Who's Saying I Want My Ex Back?... I Am!...Any Advice Folks?

Yes, I'm afraid the issue(s) of my breakup might resurface again. And its true I may not be ready again. However, when thinking about this, I normally tell myself that throughout the year, I've had time to search my soul, reflect on my life and my purpose here and looked deeply at those issues that made us break up. Where I am concerned, I believe I have (or can) changed though I'm not sure about her. You tell me right, I shouldn't waste another lifetime but as you know matters of the heart; when you are alone and are being sincere with yourself you can NEVER suppress your feelings. I am NOT desperate (I feel handsome and do have some admirers!), I've sobered up and know that it may be better to just let go and move on. However my friend, is it not worth it at least to give it a try, see how she still feels about me and if it can't be salvaged then just let it go?

I agree with you, we can cheat other people about how we feel but never ourself... especially when we are alone. It is really up to you if you want to give it a try and check how she feels about you. It's okay especially if this can give a closure to your feelings or on the otherhand if this will give your happiness. But my friend, if you decide to give it a try... atleast assure yourself that you are ready to face the consequences of your action. Because there is no assurance if you will succeed or fail. Good Luck my friend!

I understand your current state. I too went through many 'mini' or 'small' relationships after the breakup though they fizzled out fast because when I searched myself deeply, I just saw that I was trying to hit back at my girl for the loss. They were just a distraction, I was trying to run away from the real issues and my feelings. It may not be selfish to ask him to be around, maybe its due to the real deep friendship you shared. But I think you may have to make a final decision since you seem to be in the process of moving on with your life. At least you know what your ex feels, that's exactly what I want to know; How she feels about me. I won't force or demand her to feel some way towards me, no, I just need an honest answer which I'll use to gauge my final decision. Should I make the call?

the breakup was a blessing in a way, because I embarked on the journey of self discovery. I learned the importance of silence, I've learned to meditate, appreciate the good in all and everything and to see the beauty of life. Maybe this transformation of mine is what is pulling me back to my ex because I'm looking at life with a different set of eyes. Even the issues that made us break up aren't issues to me again. However, it is ME who has changed, I do not know about her hence my worries of her repeating her mistakes since I've taken care of mine. You may say that I should then go on and find one who we'll rhyme, yeah? But like I said, I still do love her and maybe I just need to see whether she's bitter or hates me. If she hates me then that's good! Because the opposite of love is not hate but indifference. If she's indifferent to my feelings then I'll surely let go. But if she claims to 'hate' me then I'll know there's still some emotions for me and I can try to turn them round to positive. What do you think?