Phone Etiquette

My girlfriend's friends do that to me too. They call me after hours when they're drunk and tell me stuff very unrelated to us and then tell me about how cute we are together and then just saying she loves us both.

Phaedra_Scyte, Good day! It is Ok when your friend call you up early in the morning. It is nice of you to be polite to your friend's call even if it is 12:45 in the morning. Although he is drunk and keep on saying he loves you both. You might see it in another way, he subconsciously is trying to convey something to you. I do not get angry when someone tries to call and wake me up in the wee hours of the night. They may be calling me because of an emergency or may be due to the caller is calling from a different time zone or he just being a nuisance. In any case always be polite, anger will just rob you of sleep. You may be quite awake when you get mad. Politeness and phone etiqutte goes a long way. Keep it up. More power, Ferritic

This has happened to me on more than one occasion in the past. I usually stay friendly enough, but tend to say something like, "you're drunk! Phone me tomorrow when we can have an intelligent conversation. I am laughing when I say it so the caller doesn't get offended, but it works. If they don't hang up the first time, I repeat myself a little more forcefully. However, it doesn't happen these days because I have an answer-machine and it is turned on every night once 8 o'clock arrives. I can still hear who's calling and if it's an emergency I will pick up. If the caller goes on for a long time, I will turn the volume down. Usually the next day they cannot remember they called anyway! _Derek

It's rude, I need my sleep and I would have hung up. Only excuse to call that late is if it's an emergency.

I don't have a problem speaking my mind and if someone called me up that late and was drunk with no obvious emergency, I'd let them know how agitated I was and that they should call me when they are no longer drunk, preferrably when the sun is up. I would probably tell them that I would never call them if I had been drinking too much and would like the same courtesy in return. Chances are, I'd have to hang up on them since drunks don't usually hear what you have to say anyway. I have a friend who did that to me once. I have tried to make her understand that I need whatever sleep I can get since the more sleep I get the less I hurt the next day. (I have fibromyalgia so you know how that is, I'm sure.) She apparently didn't hear me or didn't care because she called me once at 2:00 a.m., just to tell me that she had added me to her "fave five" on her cell phone! She had programmed my phone number into her phone. That's all she had to say so why she felt she needed to tell me this at 2 a.m. is beyond me. She could have been drunk, she's been known to have a few too many a few too many times. Whether she was or not, I let her know that I had been sleeping and she woke me up. That didn't phase her and she kept on talking. So, I said, while she was still talking since she wouldn't shut up long enough for me to say anything, that I was going back to sleep and I'd talk to her in the morning after the sun was up, then I hung up the phone. After hanging up, I turned off the ringer so, if she tried to call back, I wouldn't be bothered by it. I really didn't care if she was hurt or insulted or whatever. She was very rude and inconsiderate for calling at that time in the morning and she needed to know it was unacceptable. Apparently, she did get the message because she hasn't done it since then.

Not since I was still in college! And that was already some years back. I couldn't believe that somebody still does this. But, I guess being drunk gets your concept of time mixed up, and we forget what year it is. And we think calling after getting wasted is still a great thing to do. Uggh! I hope you've caught up in your sleep.

No, but I have made it a point to turn off my mobile phone on friday and saturday night when I go to sleep - people tend to assume I am out and about and I get weird smses at 1 or 2 in the morning...

I don't think its polite to call any one thats late. At home we set rule not call thats late if not emergency. I think in thats hour people already sleep and will really annoying is someone wake up just for chat. I usually not pick up my cellphone in thats time and set it in silent mode.

Heh. All my friends do this. I think I have "drunken depression hotline" listed somewhere in a phone book next to my number. At least they call on my mobile, so I can turn it off if I really need to sleep. My female friends who have small children call me at 12 am for a chat, because they're trying to put their babies to sleep, and figure it's a good time to exchange recipes while they're at it. At least once a week one of them calls me at 2 am to tell me her child must be suffering from some life threatening disease (something that goes away by next morning). All my male friends go through some mid life crisis or something. They call at the weirdest hours (don't have to be at night, some can be perfectly smashed at lunch hour) to tell me how their marriage is going to pieces, how they've wasted their lives, how it's too late to achieve any of their goals, and about 500 other things - most of which I don't really understand. In most cases I put up with it. I don't sleep that much anyway :)

No, this never happened to me, but I have listened these stories from my friend. It is good to turn off your cell on sat and Sunday nights, this is wise idea...:)