Is it possible to be inlove to a person whom you met over the net?
By jharia20
@jharia20 (365)
Philippines
October 27, 2010 10:30am CST
Here is the situation, you are just chatting and making some friends when a consistent chatter always chat with you everyday. You always miss him and you even cared for him, is it possible to fell in love with him?
As for me yes, but be careful real world is different from cyber world. Just be sure that he is nice and will not do anything bad to you :) Love is the most unpredictable thing..be careful..
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43 responses
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
27 Oct 10
Yes, it is possible. It has happened to me.
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@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
28 Oct 10
Thanks. We've been together for 7 years, we've been living together for over 4 years, we've been married for over 2 years.
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@lionheartguru (208)
• India
27 Oct 10
Yes , it is possible . I have not been in love , but have been hooked once. It was a fairly long hook which lasted for 3 months !
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@Bluebelleangel (428)
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
Hello Jharia,
Nowadays, there are no impossibilities when it comes to love. But to fall in love to a cyber friend without having met the person in real life is quite risky. I still believe that you need to be on your guard when it comes to this types of relationships. Though I wouldn't say it is always dangerous, it would be something to think about first. There are a lot of people in the cyberspace who are honest to goodness people but there are those who are scammers and a lot had fallen victims to those. I just think that it is better that one should know the real personality of that person first before one ever tries to get involved into such a relationship. It is better safe that sorry. Just my thought.
Have a nice day!
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
27 Oct 10
Absolutely it is possible. Think about it for a minute when we meet people for the first time off-line, per say a grocery store, library, church or bar, how do we know that person is on the straight narrow and or on the up and up.
Sure you have to be more a bit more cautious online as you do not know who is behind the screen but why would that person not have the same chance as anyone else. I have not used online dating, but I am a good person so what is to say there are not many others like me.
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@kjones505 (271)
• United States
27 Oct 10
No, its not possible to love someone over the internet. And its very dangerous to get close to someone you met over the internet (especially if you are a man).
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@RebeccaScarlett (2532)
• Canada
28 Oct 10
I think it is risky for both genders. There are men out there who will try to get women alone to rape them, and women out there who will try to find rich men just for money, or American men just to get Visas, then one day her papers come in the mail and when you get home she is gone without a trace.
As a woman who used the internet to meet people, with the intention of pursuing a traditional relationship (not phone calls and cams) I always had the first few dates in public places and was very careful. Also, I only talked to locals, because I need to see the person I'm dating frequently!
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
2 Nov 10
This has actually happened to me. I used to chat in chat rooms all the time, and I started talking to a woman who was from Kuwait. We chatted and emailed for a little while, then we started communicating by telephone as well. We were honest with each other about everything in our lives, and our feeling for each other continued to grow. We wanted to get married, but being the immature idiot that I was at the time, I screwed things up. Otherwise, I would have married her...
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
2 Nov 10
yeah I am sorry I screwed things up with her. She would have made a good wife...
@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
31 Oct 10
I think it is possible. I am a die hard romantic so all this stuff seems very possible to me. I have fallen several times for guys online. Only problem is that they all seems to have some problem. Doesn't stop me from thinking it can happen and be good and lasting though.
@celticeagle (165954)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Nov 10
Well, try to keep your eyes out of the stars. Be realistic.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
There maybe a possibilities that you fell in love with the guy or the girl. But sometimes our perception is not always real. You need to examine carefully about that feeling to make sure this is a kind of love or a kind of appreciation only
@Memnon (2170)
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31 Oct 10
It's not happened to me, but obviously you are an example to prove that this can. With all the horror stories that have surfaced, I am surprised that anyone takes that risk any longer!
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
31 Oct 10
memnon sometimes people fall in love online but saw the person first in cam^^ or talked for a long time like many hours^^ or know someone from his family too^^ me and my bf for example^^ we know each other since a year already and i just became his gf since a month and few days^^ i also talk with his sister^^ even we are far away we know already each other well^^ i saw his nephew one time for example^^ he put in his profile that im his gf and he has family members and his friends from his city added there^^ so i completely trust him and im not afraid to meet him near^^ those scary things happen when you go meet someone without see the person in cam, without be sure of his feelings for you. but that isnt my case^^ so isnt always risky to meet in person someone you met online^^ there are people that found good real friends that started to talk with them online^^ and also some that found their love too and married^^ so this just depends of how you do things^^ but sure if you want to meet in person someone you met online you need to know this person well first^^
@RebeccaScarlett (2532)
• Canada
27 Oct 10
Well, it has never happened to me, but I know people who say it has happened to them. You need to be careful though, because you are falling in love with what they are typing. They could be exaggerating, hiding flaws, or just outright lying, and it would be like falling in love with a fictional character in a book. I suppose you could mentally love someone online, but physical chemistry will only be apparent in person.
@RebeccaScarlett (2532)
• Canada
28 Oct 10
I'm so glad that it worked out for you. My "Mr. Right" and I are enjoying some family time with our precious baby girl. We were born and raised in the same city, but might never have met if it weren't for the internet.
@craigy123456789 (1759)
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28 Oct 10
i think that it is possible but there are a load of creeps out there so best to be careful
@craigy123456789 (1759)
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2 Nov 10
it is a shame for those who can't find love withh someone close to where they live, but could find it on the internet only for them to be a creep or not genuine, there are some genuine people out there but the others just make it hard for people who are looking to find someone decent
@Luna_James (47)
• Philippines
27 Oct 10
Yes, it is possible.
I really met my boyfriend over at a social networking site "friendster". I don't know how he found my profile since we don't have any friends in common. After that we started chatting. We met online. Then me started texting and in just a week he always call me. Every morning, during his available time and my available time as well, and before we sleep. Months came and we became lovers. Until now we are still sweethearts and so madly in love with each other for 2years already. That's our story. We had seen each other personally a couple of times. Thanks to his father who always like me to be at their home even just for a vacation. ^.^
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
that is really an inspiring story! well it is good that you are in the same country. It's kinda hard to me that mine lives far away from me. anyway, we have plans of meeting up next year. He will visit me in my country and plans to settle down here. i wish you all the best.
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@hellosunset (38)
• Romania
27 Oct 10
I don`t think is possible. You don`t know what type of person is. Over the internet everyoane can lie.
@sassybratky (872)
• United States
30 Oct 10
Yes, it is very possible. Me and my husband just celebrated your 11th wedding anniversary Friday Oct. 29th. We met online, It has had it's ups and downs, but overall we have lived a nice comfortable happy life together. Online relationships develop faster on an emotional facet then physical one, because you do tend to be sharing yourself emotionally with people you chat with online. Just be careful out there, a lot of bad apples mixed in with the good ones.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
29 Oct 10
I guess love can happen anywhere even online! Sure we do have to take care because it is so easy to disguise one’s true identity while sitting behind a computer but if we take the necessary precautions such as never meeting anyone new unless it is a crowded public place we could possibly meet the person for us, why not? I know several people it has happened to!
@strawberrybaby39 (2086)
• United States
29 Oct 10
Yes I believe there can be love for someone on the net. I met someone on the net and I have been married to him for 4 years. But I am not saying that it is always safe to meet someone in person from the net. There are some nice people and there is some not so nice ones.
@mauie0918 (337)
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
It's not a new story! There are people and still having this style of meeting someone via net and falling in love without any attachment at all. I don't know but some are lucky and some are not!
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
31 Oct 10
yes is possible^^ like you already know my story me and my bf live very far away^^ we live in different continents^^ we are very different also what makes problems in our relationship^^ for me he is my priority^^ i always have time for him^^ i do all to show that i love him^^ he isnt as showy as me but i could see that he loved me^^ he loved me for a year but i never gave him a chance. i loved other guys bcs he never had time for me and other guys did^^ thats why i didnt
fall for him before. but then now since a month and few days i fell for him and decided to accept him^^ things were great in the beginning^^ he had time for me and all^^ but now lately he is always busy. not just lately. in a few time of us being together he started to be busy but then dedicated time to me and i forgot all. he made promises and ended not doing as he promised and i understood bcs he was busy. but to have a good long distance relationship we need to dedicate time
to this person. if you are far thats a problem already. so if you dont have time to give to this person the relation or will end or will make someone unhappy. like me im not happy now. i just wanted that he saw that i love him and do always all for him. i just wanted that he did the same for me. i love him really and im working to go and see him mostly. so yes i agree with you when you say for us to
be careful. like me now that i fell for him if things end i will get hurt. after so much that i did for him anyway if you fall for a guy online let him be the one caring the most always^^ so you wont get hurt like me^^ for now i wont give so much of myself to him unless he does that first to me^^ wish you the best^^
@amelialsc (162)
• Malaysia
1 Nov 10
love come when you have faith. Love comes in many ways. I have many friends that met with their partner through the net. I could be in this situation too looking at where we started. It was also through MSN, although we have already met real life. In all circumstances, do becarefully not to be cheated, as there is also many cases reported as such.