Marriage and what it means to me.

United States
October 25, 2010 7:02pm CST
Every day, I constantly think about how my marriage will look like, and who my wife could be. Every day, I think about what I can do to make her happy, a way to make my children happy. I want to be a dad who my children will love, and never be embarrassed to be around. A dad that they can rely on when ever they feel the need to lean on a shoulder, or if they have something they need to say, they can say it to me. Whether you believe me or not, every time I think about marriage, I cry. I shed tears of joy, the years that will be nice and happy for me. How I'll have someone always there to lift me up in times of darkness and sorrow, or vise versa. What does marriage mean to you? Cheers all. :)
6 responses
@pogi253 (1596)
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
There are so many people out there who are in such a rush to get married and start a family. Marriage in itself seems to be some sort of great personal achievement. I see marriage as some sort of a major stepping stone in our lives. Marriage is somehow supposed to make someone a better person and solve all of the problems in their lives. Suddenly your crappy career is supposed to turn into a rewarding opportunity of a lifetime. Marriage is a give and take situation. It is not an unconditional agreement. In any successful marriage, the needs of both partners are met successfully for the most part. That is the reason the marriage remains strong and does not fall apart. Many people like to delude themselves into thinking that a marriage license is some sort of an antidote against failed relationships.
• United States
28 Oct 10
Like you said, marriage takes effort, and with out talking to your life long partner, it will deteriorate and crumble. So, again, I wont be committed to marriage until I know I am physically and mentally prepared.
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
that's so sweet. I hope you meet a great girl! well, I'm still single so I'm not really sure about marriage. I'd like to be as optimistic as you though :)
• United States
26 Oct 10
Thank you! Don't worry, eventually you will find the right person! Good luck!
• United States
27 Oct 10
Marriage is just a label, it doesn't change the nature or meaning of your relationship. So a relationship to me means a deep connection to a life partner. Also no kids.
@hushi22 (4928)
26 Oct 10
for me marriage is so important that is why i am so picky when it comes to marriage. there were several marriage offers but i just cant unless i am very emotionally attached to the person.
• United States
26 Oct 10
Yes, I agree. Marriage is nothing to play around with.
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Hello artists91, Almost of the people go in that situation to have a partner and children someday because they really want to enjoy their life together with his/her own family. You are right that you need to think that and plan your future family so that it is not hard for you to make the best for your family. I hope that your dreams about your future family will become successful. Have a nice day and happy mylotting.
• United States
26 Oct 10
Thank you.
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Because i'm already married, marriage has a different meaning to me. For me marriage is responsibility. If you're not ready to take responsibilities then you should not fall into this kind of relationship in the first place.
• United States
26 Oct 10
I agree. Marriage is a huge responsibility, and that is why I don't plan on getting married until I am 100% sure I can handle everything associated to marriage.