boyfriend at work

Hi I've worked in the same company for years. I just figure it is my bosses job...not mine to figure out who is a good employee and who is not. Unless a co worker is doing something outrageous then I just stay right out of it. I might talk to the employee myself if I'm comfortable in that but I don't go running to the boss with things. I am not perfect myself so unless it is something very serious such as stealing or something then I would suggest to stay away from it.

It only takes one person to set a bad example and thereafter have a bunch of others following in the same footsteps. Perhaps it would be best to inform your boss privately as if you boss finds out on his own then all will end up paying for it later with more astringent rules that now you should not be penalized for.

How often does your boss come check on you at work? You may want to just suggest to your boss that there is something she wants to see that happens at work. I do see where your co worker breaking the rules can ruin things for everyone else as she is setting a bad example.

That is a very reasonable rule that your boss has set down, and is like that in many offices. Unfortunately, your co-worker who is a "senior" should know better, and I'm sure she does. She is making this situation bad for everyone who is in the office. Like you said, now the newbies are doing this and it's not allowed. Yes, I would talk with her. What if your boss happened to come into the office and everyone had their boyfriends in there? How is she ever going to trust anyone ever again? Rules are rules and should be followed, especially at work. You mentioned in one response she doesn't come in very often. That's because she feels comfortable leaving everyone on their own and I'm sure she would be completely disappointed in seeing what's going on. Your friend will make it rough on everyone and all your freedom might be taken away. Again, yes, talk with her, or at least, let ALL the new people know this cannot be tolerated and she is in the wrong for doing so.

It happens mostly to all company and that's one of the rules that is not clearly stated in the company rules and regulation. I think you should only tell your boss if he/she ask you about the relationship of your officemate. It's much safer than if you initiate it.

If you feel that she is wrong than i believe you should talk to her first. I like to believe that all of our managers want us to resolve any problems we might have without having to "tell on" them. At the same time though, you might wanna think about being a leader yourself. Whats the harm in teaching the "newbies" the right way? That doesnt mean to go and say, "Dont do what she does." Just let them know whats expected from them. If you believe the rules to be beneficial for the company that support them with all your heart. Only if you feel that it is becoming a big problem should you report it. Just always remember, every action has a reaction. So the choice you make, you must stand by it and not be scared away.

hi trishasantos I agree with your boss, one should not mix her personal life with their work life And yes thats most reasonable.I email my friend at work and she waits til her coffee break to answer me. I think maybe you should warn your co worker that your boss does bit aooreciate her mixing her love life with her work here in your work area. Then if she refuses to do as you suggested, go to your boss and tell her what the co worker is doing and how it makes the newbies feel its okay to thier boy friends to their work place. good luck and god bless.

What to do? You may talk to her personally about it or if she still insists not listening you can talk to the manager.

Work and personal lives should have some degree of separation. You don't perform your duties at work as well when your mind is somewhere else.

Hi trishasantos! Aww that's a good policy both personal and corporate. Helps to develop professionalism at the work place.

hello trishasantos! it would be better if you will talk with your colleague about the matter. Don't confront her though. Just talk to her about the matter in a way that will not pissed her off, or make her angry with you in any way. You could start by asking her opinion about this particular office policy and what she really thinks about it, to know her side. Don't ever tell her she's doing wrong, just listen to her. If she ask you about what you think on the matter, just tell her that you don't really think it's any business of the company to interfere with personal matters but since you are working for the company, you might as well follow the policy since you still want to remain with this company. Maybe, i said maybe, you could instill some inspiring words in her and make her realize that what she's doing will really endanger her stay with the company. If she is really blatant about not complying with such rule, then it might be better if you will discuss this with the management. Utter disregard for such behavior will definitely affect the whole organization, including you, in the long run. So, if you think you are doing the colleague a favor if you remain silent about the matter, you are mistaken. You, being informed of such matter, have the right to voice out your own views on such matters which will affect your work and organization in the long run. If your colleague will know of your chat with the management and be angry at your for it, so be it. better her wrath than bring the whole company down by letting her continue with such display of utter disregard for office policy which will give newbies the thought that its okey for such kind of attitude in the company.

dont talk with your boss or you will be hated by that girl in work. you should do everything have a peaceful time at work^^ talk with that girl and tell her that she shouldnt take her bf to her work bcs newbies see her doing that and are also doing the same and that can bring problems to them if the boss finds it out. talk in a sweet way^^ and explain her that she should give the example then^^ that is ok she is with her bf but he takes her only to the work door and when she comes inside he leaves her^^ im sure she will understand^^

For me, telling it directly to your boss is not a nice idea. It would create distance between you and your co-employee. A simple reminder i think will do so as not to deprive on your co-employee's personal matters. The boss has a reason as to not affect the work of her employees and if she is very strict on it, your co-employee should be very much aware of this. Reminding your co-employee once would be enough, it's up to her if she wanted to get caught and get fired!

tell your boss about it. that senior person knew from the get go that your boss didnt like it. what would there b to talk about to the senior that they havent already heard. just tell your boss. if the senior gets fired its nobodys fault but their own. they knew ti was wrong... so they ca suffer the consequences.

I agree with your boss about not mixing work with personal lives when two employees are dating. It can cause friction and disrupt the work performance of not only the two involved but others. Personally, I would stay out of it and continue to do my job. I think your boss will eventually see what's going on and confront the two employees. There has to be signs of some sort, eye contact or flirting, that others can see. If your boss is observant, she will see what's going on. Good luck!

If i was u i would mind my own buisness. I think the problem will take care of it's self. I'm sure your boss will find out what's going on w/out your getting involved.