and you obey. thats not love. you should dump that guy before he makes things worse. if you let him tell you what to do he will get used to that and you wont have any decision to make on your own bcs he will always try to convince you to do as he want. that guy is selfish and disrespectful. should be dumped for sure^^

possessive it's one of the sign that someone care or love you, but if he's possessive already makes you uncomfortable, you must tell him so. remember, to love someone it's not only take the best of her/him, but you have to take the "rest" of him/her

When a man is like this he has many insecurities or he is doing something wrong and fears you will find out about it. I would leave that situation immediately. It can only get worse.

I agree with Suzieqmom. Reading your description of your boyfriend made me think "danger signals". I believe one of the signs of abuse is trying to isolate you from everyone. Which is what his not letting your girls see you sounds like to me. You should not "deal with it" or accept it, or let him have that kind of power over you. That kind of controlling and jealous behavior isn't love.

well, you could assess whether your boyfriend has a basis for acting like that. if he has, then you can assure him that anything will not happen without him knowing. however, if he has no basis and just orders you to do this and that, i think it will be wise for you to reconsider of having him in your life. there is no way to comfort an insecure guy. you will be doing injustice to your life if you follow him without really knowing why. i wish you the best.

i think i have to know the reason why he doing that if iwere you. maybe he really loves you, so he doesnt want to lose you. or maybe his religion didnt allow a woman to dress up in a tight clothes or short dress. maybe he want to spend more time with you, and always miss to be with you. we'll never know untill we can have a private conversantion with him, and ask him to be honest why he did that. you have to leave him, if he doesnt want to be blamed and started to do physical abuse to you. try to know more about your boyfriend. dont only think about what your friends said or what you thought. dont judge him, before you knew him well.

Hi Swissheart, That isn't love....it is control and you can only be controlled if you allow it. There is no way that I would give up my friends or dress differently than what I want just to cater to his jealousy issues. He fell in love with you for the person you are and not for who he is trying to change you into. I would put my foot down and still have my friends over and hang out with them when I wanted to. If he didn't like it then he could find another girlfriend more suited for him. I would take it that he didn't love me very much. Trust is very important in a relationship.

This would be a relationship i would try to break free from. Nobody needs to be in a controlling or jealous relationship. it will do nobody any good in the end.

ohh...hate this kind of guy. i cannot survive with this kind of relationship so if i am on that situation i will quit

Love itself is a medicine for all diseases. I think if a boy loves a girl then this jealousness is obvious but it doesn't mean that he will stop you from doing something which you like. I think there should be a great understanding between the couple in order to enjoy love and being loved. But I don't deny possessiveness which is often seen in the boys more. But when we are in a relationship we have to respect each others likes and dislikes. Relationship is such a pillar which is built by the stones of understanding and respect. If a relationship gives u pain and sorrow I don't think that this relationship is going to work for either boy and girl.

I think that's a little too much jealousy on the part of your boyfriend. You can't love a person and how that little trust. You should talk to him that he has to let you live your life. Whether it's insecurity or maybe he's doing something wrong that made him think you're doing the same, no reason is valid enough for such action. If he goes on like that i think you should decide whether you want to live your life like that or not. You should stand to your self. If he really loves you, it wouldn't be too hard to give you his trust and support you in the things that you want to do. If he can't love you that much he's not worth loving at all.

I would leave him, and soon. That kind of jealousy can only get worse--what you describe sounds very close to mental abuse, which can easily lead to physical abuse. There is nothing "flattering" about jealousy--it is a control mechanism, pure and simple. Find someone who deserves you and leave this one before it is too late.

To answer this from a man's point of view i would get rid of them if they aren't able to stop what they are doing. If it is to continue then it will wreck the relationship you have. Jealousy is a powerful thing, it needs to be controlled rather than it controlling you, which could lose you the person that you love. We all live our lives our way, we should not have anyone telling us what to wear, where we can or can't go, what time to be back, who we can or can't spend time with, etc. If we allowed this to happen then we lose all respect we have for ourselves, we make our own choices rather than having others make them for us. Either the jealousy ends or the relationship will.

oh, everything is just the way my relationship with my boyfriend goes. at first, he doesn't want me to go out without him, even go outside my room and chat with the people around, he doesn't want me to be with my friends because he believes that they are bad influences. even to my relatives, he doesn't want me to go with them. he is the boss. well, at first it was all okay to me. i don't have any problem at all with it. but then when i started to miss my relatives, i talked to him and asked if he could spare my relatives. he was not okay with it so we argued until i got so angry that it almost ended breaking up. but then because he loves me, he then agreed to be with my relatives. then, everything followed up. i already got my freedom. he got used to it already. he has overcome his jealousy. well, all you have to do is let them understand that what they're doing isn't right. you have to have a discussion about this and persuade him nicely. if he still doesn't agree, then he really doesn't love you.

Swiss heart, Get rid of such a Damnfool as soon as posiible as he is going to make your life live hell in the end,Though there should be some restriction in relationships and love but possessiveness is bad thing, In your case it looks Over possessiveness. Have a Nice day