I need an advice

Continue to be patient until you are ready to adopt. I had two step-children and I can tell you I loved them as if they were my own. It's all about love man, it's all about love.

hello torchablazed. a piece of advice i can give is to pray to the LORD and think positive all the time.

torchablazed, First and foremost, not knowing what the real problem may be for your wife's birth problem(s) I feel that the both of you will really need to seek out marriage counseling besides finding the solution to this problem. A lot of times couples forget to work on their marriage as they go overtime with this problem. I would advise that the both of you should seek at least a second opinion and to see if what is being diagnosed currently is accurate. Most of all, to see if there could be any possible solution to your problem. IVF may solve your family's predicament, but never embark on it unless it is the only option and most of all make sure you are with the most authorized medical expert of this procedure in your country. At all times, talk to one another and be prepared for surprises at every turn. So, let me wish you the best and hope that the both of you will be successful. All the best.

Hi Don't worry there are so many ways these days for a couple to have children. Have you asked your doctor to refer you both to a specialist in fertility treatments? You know there are so many beautiful children in care who would love to live in a family home,so if there are no treatments for you and your wife, you could always consider fostering or adoption. All the best to you both. jojo732

I must say that you are indeed a wonderful husband for loving your wife and staying with her during this challenging time of your life. I really don't have my own family yet but I still understand your situation because I have some relatives who also have the same problem like yours. I think both of you are aware of the options available today with regards to your situation like adoption, fertility medicines, artificial insemination, among others. Maybe it's just a matter of deciding and accepting what option is best to choose. If not, consult with your doctor for all the treatments available today with the help of technology. It's important to know all options and understand them fully. If both of you still want to wait and give it more time, that's fine. Just put your hope and trust to God because to Him "all things are possible if you believe". If the time comes, however, that both of you are ready to consider and choose another option to have a child, it's important to talk to each other and know what one wants and feels to arrive at a mutual and satisfying decision. I think it's best to really be sensitive with your wife's feelings because it has truly a great impact on her being a woman. If adoption, for example, is the best and only way to have a child, don't be too worried with what other people might say that are negative. Remember that it doesn't make you less of a person or parent when you adopt. Don't also be too worried how will the child take it when he finds out in the future. Remember that even if he/she did not come from your wife's tummy, he/she came from you and your wife's heart. What's important is how you take care of him/her and how both of you showed your love to the child. I'm sure he/she will grow as a beautiful person because you, along with your wife, are his/her parents. =)

Hi there. I know this is a very big problem for married couples. I know a lot of couples who has the same problem as you. I know a couple who has struggled with this problem for almost eight years. Now, they were able to have two children of their own. I heard that they go to a "hilot". It's not the hilot with albularyo. Look for a hilot with someone who is not calling bad spirits. You're Filipino as I can see in your profile so you should look for a "manghihilot na walang bulong" and take your wife there. Maybe she is not able to be pregnant because her uterus is low. That is the case of the couple I mentioned above. Don't go to albularyos. You're exposing yourself to greater problems if you do.

Hi torch~ I think that you should just take it easy for one thing. Putting too much pressure on you and your wife will only make matters worse. There are many things that can be done depending on what the problem is. I worked for an Infertility Doctor and there are many things that can be done to "fix" the problem, depending on what it is. Your doctor can give you more information if you ask. You may need to see someone who specializes in this area and see what exactly is the problem. It can be something that isn't that serious. Ask your doctor to give you more information or a referral to a doctor who he thinks can give you more answers. It may not be as serious as you think so don't give up!

both your wife and you should take it easy, everyting will be better, God will gove you surprise someday out of sudden, just don't give up and take care of your wife, both of you must be in good mood everyday

in my opinion, you can adopt a baby if your wife can't give you a baby. if you have enough money ,you can resort to new knowledge,which needs lots of money.i hope you don't take the way of divoce,because it is not good for a woman.

I did not have this problem, but many friends of mine have. Some have tried other methods, such as IVF and taking certain other doctor prescribed medications for this. Some wanted a child so much that they decided to adopt a child that needed a good home. Hope this all works out for you and your wife.

i dont know what i must saying and give you some advice for it because i much same like you do dont have any baby for 5 years be married ... but i be patient for it and once pray to the GOD and never look for some another girl for it

Hello torchablazed, You should not be affected with the situation. Give her more attention, cuz she really needs it. Let her know that even if she can't give you a baby, she's still your wife and you still love her more than she knows. Never let her feel that she's a loser. Constant communication and always pray together.

Hi, I have a friend actually a family friend who has the same situation before like you.We all thought that she can not get pregnant at all because at at the age of 45 she lost her hope to have baby.They did everything for her to get pregnant even go the church almost everyday for prayers.We were so amazed when she reached 46 or 47 i think he gave birth to her first son and after that just few moths after she gave birth she was pregnant again.In short before she reached the age of menopausal she succeeded to get pregnant not only once but twice so i advice never ever loose hope and keep trying.

Hello friend... Dont worry abou it. This is a technology world day by day researchers going out and results you are also seeing. At any time any thing can happen. You told that you have consulted doctor. Then follow the measures told by him to get over the difficulty of her. and if you are too much worry about children one think i can suggest you. That you can adopt a child from a charity. So that you can have yourdesire satisfied and also feel a bit more happy for making this good thing. This is the best thing i can say... how ever if you like it... And one thing is take care of your wife.. Because its the desire of every women to be amother. Give courage to her...and boostup her and See her as your child... She will feel happy for this and forget the pain. I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST FRIEND...

Then you shall consult another doctor to see whether there is a solution to have your own baby. Although your wife has difficult to have a baby, but at least the doctor doesn't say it is hopeless. If at the end that you can not have your own baby, it is alright to adopt a child in my opinion. It is not your wife's fault. If you love him, you shall accept that she can't have a baby. In fact she feels worse than you. So try to give her more understanding, consideration and support. I love China

Hi. I just want to share to you an experience of our family friend. They are married for 10 years without kids. They seek the help of the doctor to have babies... and really it took them so long before having it. It was almost 15 years before they had their babies... a twin babies. Faith in him and prayers are most important. But, always prepare yourself that you'll have babies if it's really meant to happen. Because I also know some who did not have a children, but happily married until now that they are old.

I think the best advice I can give is to take your doctor's advice for it. Whatever suggestions your doctor might make, it is the best for you. I don't want to recommend anything that might get your hopes up and would end in disappoint, so just take your doctor's advice for it. There's one thing that you have to do though, strengthen your faith and pray.

I think you and your wife can go to doctor and ask some information about artificial insemination or in-vitro fertilization. he will give you useful advance. good luck!!!

what kind of difficulty? you mean, it is very critical for her to be pregnant or is there a problem with her uterus? there are many problems regarding difficulty in pregnancy and each has different remedy. so, better ask the what really is the problem and ask for the remedy. but if she's not just easy to bear a child, then what you can do is simply continue your lovemaking and just wait. maybe it's just not the right time. and add it with prayers friend.

Go see a doctor who specializes with these kind of condition.They can give you many options on how to go about this.there are many ways or procedure for you to have a baby.It's ok don't pressure yourself or your wife too much.The least you feel stressed,the greater your chances of having a baby.