I cursed my mother

Even though I find your comment offensive and frank, but thanks for being honest. From your answer, I seem to think you are a mother yourself. It is not only the burping that is bothering me. I think the burping triggered me to get angry for all the things she didn't do in my childhood days. I don't have a memory that my mom helped me. She loved her students not as she had loved us. And I am 20 by the way. Funny to know that as I am acting such a big brat. That is why I don't plan to get married because I am scared that one day, karma will haunt me. Deep down, I am so sorry.

LOL. She did the same thing! She threw all my makeup. That's why I locked my room right away. I know I did was wrong. And your reactions are really helpful. The next time it will happen, I'll try hard to control my anger because if my mother is crying, father gets angry.

If your mother also throws and destroys things when she is angry, then you either learned that behaviour from her, or anger problems run in your family (or both) but that is not an excuse. It sounds like both of you need to learn to deal with your anger differently. You are correct that your behaviour is childish and "bratty". That kind of behaviour is usually seen in two year olds, and should be corrected even at that age. Destructive rage often makes a comeback in the teenage years but you are beyond those. Please talk to your mother when she comes back and try to find ways both of you can stop throwing things when you are angry!

You've admitted you are a bad daughter! Yes, I'm a mother and not a particularly good one and I am ashamed of that, I'm a better grandmother though. I'm also a daughter and I had a great deal of respect for my parents even though they both were physically abusive. You tell me not to judge you yet you judge your mother. This discussion is about your bad behaviour...not your Mom's. I still say you need to grow up. To me, a degree and a licence you earn in 3 months is a joke and not worth anything, let me guess...you are a nail technician? Try a degree that takes 3 years and then I might think differently. You think she doesn't have a digestive problem, yet you say it's been going on 15 years...I call that a problem. If you don't like your mother's behaviour...move out.

I took a degree that is 4 years for your information. 3 months after graduation, I already earned my license. That is something to boast about. Think differently then? Yeah this is a discussion and you are not helping. Haven't you read my other comments? I mentioned there I am sorry. And it was a week ago. My mom and I are talking now so, it's late for your comment. Thanks anyways.

Before you judge my behavior, you should know the entire story of my life. I think you are a mom too that's why you overreacted. You think that all moms are good and caring, who tucks their child at night, who reads you stories or helps you study. But mine's not. She doesn't shop with us, she eats alone, she sleeps early without saying goodnight, she goes home late with her friends, she hoards and yeah she burps a lot. It's not only me who gets disgusted by her behavior. And for one thing I am not a disgrace. I just earned a degree and got my professional license in less than 3 months. I don't even have a reward for such accomplishments from her. I don't blame them for my behavior, but I know the home is where you build your character. So where did I learn from it then? P.s. She doesn't have a digestive problem. It's been going on for 15 years.

hi,wong,In our China,usually,in a family,father likes his daughter more,and mother loves son more,opposite attract each other,i suggest,you,talk more with your mom,communication is the key of people's heart.

Thanks for understanding wongchoiyee. Not all mothers are good or great. Mine is different. She doesn't act like a mother. But she is nice. She just doesn't have the caring attitude towards us. Hey Guanguansanren, I know what you mean. My mother is much closer to my brother and father is closer to us girls. I got my mean attitude from my father. He has anger problems as well.

Yeah. It was a really small thing to fight about. It wasn't really about the burping. I curse a lot of people. But at that time, I felt really bad. Thanks for sharing.

Ok, so no one really knows your mom and what you went through growing up. You said something here that I could relate to. My mom did cook and clean but we were never close and she actually was quite verbally cold and mean to me growing up. We never got real close and I did say things to her when I was young that I knew were wrong. Once I had kids of my own, I resigned myself to just be respectful to her and not be emotionally attached. I learned from her how NOT to be towards my own daughters and for that I can honestly thank her because I am very close to my own daughters. Rather than focus on your mom's behavior past and present, focus on your own and don't react in ways that are going to make you feel like you are feeling now....guilty, etc. I NEVER got that close bond with my mom but I did learn to be respectful to her. A Couple of years ago, I took care of her when she fell ill and needed 24/7 care. She was not in her right mind and meaner than ever. I just took lots of fresh air breaks and dealt with it without reacting to her. She's gone now and I don't feel bad or guilty about a thing.

There was a big issue behind it. Many and many issues that added up hatred inside me. We ignore each other right now. I don't know when will we make up for it. I know she is my mother but I don't feel that she is a mother. She doesn't cook dinner, she doesn't clean the house, she didn't help me study. I don't feel the motherly love from her. I get jealous with my cousin because her mother is her best friend.

I'll be really guilty if I don't apologize soon. There is only one thing I learned from her, no to be like her. But it is a good thing. I really love her but that burping thing is really pissing me off. That's the only thing I don't want her to do. But she is my mom and I can't control her life.

Yes, I will really apologize when she comes back. Thank you.

Come to think of it, I am lucky to have a mom like her. Most moms are scary and their daughters can't fight or do what I did. I wont react the same way if it was my friends or my boyfriend. I should have had respected her. I feel so bad. But sharing in mylot really helped me. Knowing your reactions had made me realize I am such a bad kid. Thank you so much. :)

I wish I can take back what I said to her. She was a bit rude, but my behavior was unacceptable. Yeah, its just a small thing. I hope it wont get big. Have a great day as well.

Yes. I am trying a different approach when she comes back from the trip. At least she has a nice place to burp for a week. There wont be anyone who'll get annoyed by the burping because all people there burps louder than her. Culture really plays a big part. I am born here in the city and my father raised me. That's why I am more like my father. My mother didn't do anything. She just read the newspaper , then sleep.

Yes, it is normal for a daughter and a mother to fight. Thank you for understanding. I don't know why they like to fight with us. Maybe they like doing it. Maybe it is one way of meeting us halfway. Yeah, lets deal with it in a win-win solution with mom. As they say, your mom is your mom. :)

Yeah, I know I messed up. At that time, I was thinking of teaching her a lesson. I'll control my anger if she controls her loud and disgusting burping. But she keeps on doing it again and again. I know I'll regret it. I'll try very hard to control my temper. Thanks for sharing :)

Even though I am 20, I still feel like a child. I know it is harsh but I cant just control it. My mother is naive and she never punished me physically. She is acting like a sister, not a mother. That is why I treat her like a sister also. At least I feel guilty after doing it.

I am not totally religious but it is indeed true and right to respect one's parents. I just got so angry and I can't take the situation anymore that's why I told her things I wish wont happen.

Yes, it was unfair and childish for a 20 year old to act.

Yes, when I get angry I say things I don't ever like to say but I just say it so that i can hurt them from what they did. I feel like crying when I did it. I don't like being a bad daughter. I am just misunderstood :(

Yeah. I think I will give her a call.

donnaphipps---Yeah. I am just being a daughter. I will really apologize if she comes back next week. sid556--That is a sad story. I'll will deeply regret if something like that happens to me. Hope you are OK.