how do you go out of your comfort zones?
By cyrri_ako
@cyrri_ako (461)
Philippines
4 responses
@Aussies2007 (5336)
• Australia
29 Oct 10
I don't try to fit in.
I am who I am.
You either accept me as I am or you don't.
What I will do is, to strike a conversation with everyone to see what sort of people they are. And this will permit me to find out real quickly with who I will get along and with who I won't.
From then, I will know who I can treat in a casual friendly manner, and who I must only interact with in a work related manner.
It is not a matter of deciding who I like and who I dislike. It is a matter to respect everyone for who they are and not try to change them to fit with you. There is no point in judging people because their ideas are different from yours. You simply work with them. You don't have to live with them.
@cyrri_ako (461)
• Philippines
30 Oct 10
totally agree with you. somehow, we have similarities in this aspect. i dont really care if they would like me or not though i know it would be hard to work with people if you dont get along well with them....
@jypsyjulia (912)
• United States
29 Oct 10
I think there has to be a certain level of detachment in the beginning, so that if you are rejected, you can be apathetic toward it. This is my strategy at least, albeit it may not be a healthy one. Once I feel accepted, I then start to let the walls down, so to speak. Then you can rely on them to be your friends and so on. But getting out of the comfort zone is really hard.
@joey_matthews (8354)
•
29 Oct 10
I find it hard to get out of my comfort zone, its easy to go out places but i hate going to busy places like shopping centres especially around. I don't mind going into town for abit but i will soon try to get out of the busiest areas because of the pushy people and ignorance of lots of them too... especially towards busy times of the year like christmas.
@ann_martel (63)
• Philippines
30 Oct 10
I don't consider reaching out to people as going out of my comfort zone. i just try to be myself. I wasn't the friendliest person before but now I sort of learned how to talk to other people, start with small talk. In small talk, you observe and ask, without being obtrusive. It's easier said than done. My advice when meeting someone new: be more interested in the other person than yourself. Be attentive to his or her needs (nod or laugh accordingly). Be yourself, and be humble. sometimes, you don't have to fit in. when you treat others right, you create the circle yourself.
