Do You Bite Your Tongue?
By vjenkins86
@vjenkins86 (1478)
United States
October 30, 2010 1:46pm CST
Yesterday, I was flat out accused by my great aunt that I don't like her and that I've been practically plotting against her just because I frowned at something she said.
Here's the scenario: my mom and I went over to my great aunt's house to take her to the bank and we were asking her if she had enough money. When I began asking her a question, she bulldozed over my question and practically ignored me so I frowned. I guess that frown sparked her anger because she began spewing out how the family is against her and that she prays that she could just die in that house alone. Then she began accusing me of not liking her and not liking the fact that my mom comes over to help her. Mind you, she is making these accusations about me to my mom while I am sitting right there in front of her. She doesn't look at me or speak to me.
I wanted so badly to tell her to talk to me about her crazy notions and to come to me if she thinks we have a problem. But I knew at that state, there was no talking to her sensibly so I held my tongue and sat through it all. A part of me wished that I did speak up and said exactly what was on my mind, that her paranoia is going overboard. Yet I know that it would not have done any good unfortunately.
I just want to scream.
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4 responses
@ceecee1217 (122)
• United States
30 Oct 10
Depending on the age of your great aunt she could be getting dementia and thinks everyone is out to get her and is just confused. Or she is just crazy. I'm not one to hold my tongue and I have a couple family members that I don't talk to because they got offended that I am opinionated. It's ok though I have a VERY large family. one or two insecure people lost doesn't hurt my feelings. I know it may sound so wrong but I just don't take peoples crap and don't let people walk all over me. I have a very tough skin now after all the things I've been through and some people are offended by it. But you just have to have a back bone no matter who it is towards. :o)
@vjenkins86 (1478)
• United States
30 Oct 10
I'm hoping its just dementia because at least then there will be a reason that I can understand for her actions, but I also know that her personality lends herself to her aggravating behavior.
She's in her early 80s and for decades she has had used guilt to get the family to do things for her. I'm very close to just washing my hands of her, but she's family. I'm not really hurt with what she said about me but I would rather she would confront me with her paranoid accusations rather than talk about me like I don't exist. Oh well.
Maybe I should learn from you and become a little bit more opinionated and have a stronger backbone.
Happy mylotting
@Killer1VN (44)
• Vietnam
30 Oct 10
Haha funny. Im drinking with my friends. She's eating snack and bite her tounge, right when i ask her : " Did u bite your tongue? " I open and see this topic. Haha so damn funny. Oh dear my stomach hurt so much.
@vjenkins86 (1478)
• United States
30 Oct 10
Hahaha... that is funny and ironic. I love it when things like that happens- those just odd coincidences. lol.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
4 Apr 11
Hi, vjenkins. I know how you are feeling. There are many people that I have bitten my tongue for. And in the end, I will regret it too. I wished that I had to say something to them because as I replay my episode of argument with them, I regretted not speaking my mind to them. But that is alright, there is always going to be a next time. Maybe not with them, but with someone else. Sometimes, I bite my tongue and sometimes I don't. If your grandaunt feels like this, then she will have to find out the truth. I am sorry that she thinks all of these bad things about you too. Your grandaunt said some awful things and it is sad that she feels this way too.
@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
19 Feb 20
I can understand. Such people are always so hard to deal with