is it love?
By Ashlymm03
@Ashlymm03 (77)
United States
October 29, 2010 3:47pm CST
OK ive been dating a guy or 7 months.. yes we wher on and off... But He tattooed my name on his body... he put a ring on my finger he did everything a girl always wanted in a guy... But last week.. He just up and left me... For another girl... we both made promises that we tend to keep.. I dont drink and smoke.. Neither does he.. Im not a party girl.. But he is... How the heck do u kno if he is realy happy without u?.. i cant eat cant sleep cant do anything without him running acorss my mind... I even might be prego with his baby but he says he wants nothing to do with it.... He is 21 years old.. IM 19... I cant do this on my own i just really really wish he was here to help me.. I miss the boy that would hold me at night and whisper in my ear how much he loves me.. I dont get that.. all i get is mean texts and e-mails tellin me to leave him alone.. Well i stopped writing to him.. I showed no intrest in him.. than a few days after he writes to me saying all do respect i removed u outa my life for good i deleted ever picture and i covered ur name up..... HOw do girls get over stuff like this? I was his first in everything.. I loved this boy soo freakign much and now i have to pretnd im ok when im not... Its like a hole in my heart and i have nothing to do but help it heal... theres nothing anyone can do... Like i ahve guys at my door steps with flowers saying o ill be different and O ill treat u better i wont ever leave u.. But i shut them all down.. Cuz i only want HIM* and its like i cant ever have him again.. hes sleepin next to a girl now.. every nite holding her.. whil i cuddle up to a stuffed animal... is that bad that i cant let go?... I stopped talking to him.. i told him i cant do the head games.. and for him to say hes not going to help our baby out... Thats just wrong it really is.. I honestly dont know what i should do.. Its like.. killing me inside. i ahve to do whats best for this baby.. and me... I dont want any guy coming into my life at all for a while... I wanna be the best mom alive.. and be the Single mom.. but i would like some help here and there... u kno to take turns getting up at night.. someon to hold me and say everything is all right... qwhen its not.. Im not going to b able to have a life now.. My baby will be my life.. like ya my fmaily said they will all be there to help me when i need it.. and all.. But why wont he take Responablitys for the actions hes cuased? u cant just abbaoned a baby... U honesdtly cant.. I dont care if hes in muy life.. I would like it for him to be in our babys life tho.. its just not far to it.. u kno?.. Someone help me out here.. please! im dying for advice.. I cant move on.. but i will for my babys sake... I just wish.. ah forget about wishing.. Just girls becareful with the ones U LOVE cuz their love dies over a night...=[
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6 responses
@pogi253 (1596)
• Philippines
30 Oct 10
When people get into relationships, there is always the possibility that things will ultimately not work out. Unfortunately, after some period of time together, individuals in a couple can become increasingly convinced that their partners will never leave them due to the immense amount of love that they share with one another. As a result, being dumped by the one you love can have extremely detrimental emotional effects on a person.If you have been dumped by your partner, it is important to remain realistic about the situation. The fact that your partner has decided that he no longer wants to be in a relationship with you does not necessarily mean that there is anything wrong with you. It does, however, mean that your partner has decided that for whatever reason, a relationship between you two is not meant to be. Therefore, it is important to keep in mind that regardless of how much you care about or love your partner (or vice versa), if he does not want to be with you, why would you want to be with them? The bottom line is that you deserve someone who wants to be with you as equally as you want to be with them. So, kick your belief that your partner is confused or frustrated with one element of your personality that you feel you could change. If he wanted to be with you, he would be with you and if he has dumped you, it is pretty clear that this is not the case.
@eelennah (82)
• Philippines
30 Oct 10
you said you were his first in almost everything, so i would assume that he was the who has broken your cherry. well, i guess you did not know him much. it might be that what he was after in the first place was your virginity. have you ever thought of that? coz really, if he truly loves you, he wouldn't leave you after knowing that you two are having a baby. he is just so irresponsible enough to ignore you and the baby. i think he believes that he is too young of having a family and maybe he just wanted to enjoy his being single first. you got the wrong man there. since he was your first, you couldn't get over it just easily. so, all you have to do is be with your family and friends. as much as possible try not to think of him and just engross yourself to the people around you. pray always to God that He may help you get over that guy and that He may give you the strength to go on with your life. don't revolve around a guy who is not right for you. just think of your baby always. do be too depressed for it would affect your baby's health. i bet you don't want your baby to be harmed so quit thinking of that guy and stay strong. you can do it! every one does.. Good luck to you and your baby. i know it's never easy so just take every step slowly. in time, you will forget about that guy and live your life happily and perhaps meet the guy who would love you truly and unconditionally. i know that one day, that guy will realize what he has done and probably regret it.
@Laurelle11 (409)
• Australia
29 Oct 10
Hi Ashlymm, I'm sorry to say this but it doesn't sound like he could have meant anything he ever said to you and it is more than likely that he was only infatuated with you. While your feelings may be genuine, he is not worth any tears you may shed. He is scum and you and your baby will be better off without him. Women have been raising kids on their own for a long time and if he feels that way it is better to be without him than with him because you would only feel his resentment and be worse for it. True love does not die that quick. I realise you may not think so now but in the end the one you are meant to be with will come and you will be happy in the end. If it is any help at all you need to remember that bad karma is always reflected back on a person 10x worse so in the end he is going to suffer more than you and he will deserve it. Best wishes.
@devijay78 (1573)
• India
29 Oct 10
That is a very bad situation to be in. It is a tough time sweetie. It will get better though. You will become a stronger person and you will have to learn from the pain and the emptiness that when things go wrong, you still have to go on. No amount of thinking otherwise is going to help. So don't loose heart. But you have your baby with you and that is something which you should never give up. Take life as a challenge and live it. And believe me, you would come out stronger and more mature. Everyone at some point or the other would have gone through betrayal and it hurts like hell. But you will get over it. Don't worry. I too had my daughter with me throughout and she was the reason I changed myself and now my life is much better. Children are a great source of strength and never give your baby up for anything or anybody. Just see to it that you make him pay for the baby's upkeep. And get yourself a job if you don't have one yet.
@Krizz420canada (531)
• Canada
29 Oct 10
So sorry to hear about your situation but we all at one time have been there. Your right it hurts and will be hard but in the long run that will make you a better and stronger person for it. Also as for the guy, well if has now left you with the baby and says he wants nothing to d with it, well tell him thats fine but he will be paying child support for the next 18-20 years weather he does or not. There's not much anyone can tell you to feel better because everyone handles things differently but hang in there because if you are pregnant and have the baby trust me you won't have anytime to think about the chump again. Hang in and be strong things are bound to get a little easier.
