How do you handle making important decisions?

hello mayrah! i have committed blatant mistakes in the past because of hasty and unresearched decisions. I never want to do commit another again if i can help it that's why when i do need to make an important decision, i really set aside quality time to ponder the pros and cons of my decisions. It pays to request the advice of those who had been there and those older than you like your parents and older members of the family but we should always bear in mind that with the same situation, there can never be the same outcome when it comes to situations in life. That's because each people is unique, we have different characteristics and attitudes which affect the outcome of a similar situation. One hard lesson i learned from the past, when you do have to make an important decision concerning your life, listen to advices, but don't take their word for it. I mean, you should formulate your own, assimilate all that you have learned from all advices and never let your decision be based on what others will say or feel. It is your life, and it is yours to make. Other affected members of the family may resent this at first but in the long run, they will understand that you have to make it, based on your own perception, not on theirs. You are the one making your own life, not other people. It would be easy for them to say things because they're not the one in the situation. However, one word of advice, if it comes to a situation where your family is really against what you wish for, try also to think with their point of view in mind. Maybe they have a point or maybe not. But do try to give it a shot by thinking over their advices, don't completely disregard it just because you wish to make your own decision. Sometimes, it pays to listen, and listen well.

In my opinion before taking a discussion we have to ask to God. Pray to God and He will open the door for you. After the prayer discuss the subject with your relatives and close friends. Certainly, they will help you to take the correct decision. But if you have confidence in a particular matter and you think that the decision which you have taken is 100% correct, no need to hear the third parties opinion.

Of course i plan when i am ready to take a desicion. But the most times i dont have a strategy that cant be described. I just choose beyond my options the one that i like most and is more prospective for the future.

Failure to make a decision is actually a decision by itself, hence "decision by indecision". I've done this.. And it has caused some bits of problematic issues later on (by ignoring issues instead of confronting them). How do I make decisions? I have a hard time making decisions in general, but I try to weigh out the pros and cons of each option to see which one is generally better. I don't know if that makes sense. lol.

I think setting your goals and your priorities; decisions minor or major should be based on these. Right or wrong, if you think you made a mistake, the best part is learning from it.. learn to admit with less regret as often as possible... and i think the best guidance is always from Somebody Up There, just learn to humble yourself before Him and ask for wisdom before making any decision..

We go through life making one decision after another. We will never make the right decision 100% of the time. Planning is very important when making decisions. When we consider all possible elements of a problem and we make informed decisions, we usually don't have too many regrets. Regrets usually come from not making decisions at all. It is always good to ask those people that love you about their points of view or to gain different perspectives when your considering what decisions to make. But what is important to remember is that the decision is eventually yours to make. And one thing i will tell you out of experience, the decision to give up your dream because of outside influence or because it is not someone else's dream for you will almost always end up regretable. Our psychological development is all about preparing us to make lifes decisions. If we are psychologically fortified, we will make informed, mature, and responsible decisions. What ever you do, do not make the decision not to decide.

if i have an important decision to make, i put in as much thought to it as possible. I don't like to make important decisions on a whim. that's usually when i can become regretful.

It depends on the decision you're about to make and how wide its scope is. If it only involves myself then it only requires hard thinking but if it involves others as well then i might ask them for their opinion and may even ask them to help me decide since it involves them.

One of the things that most people never learn growing up, is how to make serious decisions. This is of course because there aren’t that many serious decisions to be made when growing up with parents around to make all the tough calls. You must write down all possible courses of action, put them in a table, then list the pros and cons of each. The idea behind this approach is something that is actually more than it seems; because while it appears the idea here is to help people conceptualize their problem, in reality what it does is help separate emotion from logic.

If i am taking any kind of decisions then i will think twice or thrice about the decision whether it is right or wrong, whether it will help to me or some one, whether it will effect me at any time? and moreover i use to ask or discuss with some one who is good in that particular things and who can give me a clear idea about it.

Acceptance is the most important key when making important decisions.We have to be realistic that someday we cannot owe someone or something.Life has been fruitful for us to learned and re learned.In my own life,as a good citizen and son of my parents,I must see to it and think trice or even more when making decision.I am working with whom I am involving to whether it will affects my life or others life.These decisions should benefits both myself or others self.

That is so true. Life is full of struggles. But I think struggles are one of the reasons why we become strong. Like a little baby. If our parents wouldn't make us stand though they know it would be difficult for us, we would never learn to stand on our own. Regarding if your decisions were against people you love, it really depends. It depends on who is right and who is wrong. Are you sure this is the right way? Even if everybody is against you and you know this is the right thing, even if they don't understand, just hope someday they see what difference that decision had made in you and they will see that you're right.