Being cool with your Ex

@beeh13u (1037)
Philippines
October 27, 2010 9:10pm CST
I am listening to Gwen Stefani's song "cool". It's really hard to remember how it felt from you previous relationship, if you have someone new in your life. But how long will you talk or be friends with your Exs? I want to know because it's only been 2 weeks since my ex left me. Any experience to share?
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@snowy22315 (180703)
• United States
28 Oct 10
I usually stay friends with my exs for awhile, but eventually one or the other of us gives up the friendhsip. I will always be friends with my ex husband though, because he is one helpful guy, and to be honest, I did him wrong.
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@beeh13u (1037)
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
I don't know if I'll keep in touch with an ex-husband, but an ex-boyfriend is OK. I think it is hard to be friends with an ex-husband because it is a really big promise that it needs to be committed to.
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@jharia20 (365)
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
I hate dealing with ex. But i think even though that person is your ex i think you must be friend to him.why?i don't know joke! maybe because you have a really good time together and don't throw that memories even you have other partners already.
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@beeh13u (1037)
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
It's hard for now to consider him as a friend. Because if we are friends now, I am just pretending to be one because I want to be his lover. How long have you talked to your ex? Too bad, good memories were wasted. :(
@beeh13u (1037)
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
yeah. That is what I am doing. He said that he need some space because I am hurting him everyday, :(
@jharia20 (365)
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
You must be friend with him when you doesn't have any feelings for him, but if you do just stay away from him and let the wound heal first :)
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@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
28 Oct 10
It depends on the situation. If I had children with my ex I would be 'cool' with them for life. It is important that children have two responsible parents that can handle any situation in a mature manner. If it were an ex that I have no children with I would be 'cool' with them but I wouldn't find reasons to communicate with them unless we decided that we would part as friends. If this were the case and we could truly just be friends that would be great.
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@beeh13u (1037)
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
I'll do the same too. If we don't have a child, I wont get in touch with him. But sometimes its nice being friends. Time really heals wounded heart and I wonder how long it will take to repair the friendship.
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28 Oct 10
I have one ex which in the past hurt me much. But i still care for him as a friend. Every time we saw each other we talked as if there's nothing happen to us before.We've been friend before we had a relationship. And it keeps me smile every time i remember it.
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@beeh13u (1037)
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
Wow. but isn't it sad that in the end, you're only meant to be friends? I try hard for our relationship to work out because I believe that we belong together. He was like my other half, my long lost conscience. I really miss him.
@pjnjclyn (176)
• Newton, New Jersey
28 Oct 10
There are some that I would still talk to and there are a couple that I would be friends with. It would depend on the reason the relationship did not work out and what went on. Some people just know they are not right and move other and there are other times when there are hateful things done. Bottom line every relationship is different so go with your heart
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@beeh13u (1037)
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
Yeah, it depends on the reason and how things ended. Mine was a sad ending. We can still be friends but maybe 3-4 years from now. The pain is still fresh and I know I still love him. But I am trying to move on. I am excited that maybe in the future, we can be best friends.
• United States
28 Oct 10
My ex-boyfriend that I dated and was in a relationship for a year and three months, we stopped talking afterward. I dated around .. didn't last long with some other guys and then I met a guy that I dated and currently am dating for 4 years.. I didn't talk to my ex until maybe 3 years later after we broke up just because that was the best thing to do. He still has feelings for me and has never dated but I have no feelings for him what so ever. I just talk to him as a friend. It depends how long you two have been dating and what is there to talk about? It's hard to talk about things..
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@beeh13u (1037)
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
That is sad. I know what your Ex is feeling. I still mine, but he doesn't love me. He is dating other people right now. It hurts so much. I can't date other people because I still love him. But I am wasting my youth. I hope someday , I'll get over him.