Is 22 too young to get married?

United States
October 28, 2010 9:10pm CST
Hey everyone I am 22 years old and about to get married. Me and my fiance haven't been together for a really long time, but I know he is the one I wanna spend my life with. There have been some saying I am too young to get married or I am an idiot for doing it. What do y'all think? Thanks, CeeCee :o)
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31 responses
@tonyllenium (6252)
• Italy
29 Oct 10
in my opinion yes!!Such as 22 years old is too young to get married in general..so norally is better wait a bit more and understand if it is really the case to think about marrigae or not!!I think that in the majority of cases people really young marry and afterthat they search for divorce..so it is better wait a bit more than 22 years...
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• Malappuram, India
29 Oct 10
iam of the opinion that both the people involved, that is, the boy and the girl should wait for at least 1 year before they marry. they should first get to know each other more. they would just have talked for couple of hours, that doesn't prepare them for the things they will have to face in their married life, so i think both should know each other more before they come to a hasty decision.
• India
29 Oct 10
I agree to u that both people should know each other well before getting married. Marriage is for entire life and u cannot take a hasty decision on this, otherwise bad consequences might happen.
• United States
29 Oct 10
I think it's a far greater concern that yo haven't been together very long than that you're 22 years old. How long have you been together? Why do you feel the need to rush into marriage? Why did you start this discussion?
• United States
29 Oct 10
Why do you feel you're ready for marriage? How long have you been together?
• United States
29 Oct 10
I started it because some people have said they thought I was too young, and I wanted to get opinions from complete strangers. I know I am ready for marriage I just wanted to see what others would say. Thanks for your comment anyway :o)
1 Dec 10
Since you two stay together not a long time. How could you tell the man is the person you want to spend the rest life with. How could tell?? Oh, maybe he just feel fresh with you, maybe he hid all bad habits when with you. Do you really have faith in him?? no offense, just want you see it more clealy and think twice befoe doing. How could say.
• Philippines
17 Dec 10
Your 22 your not young but you still have time to think about it, first you concern is about the future, are you mentality, physical and financially stable? ask your self if your ready to face the problem.
@DoctorDidi (7018)
• India
16 Dec 10
Not too young as the ideal age for being a mother is 25-26 years. But you can easily wait for 2-3 years if possible.
@beeh13u (1037)
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
Wow. For me, it's still young. My friend who is still 20 got married last Saturday. I just knew about it yesterday. I was completely shocked by the news. She is still young. I am 20 also and I still don't have a plan to get married. According to Erik Erikson, Young adults are in the stage of Intimacy vs. Isolation. A lot of us in this stage are thinking of marrying. So, it is normal. We are driven by our own human instincts. So I don't know if it is true love or just the stage of human development. I've read about something in the article that you'll find true love after 30. But I don't mean that what you're doing is wrong.
• United States
29 Oct 10
Ok well i am 19...and am soon to be married also. You now what i say i say you do what feels right to you and the hell with what other people think. People also think im dumb for getting married at 19...it is young but im very mature for my age i have 2 children && he has 3 so i believe in my heart divorce will never come for us...but hey if it does i dont think it will have anything to do with the age i married at...&& the same goes for you. What does age have to do with marriage? Just because your 22 does that mean you will get a divorce? No...i would say go for it from a young soon to be married women to another :)) goodluck!
• United States
30 Oct 10
Thanks iloveyou1. I don't think age has to do with anything but some people apparently do thats why i posted this. I too am very mature and know exactly what I want out of life and I doubt divorce will come for us, but who can tell the future. We live, we learn, and we grow is what I believe. Good luck to you too! :o)
@Lance26 (956)
• Philippines
17 Dec 10
My mom & dad were married at the age of 18 & 20 respectively. If you look at it mom is 4 years younger than you are when they both decided to tie the knot. Base on what they have gone through I could say early marriage never been an issue as they are both mature and responsible. But then again marriage today is totally different, many of my friends' including my own sister's married life was nothing but a disaster. They never planned beforehand, they were all blinded that love would be enough. On the other hand if you are financially stable, if you think you can deal with eachother's weaknesses, have a strong faith and above all bonded by love then go on.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
1 Dec 10
Hi ceecee, For a girl 22 year is not too early and I think that is the right age to get marry. There is no need to listen all others. You are going to marry so be prepare for the same mentally. Try to know more about your fiancé and his family. Good luck to you.
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
30 Oct 10
i think it is. hehehe.. i was in the middle of partying and drinking during at that age and never did the word marriage came in to my head. i'm years older now, thinking about marriage but not totally involved with it. i can only think about it becuase of people telling me that i have the right age to get involved.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
30 Oct 10
The right age for marriage depends on each individual. Are both of you mature enough? Have you discussed the important things in a marriage; finances, children (how many, when? How will you discipline then?)religion, where will you live, what would you do if one of you gets transferred to another city or state? I married at age 20. We celebrated our 55th anniversary this year.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
29 Nov 10
Young, or adults can not be measured from age. The mindset of someone that determines one's level of maturity. Age 22 is not too young, if you are an adult mindset. If you feel ready, age 22 is not too young.
• Portugal
29 Oct 10
no^^ 22 is a good age to get married^^ isnt idiot. if you feel that he is the right guy for you do that^^ if you miss the chance to be happy with guy you love then that would be a mistake^^ but marry him even if you are young is ok^^ if he asked you to marry is bcs loves you^^ and if you love him too just focus on that^^ care for feelings that you both have for each other^^ dont care for what others say^^ just say thanks for worry but i love him and he loves me and we want marry to be more time together^^ dont worry they will understand and support you^^ wish you the best^^
@asyria51 (2861)
• United States
29 Oct 10
i have been married 6 years. I was 23 when I got married. I do not think that it is too young.
• Philippines
30 Oct 10
For me your age is not too young but not old enough for the marriage.my typical idea of marriage will be around 25 to 35 years old.I am a single mom and never married but if im going to get married its ok for me now because im already 3o yrs old now.
@saqi78 (1402)
• Malaysia
29 Oct 10
No I dont thing that 22 year is too young, but in my mind this is excellent age to get marry, at this time you ll find more exciting relation with your husband. And what a combination that you were not with your fiancée for long time, this is again very good, I know you both ll enjoy life Wish you best life and go a head, dont waste your time upon thinking and taking any other advices...
@insulin (2479)
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
Well if you ask me 22 years old is totally fine as I don't wanna get married in the age of 30 as there are a lot of reasons I can give. There are of course disadvantages and advantages of marrying in early age. The disadvantage is,you will not enjoy or get satisfy in the 20's because your early married and do have limitations since you will have family to take care already and the advantage of getting marry early is,you are able to see how your soon to be children grow until they have their own family and that's a great feeling. I know someone from here who married at the age of 40 and regret marrying late since she can't have a baby anymore because she got menupause in early age. I will also say that no one can give you the decision.It will not depend in the age but it will depend on how both of you will handle the relationship to make it stronger forever till you get old.
@Hvaniday1 (550)
• Malaysia
29 Oct 10
Congratulation! Ceecee, are you too young or an idiot? I don't know. As far as I know, you are getting married not the 'some' getting married though. Some even getting married as young as 18yrs, am I right? The most important thing is how to get along with each other. What am I doing here??? My god!
@o0jopak0o (6394)
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
Well I think is still to young but I have friends that have married even younger than that.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
29 Oct 10
I don't think that 22 is too young to get married. You are of an adult age then. it all depends on the kind of person you are when deciding to get married. Marriage isn't right for everyone at the same age. Some can handle it sooner while others are better off to wait.
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
Hi ceecee1217, It's not about your age. I's about your maturity. Have asked your self if you're ready to do the duties of a wife like your mom do to your dad? Are ready to bear children soon at a very young age? Are willing to let go of those things that you enjoy now that you are not married yet? Do you think you have had enough enjoyment a girl like you must enjoy and experience? There are lots of questions you have to answer to your self first. If you think your answer are all YES, then you aren't young to get married. Only that you have to bear in mind that marriage is not just a food that when it's hot you cold simply spit. If you would allow me to make a suggestion, why not make your relation grow until it matures or until the time is ripe for marriage. Give yourselves a chance to get to know each other more deeper. You are still young and if your relationship with wouldn't work, you still have so much time to get over it and start with someone else. (I don't suggest, you should find someone else, ok?) Wha I want you to understand is that, it takes so much responsibilities that a girl like you shouldn't face yet. Enjoy being young dear. And it would be best if you enjoy being young, together. Good Luck! ^_^
• India
29 Oct 10
I think you should give some more time. It's too early to understand someone with whom we have to spend the rest of our lives. Before getting in to a sacred relationship like marriage, more than physically we should be mentally prepared to deal with all that new life has for us.