Loss of pet

@brendalee (6082)
United States
November 18, 2006 4:29am CST
One of my dogs just recently passed away and I am still upset over it. Its been about a month. I heard a report on tv the other day that said it could take up to a year for someone to stop grieving over their pet. This dog was very special to me. He was born about 5 minutes before my father died and he had a small white patch on his chest that resembled a cross. I considered him a gift from my father. So, I'm wondering if any of you have lost a pet and how did you deal with it? Also, do you think its wrong for someone to grieve for their pet for a long time?
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13 responses
• Australia
21 Nov 06
One more thing.. I gave my daughter a puppy of Shandies that was over 2 years ago. He dog had puppies 6 weeks ago.. One looks like shandy 100% she has given her to me. WOW I still have mini me Shandy......
@brendalee (6082)
• United States
21 Nov 06
Thank you for your response and I am sorry to hear about your dog, but I am glad you have a new one to love.
@VKXY62 (1605)
• Australia
19 Nov 06
My heart goes out to you. My own Dog, Pokey, passed away in April this year, and I still miss her terribly. They have their own personalities. No other Dog will ever be the same. Enjoy your memories of having known this great friend in your life.
@brendalee (6082)
• United States
21 Nov 06
Thank you very much for your response. I'm sorry to hear about your dog.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
19 Nov 06
They are just like a piece of the family, so a loss is a loss. You just need time to get over it, and move on. Maybe find a New puppy to replace it or something?
@brendalee (6082)
• United States
21 Nov 06
Thank you very much for your response.
• United States
7 Dec 06
I'm sorry for your loss. I wish I could say it will be easier soon..but I'm not so sure. I lost my best friend of 18 yrs almost 3 years ago. I still cry about him every once in awhile. Not as bad as it was before, but I still choke up when I think of him. He was just an awesome dog.
@peizli (1000)
• Australia
7 Dec 06
I am sorry to hear of your loss, brendalee. I think they are part of our family and we talk to them everyday like a person. Hope your pain easys for you. Remember the fond memories. Take care.
• India
18 Nov 06
so sad no its not wrong
@brendalee (6082)
• United States
18 Nov 06
Thank you for your response.
@mistypq (673)
4 Dec 06
I lost my Golden cocker spaniel seven years ago, My son bought me a puppy Dalmation she is so sweet. I lost jenny in the october and rizzla came along in november. I still cry about my first dog,It takes years to get over the deep hurt.
@sandie61 (2359)
• United States
23 Nov 06
I am so sorry for your loss. yes, it will take you some time to stop grieveing. our pets are our family members. it`s as hard on us as losing a human life. I feel so sad for you. take care. hugs.
• United States
5 Dec 06
I see you posted this 3 weeks ago. I'm sorry for your loss. Everyone is different. I have had many pets over the years. I am a big animal lover. However, I have noticed that I grieve over some more than others. I actually still grieve and cry for a cat that I had for 17 1/2 years. It's been 14 years since his passing. Your feelings are not right or wrong, they are just emotional feelings. You will grieve as long as it takes for the pain to dull. It's just like loosing a family member, it hurts the same. I waited 5 years until I got another cat. But, I never could bond to it, as I felt guilty to the one I loved so much. Well, resently we adopted another kitty, and it's wonderful. But, there are times, I still miss that one special one. Good luck and God bless you. Go at your own pase, and don't let people confuse how you feel.
@Metallion (2227)
• United States
26 Nov 06
You can't tell anybody else how to grieve but I think that one year is more for a relative, but if you were very close to your pet it could take that long.
@soldenski (2503)
• United States
26 Nov 06
My aunt had to put her dog to sleep 3 months ago, we all went through the pain of losing Ivy. My son till this day still cries for her. :(
@supunpw (574)
• Sri Lanka
5 Dec 06
I also lik to pet iam sorry for your think
• Philippines
5 Dec 06
i'm sorry for your loss... you must really having a hard time moving on without your pet... i don't ever think it's wrong grieving for a pet.. cause a pet is also a friend and a loss friend deserves grieving from their loved ones.. but don't worry too much, i know your friend is happy in heaven now together with your father =)