To be a friend or NOT to be?

Well I don't know if the management has labelled the word attitude problem on her or she really has one. If she cannot listen to others or does not like to be dominated thats certainly not an attitude problem, its just that she is living life at her own terms and does not like to listen to others, she might be having her own nature which people term as attitude problem, you won't understand what it actually is unless you get close to her, Its always bad to judge somebody by other's comments. We can't rely on people to know about others, its better we do some little research ourselves by staying with that person. If she is handling everything well in spite of being labelled a "attitude problem Girl". She certainly does not have any such problem as she is working fine without paying heed to those people, otherwise she would have quit her job. I would also warn you to not blame her in case you get close to her and experience anything like your colleagues have told you as she was not the person to call you closer to her and you choose it all by yourself :P. You can definitely try to befriend her, but don't try to change her attitude if its certainly not bad as people are saying and never expect her to proud of you or say good things about you :D, if you help her as in that case you only would be disappointed that you expected much ;). Some people just have their nature which they will not compromise for others and why should they after all ? Friends and colleagues are not a part of you for life, but your nature and identity sure is.

Wow I admire your sincerity aaron. You know, I think, sometimes people pretend to have an attitude, but the truth behind this matter is that they are just afraid to expose themselves, like a defense mechanism of some sort, covering a traumatic experience or a undesirable past... I see, you've mentioned of her being an asset, I dint see the attitude problem in there. Regarding befriending her and changing her attitude, I agree with it, but not the latter. I believe that we should be accepted for who and what we are, and that nobody should change us aside from ourselves. We all have our purposes in life and that is defined by the things that we do... Let her change by herself, I think if she feels accepted then that might give her a second thought... Well I have also been enlightened by this post... thanks to you! happy mylotting!!!

I think if you can befriend her and help her out, then by all means make the effort. Her poor attitude may be the result of feeling alienated and disliked by her co-workers. I know if everyone I worked with didn't like me, I'd be moody and gouchy too. [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]

Hi aaronfyzeon! I'm sure no one likes to be treated the way your co-worker has been treated. I believe there is something good in everybody. If we put ourselves in her shoes we might just find some answers we need.

Listening from the person's side seems to be the best thing to do right now..all this branding thingy just makes me wanna puke sometimes...just because someone doesn't fit in your terms doesn't mean that that particular person has a bad attitude.. it just shows, time and time again, that you're a failure in reflecting yourself through others...I have lots of friends who are facing the same problem, and I prefer to listen to what do they have to say rather than being a bystander agreeing to things about them that I even don't exactly know about.. *The best of you is the one who brings benefit to others* (my fav quote :D) all the best !!

I admire your attitude. Working in a call center requires team work and you making the initiative is something that everyone else should follow. I think you should go ahead and be a friend to her and get to know her a little. While others might discourage you or anything like that, be the bigger person and do the right thing. I hope that soon, she'll be adjusted and everyone will learn to accept and adjust.

I think you should at least try to reach her. Who knows. Maybe she doesn't have a bad attitude. Maybe she is just understood. Maybe she is shy. I would not judge someone just based on the word of others who for all you know are banding together against her making it hard for her to fit in. I would get to know her myself and then decide from there whether they are all right or not.

You don’t choose a friend out of other’s opinion. I’m not the talkative type just to earn someone’s attention but if they say hi or engage me to a conversation, then no problem with me. you don’t measure someone’s capability as a person out from whoever’s opinion. If you don’t like someone, then the problem might be on you. You don’t have to like talk to them all the time. Just smile and I guess that’s enough to understand.

I think you should make her as your friend. Moreover, in this case you are acting as the people doing evaluation of her performance. Do what should be your job, change her attitude for the better

Hi, aaronfyzeon! Why not? If there's no special reason. Always we say "one more friend, one more way." But before contacting with her, maybe you should make a little investigation to make clear that why she is so unsocial.