How do you feel about people getting engaged in their teens?
@lilblondiemjd (857)
United States
October 27, 2010 4:03pm CST
We've all been teenagers before, and when you're that age, you feel like your life is as serious as it's going to get, and even the most minuscule problems seem like big mountains to climb over. When I was that age, I had certain friends who talked about marriage at the young age of 16. Since we were young, I would think they were serious and be happy for them, and what not. Now that I'm in my twenties, I look at young kids becoming engaged, and I almost laugh it off. That sounds so awful, but I cannot help it, since now that I'm older, they seem so young! Isn't it funny how age determines how you look at things from a different perspective? Then again, I also have a part of me who thinks they may be serious, for I have friends who have been dating since they were around 14 or 15. How do you feel about young teens becoming engaged? Do you even take it seriously?
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@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
27 Oct 10
i have to be honest, i don't like and i don't understand young marriages.
first off, getting married to young can lead to a number of problems.
for example a teenager getting married at 17 or 18 years old.
they don't completely know theirselves.
and when something comes around a looks better, they/some will cheat.
don't quote me on this but i've heard young marriage fail in a few month or years.
for that reason. i want to develop and know my spouse better before we get married.
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@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
27 Oct 10
I always thought teens who took their social lives so seriously were just plain stupid. I would laugh openly at classmates who made such absurd claims. I think minors getting engaged is just utterly absurd. I really don't think kids should be getting married the minute they turn 18, either. I think 21 is the absolute youngest that you can genuinely have any idea what you're doing and even then it's rare.
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
28 Oct 10
Thanks so much!
I think the downfall of most marriage-minded teenagers is that they think getting married ensures a fairy tale ending when marriage doesn't actually ensure anything. You should be happy, compatible and confident in the foundation of your commitment, you shouldn't need to be married to "prove" your love or to feel validated or somehow keep your partner from ever leaving you. That's not what marriage is.
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
they say i have the right age to get married and have kids but i don't see myself being tied yet, not even thinking about it. well i thinking about kids lately but not marriage.
i still have a lot of things to do alone. and i guess i still have a lot of things to learn before getting into that situation.
i would love to have a family but not now for sure.
@apoljuice1 (730)
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
Thankfully I never felt wanting to get married at such a young age. In fact, I didn't want to get married even when my then-boyfriend (hubby now, finally 
) and I had our first child.
I don't know what to think about teenagers wanting to get married for at such an early age. I've never spoken to anyone who wants to get married at such an early age. I can understand planning to get married to each other when they reach say 25, or when they graduate highschool or something.
Either they really want to hang onto this guy, or they just don't know what they're getting themselves into.
) and I had our first child.
I don't know what to think about teenagers wanting to get married for at such an early age. I've never spoken to anyone who wants to get married at such an early age. I can understand planning to get married to each other when they reach say 25, or when they graduate highschool or something.
Either they really want to hang onto this guy, or they just don't know what they're getting themselves into. 
@Krizz420canada (531)
• Canada
28 Oct 10
I have to honestly say they are making a very bad discussion. Although not all teenage marriages fail probably over 90 percent do. I think a teenager is still to young and not experienced enough to make a decision like that. It's crazy we have babies have babies nowadays and kids marrying kids.
@freakei (43)
• Philippines
19 Nov 10
I think it depends on their level of maturity. Some get engaged during the infatuation stage and if they're not mature enough, it wouldn't last. But there are some people who mature young and are able to make responsible decisions early on.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
28 Oct 10
Teens are a bit too young to have commitment of an engagement. they need to experience more of the world and life before making such a decision for the future.
@xenachinah30 (597)
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
hI,
Yeah,that is a little funny at the same time really not good for young people.Here in my country i know some teenegers marry during 18 years old and get pregnant only 16 years old so they cant finish college or even high school.There are some celebrities here married in an early age but after few years or only 1 year seperated.Being engaged and married at the very young age because it will only end up seperating or divorce because they were too young and when they finally realized they dont want to be tied up early then that is the problem.
@ecoLogic (1)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
28 Oct 10
I can't see how that marriage could work.. It's kinda stupid to get engage to someone that you know for a few months. I'm 19 now and I'm not even thinking about getting married just because I have a lot things I want to check before I'm with that one person for all my life.
And you can't take them really seriusly when they are in 2months of knowing eachother like this: " Ohhh, I'm so in love with you, You are my everything, I'll die without you, etc." I think they don't really know what love is, so it's inpossible for that relationship to last.
