juddging by the apperance

Hasn't it happened to most of us? well i did one day judge a person by appearance. He was a colleague and i just simply didn't like him. " His eyes looked weired" i thought.it scared me. However, one day i was realy sick and didn't attend a very important lecture on which the oral exam the following week was going to be. i asked all of my " supposed to be" friends but no one wanted to give me their notes. And this person was just standing there so i asked him anyway. and guess what, he was the only one who gave me the notes which turned out to be pretty good actually. Later i thought of getting to know him well and he turned out to be such a wonderful person. a thing which only proves your point. it taught me a lesson not to judge anyone by appearance anymore.

When we judge by appearance, we are not truly judging the person. We need to look past the phsyical side of a person and see deeper inside them.

Hi Swissheart, Yes, I learned that lesson many years ago. One of my very good friends is a big,burly biker guy covered in tatoos and long hair. He looks pretty scary and mean. When I first saw him, my girls and I were afraid of him. Most people kind of are. He's a sweetheart that would do anything for anyone. I work in the public now and see all kinds. You really just can't judge a person by appearance. People that do are missing out on some very wonderful friendships.....their loss.

I always tell my boyfriend that there are no beautiful and ugly people, people are separated on good and bad characters, on generous and cheap minded, that's how i take the others. Since we have different believes and understanding about the world, everyone of us has right to like or dislike different stuff, so judging people for the way they look is something old and stupid for me. I would never say that someone, who looks perfect is the most intelligent and interesting person i've seen. Usually people, who look good has so annoying confidence, that i want to punch them, nothing more. At the same time someone who looks modest can be intelligent, nice, kind, educated with sense of humor and so many stuff at once. People these days are so lost if they think that only with good look they can reach everything.

I agree absolutely, swissheart. People (regardless of their appearance) can turn out to be really worthwhile to know. I think it's true that almost anyone can teach us something new about ourselves or about life. Did you ever hear the story about the shabbily dressed guy looking at high-performance cars through a car dealer's window? Well, a salesman emerged from the dealership and said haughtily to him, "Move on, you're making us look cheap." The shabby man's reply was: "Oh sorry." He went to another dealership, bought a Lamborghini, and drove back to the first dealership. "I just thought you'd like to see my new car," he said, got back into the car and told his chauffeur to drive him home. I wonder if that rude car dealer saw the error of his ways...don't judge peopole by their appearance. Some people aren't fussed about their appearance; it's not important to them.

How easy is to judge a man after apparent ... is always true that first impression has a powerful impact but from my point of view is not the most important. There are certain moments in life, certain situations that simply leave a different impression of others, willingly or not. You can be perceived by others in a way but you actually be quite different. Sometimes looking at a person and you tend to categorize by the way looks like or how to dress but without giving him a chance to show how it is. Appearances can be among the most insincere, people are always disappointed ornaments. The world is so busy with so little apparent care about reality, what they hide behind a mask, that sometimes you have to wear it for different reasons. Appearances are often deceiving and we should not rush to label people, to listen and what they have to say, maybe we will have a surprise. Each manufactured his face a mask friendly with great art but can not find the heart of falsehood and perfidy. No be fooled by appearances, speech, judged by deeds and you can be sure that, you will find a sculptor, you will come across a lumberjack!

Is it personal or business? because if it business, whether you like it or not, appearances are really important, it describe professionalism.

yes, we should allow ourselves to find out what's beyond. hmmm..i only avoided the ones whom i think are snatchers an robbers on the jeepney

I want to be honest so I have to use the example of a book and or film. Sometimes you just never know what is inside unless you take a look. Have we all done this? Sure no one is perfect therefore at one point or another in our lives we have done so, it is when we get into the root that we find out who the person really is.

I am guilty of it. While I do judge a person based on appearance, I will still make an effort to talk them. I don't mind to be proven wrong here.

i talk with all kind of people^^ i dont care for the face at all. only thing im afraid is when i see men with faces of pervert but those we are not wrong at all ahah^^ but if i see someone that doesnt look handsome but seems a normal guy or girl why cant i talk with them? is all ok^^ is like you say they can be sweet and we lose the chance to meet the person just bcs of looks^^ and that doesnt make sense^^

I personally do not believe in someone's physical appearance as far as S/he has a good attitude. However, in general, physical appearance has become very important now-a-days. No matter how bad your attitude is, if you have good looks, 90% of people around you will appreciate you at first, their mindset may change with time as they come to know you. We use our senses to understand the world and seeing is the first and the important one.

I won't allow myself to judge someone solely on appearance. In all of the time I have been living on this earth I have learned that appearance is no real indicator of a person's character. I have observed beautiful people who act and behave in a disgusting and grotesque manner. I have also observed ugly people who can be really kind and caring. I judge a person based on their actions rather than their appearance, personality, and social skills. I have found that the outward appearance of a person can be really deceiving.

It happened to me when i was teenager because i thought that if i become friends with them, i would be seen as weirdo! That is what i thought but then as i grew older, i understood that ugly people are humans as well, they have either bad or good personality. So you never know by looking at their appearances.

I myself hate to be judged only from my appearance. That's why I never do so to others. I don't really care what people wear and how he/she looks. My concentrations are just what he speaks and who he behaves. That's all. Because, so many well-dressed and good looking people speak and behave like a child, and I am just annoyed with that. His appearance and look become useless now. Those two things actually tell us nothing about the real of him/her.

Yeah. I felt guilty about it. He was the laughing stock in our class. No one talked to him because he acted crazy in front of the the whole school. I pitied him really. He didn't deserve to be treated that way. He quit school and transferred the next year.