The one you love, ruined your life..

i was like that when me and my son's dad forst split back in 2008. our son was only a couple months old. we had been dating each other since high school. he got our firsts jobs together at mcdonalds. lol. we had a lot of memories and moments together that no one else could replace. we took each others virginity and all kinds of things. kids change people i guess. things started to tear away and we eventually broke up. he was fine with it, mainly for the fact he cheated on me and got married to his now wife before he even moved out of my house. things werent so great for me though. i quit hanging out with my friends, i quit mcdonalds of course, i felt depressed all the time. what i hated mroe than anything is when someone asked if i was ok. no i wasnt ok. i didnt do anything for a while. i told myself i was never going to be with another man bc of the pain i went through. i decided to take a little vacation to get outta town for a while. get my mind off things. i took a grey hound bus to wisconsin. dude... i loved it. i met a guy on the bus. he was all kinds of great.. he lived in minnesota though. when we got to chicago, he asked for my number. i gave it to him anyways bc we lived on different parts of the united states. and he prolly wasnt going to call me anyways. well, he did. he would send me random text messages saying how beautiful i was. he always made me smile. i realized that i hadnt felt that way in a really long time. i really needed it to be honest. i kinda fell for it. i gave in and started the whole "flirting" thing again. it felt really wierd. everytime he tried to get close id push him one step back again. i met him may 13, 2009. i came home may 20th. by may 29th i was dating him. by june 1st, i stole my dads car and went to minnesota to see him. BAD IDEA.. lol.. my june 9th i was living in minnesota. in august 2009, we moved in and got our firt apartment together. in nov. 2009 we came back to georgia to visit. I also found out i was pregnant in november when we came down. in march of 2010 we got married. May 2010 we had our daughter lyla have been together since. lol. i know you didnt really ask about my relationship... i just wanted to show you that sometimes, all it takes is a little time away to find out what your missing.get your mind off things for a bit. i know things will change.

live cau ruen u when only u r expecting something from the one u love and love is not expecting its giving most of the people get dissapointed and feel there life is ruined coz of this coz things r not going their way

Love and loving can be the most wonderful thing that may happen to anyone in his/her life. Love and loving on the other hand can also be the reason of a heartache. In my opinion, it is not love to blame why our life may be ruined. It is a status of the mind. When the relationship breaks, a person who is in pain which eventually cannot eat, cannot sleep, depressed, etc is a matter of the mind. It is not a result of the love. We are in control of it. If our life being ruined due to the heartache, it is because you lead yourself to be in the situation.

I've been there, and the only thing I can tell is that.. that too will pass. Pain seems to linger and kills all the hopes you have. But never give in! always think that, of all the pain you're going through, there's got be a reason why you're still alive and you should find that reason. When you fall in love deeply you tend to give and give and wont want anything in return. Which I personally sees this as a good thing. Although, in each person there's always so much love to come around.. I mean, inside your heart love is always full so no matter how much you give, there's still an overflowing love inside of you. The problem is, when you fall in love so deeply and get hurt in the end, you forgot about those things. You forgot that you are still capable of still giving love. You are feeling those things, the depression, lack of hope because you can't accept the fact that the person whom you least thought won't hurt you, Did hurt you big time! We feel pain and depression because we feel that a huge part of us is already gone. and you THINK you can't live with that, but ironically you are still alive. We feel those negative things because to blame ourselves for letting that somebody hurt you this way and you can't forgive yourself for letting this happened. Forgiveness is the key. Nope, I'm not referring to forgiveness of that person. I meant yourself. Forgive yourself for letting this happen. it's the first step of moving on. Good lucK! best wishes!

Hello roxyoo7, Loving someone is the best for all but it can also make your life ruined just like you mentioned there that's why you must be carefully always. You are not alone who experience that situation and others are worst than that because they life are gone. It is important to have a good choice about your love life so that it will not go for depression and sadness. Have a nice day.

This is a very sad discussion. I can relate to what you are saying. My boyfriend left me a week ago. And I am deeply hurt by it. It seems that I can't go on with life. A part of me flew away and I feel emptiness inside. When I need friends the most, it is the time they ignore me because they warned me again and again that I should have left the guy first. But I can't because I am in love. And love makes us blind. Love really sucks. Love stinks so much. But when we love again, we feel wonderful. I also get mood swings once in a while. One minute I am happy, the next I am crying. Just get busy and everything will be OK.

I have felt this way before. But I figured out that it is up to me to MAKE my life worth living and not the one that I love. I have been married for a long time but we have had our ups and downs and we have separated for a time. We have been through more than most marriages would have survived. But we have decided that a love worth having is worth fighting for. Many people don't feel that way and the love ends. When this does happen we need to take some time to mourn the loss of the relationship. But then we have to wake up one day and decide we are no longer letting that control every aspect of our lives. Take the time to do something you wouldn't normally do. Do something just for yourself, something that will make you smile and make you feel wonderful. If you can't get past it SEEK professional help. There is no shame in that!

I hope this won’t happen to me. The most important people in my life are great – my family, a good girl friend of mine, and someone I adore. I don’t think they can and they will. Disappointment sometimes is there but you understand and forgive as we all have our own down/negative moments.

Love just like life is not a box of chocolates. It has also its bad tastes. When we are in love it seems that everything around us is so beautiful, it feels that we are superhuman to achieve anything as long as there is love. Love can make us unrealistic sometimes.... When we lost love, the exact opposite comes our way. Everything you have mentioned are all true. I guess, most of us had experienced that when our hearts were badly broken. It is a normal and . natural reaction. What used to beautiful becomes dark and sad.We shrink into that world. We let it eat us and everything else in our lives because we were badly heartbroken. That is where depression appears in the picture. We are so emotional and sensitive that somehow we savor the bitterness for a moment hoping and trying to figure out what to do next. If he will ever comes back or not anymore. Acceptance and letting go are the keys to move on successfully. When love hits you, enjoy the moment. Once it's gone, it is gone forever....

Love is never perfect. It has it's ups and downs. There is no such thing as happily ever after. Love yourself first.